Why I Left My Husband… #divorcedmom #momlife #motherhood

⬇️More detail on ‘staying together for the kids’⬇️

Obviously every situation is different and I am personally a HUGE fan of HEALTHY marriages. My parents, grandparents, and all my close friends and family are all happily married. But after having kids, things in my marriage got… not good. And I did try so hard for years, but at a certain point I had to admit that what was being modeled for my boys was not something I would want another woman to have to endure. So I left. I was fully ready to be alone forever and that was better to me than be married. But, if you follow me, you know I eventually met an amazing man who models perfect behavior for my boys and his 💙💙💙 He did stay together for the kids with his ex after going through a similar situation to me… and he can also confirm that staying together solely for the kids is not always the best decision if the marriage is already broken. I’m trying to convince him to share his story on my page 😅😅 we shall see…

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[MaiZimmy]

Obviously every situation is different and I am personally a HUGE fan of HEALTHY marriages. My parents, grandparents, and all my close friends and family are all happily married. But after having kids, things in my marriage got… not good. And I did try so hard for years, but at a certain point I had to admit that what was being modeled for my boys was not something I would want another woman to have to endure. So I left. I was fully ready to be alone forever and that was better to me than be married. But, if you follow me, you know I eventually met an amazing man who models perfect behavior for my boys and his 💙💙💙 He did stay together for the kids with his ex after going through a similar situation to me… and he can also confirm that staying together solely for the kids is not always the best decision if the marriage is already broken. I’m trying to convince him to share his story on my page 😅😅 we shall see…

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[ai]

Yes!! My mom stayed in a marriage for too long “for the kids”, and I can confidently say it was worse for us than if she initiated divorce earlier. People don’t realize that marriages can’t be fixed if both parties do not want to change; or if the relationship is physically or psychologically abusive.

[sama]

my mom left my dad and it made him a better father afterwards because it was the first time he had to face consequences for his actions

[Emf]

Better to be from a broken home then in a broken home

[KashSavingKeycha]

Do what is best for you!!!! People that don’t pay bills at my address CANNOT ADDRESS me about MY CHOICES! NO

[texbecks]

Thank you for thinking of your sons' future relationships too. I've got two little girls and I'm terrified about their future partners being good to them and having healthy experiences, so it gives me a little peace to think there are moms of sons out there thinking like this. Your boys will grow up knowing you love them and what they have to be for future relationships. ❤

[raeklassen]

As an adult of parents who 100% stuck through it 'for the kids'...

WE KNEW - we knew the entire friggin' time it was a lie.

It's taken years to understand that it wasn't a reflection of anything truly stemming from us kids, or that there was anything we could have done. It was fighting daily, triangulation the whole shebang.

Ik so glad you thought of the future of your children.

Some people simply love to comment that what everyone else does is wrong. And they're dumb as rocks. Live your life girlie 💪🤍

[kaytiemyers]

Ive been divorced for 2 years as well and i resonate with this

[cafekat]

I love you so much for doing this. Protect your peace, your kids’ peace, and forget the haters.

[ashcraft]

Amen. I finally decided to leave when I realized how heartbroken I would be for my kid if they were in a relationship like mine — in my shoes or their dad's. A lot of people didn't understand partly because I kept it all to myself and partly because they've never had to be in that position. I know what happened and why I had to leave. I hope my kid will one day understand why I ended things but anyone else's opinions are worth exactly what I paid for them.

Good for you for standing up for yourself and for showing your boys what strength looks like. I'm sorry you have to see those comments. Part of me is happy for them because they've clearly never known the pain you or I were in having to make this decision. I like the idea of other people having happy, healthy marriages that are good for everyone involved. But I am forever baffled by people's lack of empathy for others.

[ceciliavalencia]

I love everything you said I had to walk away after 17 years I have just been dragging to get an official divorce and moving forward. Watching you really helps me to see the other side of this gets better! It's inspiring and so happy you met an awesome guy to share your life with !!❤😊

[claudiag.]

Thank you for being brave for your kids. Women make all sorts of excuses, and it’s heartbreaking to watch women in my own family too scared to leave toxic situations that even their own children want them to leave. It’s fear based, no matter which way they spin it.

[MollyT]

Preach it sister! 👏👏👏 I was with my abusive, addict, cheating ex for almost 18 years and the only regret I have was not leaving sooner. Getting his 200 pounds of freaking dead weight out of my life felt like the world being lifted off my shoulders. Yes, the transition sucked, especially when he just didn't understand the assignment and I had to slap a restraining order on him for stalking my kids and me. I have been in a few relationships but I'm happy being single at the moment. I'm putting zero expectations on myself right now other than constantly improving where I am in life. My kids are all grown now (27, 23, and 19) and their father is back in their life at an arms length, only because they are adults, and because his past caught up with his health. And now that they are adults, they see his behavior and understand exactly why I left him. I felt like me getting out of an unhealthy relationship gave them a better chance to build healthy relationships of their own when the time came, because it gave them an example of how not to compromise yourself for another person. Sorry I literally wrote a chapter here, but screw other people's opinions that we should be trapped in a toxic marriage. We deserve to live as people, not as prisoners. 😉

[breeanawagner]

Aw Mai this makes me so sad. You are doing so great for those boys and for YOU 🩵🩵🩵

[cuteclassi]

The worst feeling is being with someone who makes you feel alone. Life's too short for that shit. I learned the hard way. I'm glad I left my ex and now I'm in a happy relationship for the past 15 years with 6 babies and dream career. I never looked back!

[jannekebouwmeester]

You are the only person who really knows what is best!❤

[not-a-ghost]

My parents stayed together and we were and still are a broken family. I dont visit home much, because it always makes me sad. Youre creating a home where your children will wanna come back to.

[alexm-yn]

If you break a dish and shove all pieces in a drawer, those pieces are together but the dish is still broken. Sometimes the best option is to take those pieces and build a mosaic. I have a mosaic family. All sorts of people held together by a strong mortar of love. I promise that is better than when we were simply together under one roof, but not a family at all.

[lindseydowns]

What some people don't understand....sometimes divorce is something to be celebrated!

[kkuczak]

I don’t understand how a boyfriend can be the “wrong one” over so little and a marital partner “can do no wrong.” Providing doesn’t mean he’s wonderful. Being poor doesn’t mean he’s bad. God looks at the heart, so so should we. Don’t ignore red flags; give a struggling person a chance.