How I Racked Up $10,000 Of Credit Card Debt For Other People's Weddings

To kick off our wedding miniseries, Chelsea sits down with Abigail Taylor, a former bridesmaid who got with massive bills. They talk about the cost breakdown, what she learned, and what she plans to do for her own wedding.

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[unicornwitchprincess]

$700 for drinks when you don’t actually drink?!? Nope, I would have denied that request immediately. I have no shame about that.

[emilieiggiotti]

If I go to a wedding and I am paying for my flight, and my accommodation, I am sorry but my presence is your gift.

[manestreambeauty]

I have a strong feeling the $700 you paid was the balance that others refused to pay.

[rodemates]

The disappointing truth is that the huge favor of being a bridesmaid can be forgotten in a couple of years. The friendship moves on but you are left with the debt.

[iannivy]

That $700 request would have had me howling "SHOW me the receipts!" and then pointing out I had 1 sprite.

[alexandraaddi]

me personallyyyy, that $700 request would’ve been ignored 💀

[nicholemalloy]

$700 split among multiple people. That sounds like she got scammed into paying for others.

[ths]

Controversial take, elope for your wedding and then have ever increasing fun anniversary celebrations

[alexisnicholson]

That $700 venmo request is my Roman Empire. I'm gonna think about it every day until the day I die.

[GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

Also if you can't tell your friend "your bud made me pay $700 and it's bullshit" - is she your friend?

[selm]

7 weddings and 3 bachelorette parties in one year!?! I means even besides the money issue, that just sounds so exhausting

[theneonlotus]

I feel like this woman definitely paid off $700 of that other bridesmaid's credit card debt. If I get a Venmo request for $700 after just having a soda the answer is going to "No" full stop.

[JRod]

This woman should have stuck up for herself more. It's insane how egotistical, materialistic, and selfish weddings have become. Just because YOU want to have a wedding, it doesn't mean everyone in your life has to sacrifice hundreds of dollars and a year of their lives to make it all about you.

[ashleytune]

My best friend (since we were 8) lives in Michigan, and I live in NYC. When she got married when we were in our mid-20s, and she didn't ask me to be her maid of honor, I was extremely hurt. But now, in my mid-30s, I realize she was actually being EXTREMELY thoughtful. She told me after that she didn't want me to feel any pressure to do more than I could since I don't live in the same state, and she still asked me to read the "Love is..., etc." passage from the Bible during the ceremony, so I would be involved in some way. And she had the bachelorette in a local downtown area the same weekend as the wedding, so I was able to go to that without feeling extra financial stress. Honestly, I'm taking notes from how she did things, and it's funny how almost a decade of personal/financial growth can drastically change your perspective.

[TammyMayCormier]

Ive declined invitations to be in weddings. I still was invited as a guest. You can politely decline, if they are a real friend they will understand.

[lauraigla]

I work as a bridal tailor in the luxury market. This means we work for brides who choose $3k dresses and THEN choose in depth luxury tailoring on top of that purchase. Its WILD how many women tell me they came to me because "they had no choice." You do. You could choose davids bridal, you could choose a bridal consignment or even thrift store. Its alarming how many of these women reject taking financial control of their choices and yet are about to enter into a very intense commitment. They are rejecting control of their LIFE choices at an alarming rate.

[ghostlyMostly]

In 2013 I had to put my foot down and tell some other bridesmaids my budget for the wedding was approximately $500 for the "events". Some if the other women ( them all in relationships, Me single) were willing to throw down thousands. It basically ended my friendship with the bride, as I didnt even get the courtesy of a plus 1 at the wedding. At the time, I cpuld tell everyone thought it was really classless of me to ve that upfront about money. After all "This is our friend! We shouldnt care about money!". So glad there is finally a loud conversation about everything surrounding the wedding industrial complex and marriage/baby events in general.

[sara]

There’s no way in hell that the girl who requested $700 per person wasn’t just trying to make money off of strangers. YIKES.
Also I didn’t have a bridal party at my wedding and it was 10/10 a fantastic decision in every way 🎉🎉

[ieatgremlins]

What I gathered from this video is that yall need to find and cultivate better friendships. I don't have a single friend who would be this demanding, selfish, and predatory just because they're getting married. I am getting married, I have a bridal party and I have asked nothing of them. My party, my problem.

[Thaliasta]

$20 says that lady scammed everyone she could to pay her card card debt from the other wedding. $700 each seems ludicrous