The Sneaky Toxic Trait You Didn't Know You Had

[Kris_Reece]

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[Glamforless]

Passive-aggressive, narcissistic, gaslighting people NEVER mean well

[girlinterrupted]

I think people in narcissistic relationships try a lot of things because it’s so difficult to figure the Narc out- until you do. Knowing this person not only doesn’t truly love you- they don’t love anyone . It makes you realize the wasted time and emotions on somewhere who never really cared in the first place. The sad part is- you sacrificed your mental and physical health for that person, the good part, you learned more about yourself and all about narcissism .

[boopdoop]

Amen!! This is especially frustrating to me as a neurodivergent person. When people don’t just say what they need straightforwardly, it’s hard for me to know. Then if they get upset I didn’t fulfill a request they didn’t actually state, it’s even more frustrating. Please just communicate!

[shanirollan]

THIS IS GOLD! “They’re not personality differences- they’re toxic traits! We are called to say what we mean and mean what we say 🙌🏻

[DannySims-yy]

Sometimes no matter how kind, sweet and gentle you say something, some individuals will still hear it or take it the wrong way... 🤷🤦. I'm not walking on eggs shells for no one. I eat eggs not walk on them...

[CopperMoon]

Amen! Honest direct and reasonable is best

[ihavenotruninvain]

...a LOT of people need to hear this...those that DON'T think they engage in this...

[sharonparis]

Amen say what you ate feeling so “ things” aren’t confused.

[Cercy-vmhm]

I feel very convicted. This is very much learned behavior for me, passive aggressiveness. I have tried hard to not do any guilting bc i recognized that as toxic, but for some reason i never thought of pa of being a toxic bc I'd say it on the more aggressive side than the passive side(sarcasm more like).

[benniecampbell]

Aman!!! Yeah I crystal clearly communicated so I know they understood me but they claimed “It was a misunderstanding!”!!!

[nicethingsoc]

Amen!

I recently had someone tell me I had offended them but they already forgave me. When I asked what I had done they refused to tell me but they said I only bring it up because you've hurt me before. Even though she refused to tell me what the thing was. After some time I realized she was manipulating me. 😒

[xx_Agent_Carolina]

Tysvm for the clear list❣️ I double check my own attitude & actions constantly, always 2nd guessing myself bc of being gaslit so much. 😕

[tabithaflanagan]

But some of that is due to how we were raised but if we are working on it then that shouldn't be a problem

[saturdayschild]

I was brought up by people that intentionally withheld information from you. They wanted you to chase them for the info you were due. As a result, I became too direct for them. That isn’t to say that it’s not possible for me to be passive aggressive, though. I loved the verse that says let your yea be yea and nay be nay. My family calls me “aggressive aggressive” because I refuse to beat around the bush. I may be verbose, but I don’t want to leave any doubt about what I said or what I asked for.

Of course that didn’t stop the ex husband for finding a way to misunderstand me. People that are determined to create confusion will do exactly that.

[janetmccall]

Yes, this is me. How do I stop? I do not want to hurt people so I just let them talk and I think I just make a mess of things instead.

[WilliamWebb]

I definitely have been toxic to my ex wife and the last few women I’ve met. It wasn’t until I was with a narcissist woman that I realized that I was so toxic. Though I wasn’t diagnosed as a narcissist I know I’ve been toxic. I have literally gone back and apologized for my past behavior.

[joesielskisr]

My former pastor I believe he never repented when he died

[ServantofJesus]

I've been so confused with someone I'm not sure if I'm the bad one or they are. But I always apologize anyway and try to see it from their point of view and just take the blame.

[DJSickey]

Kris, where was you when I was ruining my most recent relationship this way (in addition to being narcissistic Christian) 😢...