What to do when your partner says 'NO' to your gender identity?

What happens when your partner says no to your gender and your transition?

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[comfortbstyle]

This is a bit off topic but something that upsets me is when family or a partner disagrees with trying HRT, especially when they only concentrate on the possible negative effects, and disregard all of the positive effects for selfish/ uneducated reasons.

[RosheenQuynh]

I told my ex at the time about that the possibility of surgery and at first he was very against it (I was also very new to all of this, wasn't even identifying as trans back then) but was more against my nonbinary gender identity (of course, he used the ol' "God didn't make anyone nonbinary" or whatever it was, it was so long ago but it hurt because 1. He didn't think about God's wisdom and my relationship with Him and 2. He's a proud Native American and there are folks in his culture that literally have nonbinary identities. 😐 That's so double-standarded)...
After talking to him, he said he'd support my decision as long as I didn't look like an alien. Years after our break up (unrelated to this conversation, by the way), I questioned him about that conversation and he said he didn't understand at the time, not that he was against it. We don't talk much but I feel like he's not telling me the whole truth. Not sure what to think. But even though we've had our closure and whatnot, I do feel confident that he wasn't gonna leave me if I continued pursuing transition. Still, I have no desire to mention anything related to my gender identity to him again in case we argue. I don't even care if he deadnames or misgenders me, it's just not worth it.

[pro-bowler]

Are ideas real?
If an idea is real, what makes it so?

[Jacobify]

When you get married, you expect consistency. If one partner wants to swim in the soup without the other, the one on the shore doesn't have to just watch, they can leave. I'm more inclined to say that the partner demanding their gender expression is more important than a healthy marriage (and sex life) is also at fault. Maybe hold on for a second and consider the sexuality of your spouse before demanding support for something they were never interested in? Or maybe consider the stable identity of your partner before dipping yours fully into change.