it’s that ISTJ vs INFP energy for me #couple #couplegoals #love

[raem]

I'm an INFP engaged to an ISTJ this is pretty accurate! 😂
But how I choose to look at it is how my ISTJ partner believes that I can do better when I've always felt so stupid before I met him. It doesn't bother him whenever I make mistakes as long as I don't quit....so in away...even if this short looks hilariously stressful, I admire this harsh self-improvement side of ISTJs 😘

[koalaaaaaa]

Lol, that's exactly how i react to my childhood friend (istj) when he try to gave me advice, while i have a wild dream and adventure in my imagination😂

i'm infp

[Stayengenemoacaratsetter]

I am an INFP and I don’t think I could be with an ISTJ, that sounds stressful, overwhelming, and exhausting 😅

[darkredrose]

Spot on. And as an INFP I still can't comprehend why I've had romantic interest for an ISTJ man, we were day and night different. I felt 0 emotional fulfillment. They're great for bosses, sure, but as an INFPs partner? Nah... Funny thing, he got obsessed with me for 2 years, without us even properly dating. I don't understand 😂

[INFPinSA]

INFP male here married to ISTJ wife for 24 years. Yes we are still married, three kids, but I just can’t advise this combination for either an ISTJ female or an INFP male. I think it works fine in the beginning, but…it’s really the worst combination

[MiillieMesh]

As an INFP but a Libra this would be my match. I love the back n forth shit lmao

[wongxinhao]

ISTJs and INFPs are unlikely matches as ISTJs prefer structure and logic and are down to earth, while INFPs tend to jump from on thing to another, are often adaptable and creative which stresses ISTJs as their plans get disrupted.

[Pinkystella]

I have an ISTJ landlady who I lived with and once I got on her bad side, she is kicking me out of the house asap. I had to fight for at least one month’s time. So, being an ISFP, I have learnt my lesson the hard way.

[weaviejeebies]

Ahh, but you're still young! I'm an INFP married 29 years to an ISTJ, together for 32 years total. Spoiler alert: it doesn't end. Neither of you is going to actually win even though you both think you should. Here's the gray hair version of this exchange:
ISTJ:Babe, I need you to do better. I'm literally too old for this shit and tired of repeating myself.
INFP: I need you to have less of a stick up your ass about everything and show some appreciation before I die.
ISTJ: I appreciate how creative you are in finding excuses not to do better.
INFP: If you made 'doing better' actually emotionally worth it for me, it might happen more.
ISTJ: Your feelings control your life. Virtue is its own reward.
INFP: That's true.
ISTJ: Of course it's true. So why don't you...
INFP: What's the priority, virtuously giving someone what they say they want, or virtuously giving someone what you instinctively know they need, regardless of how inadequate they always make you feel for doing it?
ISTJ: Well..arrgh...I...it...you... I JUST WANT THE DISHES DONE.
INFP: and what you _need_ is for someone to help you pull that stick out of your ass. If I 'do better' at what you want, that stick is only going to work it's way farther up in there. But If I challenge your meticulously mapped worldview, you'll build tolerance, and won't feel so frustrated when other people do it. Like your boss, coworkers, people in traffic...you'll be better appreciated at work for not being too rigid, and you'll enjoy life more. Your work is one of the most important aspects of your life. It's a much higher priority than dishes. I take every teaching opportunity that comes my way.
ISTJ: I'll enjoy life more with clean dishes, too.
INFP: You'll live longer if you loosen up. I'll live longer if you told me more consistently and sincerely that I have value outside of productivity expectations.
ISTJ: You're speculating. You don't actually _know_ we'll live longer...
INFP: Are you honestly going to tangle with me over epistemology?
ISTJ: No. Are you going to tangle with me over data sets on American couples' life expectancy and division of labor?
INFP: No. I want Thai food for dinner.
ISTJ: Let me grab the keys.
Tl; dr: you're both the immovable object. You're both the unstoppable force. Confine who's ultimately right and wrong to an argument sandbox that doesn't influence bonding activities, do those activities when it gets too hot under the collar. Respect each other's expertise, and don't expect the same old arguments to ever actually resolve. You're a dragon/tiger duality, candle and shadow, sweet and sour. Try to be as balanced of a yin yang tradeoff as possible. ☯️