The Secret Behind Your Messy Child

[aonan]

Thank you for sharing. This helping me to understand my daughter better.

[DaughterofaKing]

My daughter told me her messy room is ART🤦🏽‍♀️

[joshuaedwards]

Wow that makes so much sense the brain is amazing just understanding that is so enlightening and life changing!

[michaelvlance]

We are on the same wavelength my friend.

[Tay_Rene_Media_Medicine]

Children are so much like puppies. They're all teeth and nose and paws. I wasn't in mental overload until I had children 😭

[sspaceforce]

Well were looking for a way to get a nearly 18 tear old to just pick up and clean up after herself.
She will lie, she will purposely evade, make every excuse to NOT take care

[home]

list and reminders for us doesn't work. I understand that I and we are completely different to everyone else. For me its taking action. No lists, when you are overloaded you are overloaded with info overload. Its about processing and to switch from one to another. For us, its the worry, stress and strain, the threats to our safety, the existential crisis, the injustices and the lists goes on and on. What for me, because I am both I go from one to the other, and its about balance, sometimes messy, sometimes clean. Sometimes ordered, sometimes disordered, and its not about me....its about me processing everything coming to me, so I realise, its in society the hidden part of society that no one wants to deal with and they cover it up and over....so for me and us that are like me, its about the doing, the taking action and not being inactive. If I am absolutely exhausted and sometimes my body shuts down, I can't breathe properly because one part of my body system is shut down, then I need a rest and time out. Which means being meditative and and contemplative and silent...no movement just stillness and doing one thing at a time. And being given grace for everything else. being rewarded by the doing of it, as a new thing a new habit, that makes it feel so much better it takes the crisis, the threats and grief are my constant emotions that I process and when you go through that you can't do anything. For me its encouragement and I am not encouraged at all by anyone, because that encouragement is already within me and flowing.

[elizabethcohen]

I cannot keep a clean house to save my soul. Not for lack of my mother's trying to teach me. God knows, my sister learned! I'm adopted. Turns out my biological mother could not keep a clean house to save her soul, and neither could her mother, nor her mother's mother! It's genetic.