Divorce

[dutchkanaka]

I love this part:
The kind of marriage required for exaltation—eternal in duration and godlike in quality—does not contemplate divorce. In the temples of the Lord, couples are married for all eternity.

[stardustgirl]

Working with singles for 7 years in the singles program, has taught me many things! Many people have a false perspective of Divorce, they think it's the answer because they feel all there problems will go away, but the reality is you will exchange one set of problems for another!!! Custody battles, who get the kid's for what holiday's, seeing you're x with someone new! Losing All you're MONEY TO CHILD SUPPORT, AND not being able to afford to get married, again!!! When you commit to being married, you need to commit to marriage counseling, if any problems should arise! When you bring HEAVENLY father's precious children into this WORLD, you owe it to them, to be responsible for there emotional well being and support them with a family of love!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[stardustgirl]

More people need to be listening to this wise council !🌺😇🌺

[terrym]

President Oaks, some of us married the spouse Heavenly Father commanded us to marry. Serious, untreated or untreatable mental illness will destroy any marriage.

[makamurphy]

Wow great Counsel and talk... Thank you President Oaks.

[elevateandempower]

Sadly, my Bishop gives no counsel, simply for me to go talk to a therapist. No reaching out or encouraging my husband in his Priesthood role as husband and father. 😔

[RhoadsHome]

I would like to hear this topic of forgiveness in marriage (divorce)from someone who has experienced it them selves. I would also like to have heard before my divorce HOW to strengthen and restore love. The church needs to actively certify Bishops and leaders that have not experienced it them selves how to council an individual or couple in struggle. We, as church members, must set aside all judgements and biased beliefs and love and care for BOTH husband and wife experiencing divorce. Extend love and friends ship to BOTH . We do not know the true experiences they have endured. It is NOT our place to judge BUT to love. Unconditional love should be practiced by all ward members. This divorce is not your war and you are not required nor asked to take sides.

[jmlibertyknives]

Now if I can only get my wife to listen to these wise words...

[ratoncrispin]

These are some great stats that I would love to use. References please.

They go against prevailing research, which suggests that children from happily married parents do the best, and children from sprint single parents do less well, but children from dysfunctional marriages are even more at risk than children from single parent households. I would love to find evidence that the prevailing research is wrong.

I would also love to see the study that shows that 3 out of 5 people considering divorce and deciding against it describe themselves in a happy relationships 5 years later.

These would be very useful in helping friends and clients considering divorce choose to stay together.

[heidimisfeldt]

Many people suffer for years on end, before finally separating and eventually getting a divorce. What do kids learn when their mother gets disrespected and even brutally beaten, and also the tender kids get mistreated. Abuse does have many shapes and sizes.
Yes like Jesus said, at first divorce was not part of the plan, but because of sin it does exist. Thank God.
These abusive men do not show their real colors before saying I do, that appears soon after, and then they blame the wife or the kids for their own disgusting behavior. Too many males think they must have the last word, and in their mind they are always right.
Nope. Once badly burned, twice shy. Many women are so done with it. So sorry if anyone is offended, as this is so real to so many.
I am glad for those that were able to get it together. Some should never have got married in the first place. Some do well in a second marriage, thank goodness. Some are done with it altogether.
This is my own personal view, and my own personal opinion.
Not anyone else's.

[JenergyYogi]

because of the hardness of our hearts 4min 🎉 this is it! People hearts are failing them and their MINDs are out of balance
Money and “things” become more important than people. This is the devils handy work.

[rebelwithacrew]

so...the advice he gives to the divorced is that we need hope and healing power?

[PenetiketaSelui]

Est-ce que je avoir en français s’il vous plaît

[lem]

😂 thanks for this wonderful counsel.. it really helps me.

[Lightworker..seer]

He should have started the talk with:
Sisters!!! 😂😂😂 80% of divorce filing is by the female. My ex was a narcissist...

[petersmith]

Getting out of a marriage is definitely not as easy as quitting a job.

[williamweigt]

Considering Elder Oakes’ legal training; I’m disappointed that he only uses the example of the Philippines legal quandary caused by a husband’s abandonment. No mention of the equally distorted American law that exploits men, from beginning to end? Almost 1/2 of members live here... but not a word of criticism of a seriously flawed legal system? If any of the Apostles ever had to deal with divorce; I’m certain the criticism would be far more balanced.

[bobpitcher]

Well, , this is hard for me to listen to.
If one has a hard time forgiving and for getting, it is probably they were not told the truth

[amihodges]

I love my God and my relationship with Jesus, but this talk does not tell the truth and is very dangerous for those suffering from abusive relationships. Dallin H. Oaks does not realize that he is encouraging men and women to stay in dangerous and abusive relationships with are extremely harmful to both them and their children by staying in unhealthy marriages for religious reasons rather than recognizing the long term damage that they are causing by staying together. The only thing he said that was appropriate was that people need to fully understand and become acquainted with their partners before deciding to make the sacred vow of marriage. Hopefully the church will address these errors and clarify what are and are not qualifying factors of a healthy relationship rather than blindly encouraging members to stay in dangerous marriages out of the sake of religious obligation.

[inspiredbible]

간음 이외의 이유로 이혼하지 말라는 예수 그리스도의 말씀은 무효가 되는 것인가요?