My Wife Cheated on me with a Guy Our Son’s Age… and I Vanished from her life like Houdini after

0:00 My Wife Cheated on me with a guy Our Son’s Age… and I Vansihed from her life like Houdini after 23 Years (u/Kermit_Defrogg)

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"For 23 years, I thought she was mine. But it turned out, it was just my turn." This one line really struck a chord.

[NeonMedusaVI]

The fact that everyone is telling OP that he needs to be there is weird af. He doesn't need to do anything for her. He was there for her for 23 years and she decided it wasn't good enough and stepped out their marriage. He doesn't owe her a damn thing.

[whofandb]

It's disgusting that so many people wanted OP to go see his former wife in the hospital. She cheated on him and they expect him to go to her and say it's all better just because she supposedly tried to off herself. I doubt the suicide attempt was genuine and even if it was it shows how selfish she is. OP is the victim not his Ex. Seeing her would just upset him and won't help her since he doesn't want to see her at all. It's best for OP to stay away for his mental health and hers. If he is not around she'll rebuild her life without the false expectation that he will forgive her.

[laughincoffin]

Nina seems to be THE definition of letting someone go if you truly love them.

[yeahididit]

This guy is a legend and I hope his next 23 years aren’t wasted.

[niccole]

Washing his hands of her while assuring his kids that he won't be upset if they are there for their mother indicates how good of a father he is. The s gesture indicates that she was not thinking of her children as much as he is.

[GSP-]

For those interested, there's more to this story. I believe OP posted it a while after everything you hear here. He does eventually relent and goes to see Sue in the hospital..but he absolutely does not take her back or forgive her. He was being guilted too much by the people around him and gives in to go see her. He still stands strong though and cuts Sue out his life. In their meeting, she finally realizes that it's truly over and her marriage is destroyed. I believe Sue's AP contacts her and even says he can't live without her and threatens suicide. She tells him to go ahead and do it, lol. The husband even goes and confronts her AP and the AP gets scared for his life...but he doesn't do anything..but he does get in touch with his parents and I think they got the binder too. He gets disowned by his family because they are very religious and can't fathom how their son destroyed a 23 year marriage. Last we are told, Sue's AP was living couch to couch after getting kicked out of his home by his parents. The husband starts a relationship with Nina and that's the end.

[evavocative]

I, for one, 100% RESPECT this man for him staying away from Sue in the end, and his friends are all AHs for making HIM out to be a villain as he needs to stay away for HIS mental health.

Dude played a long game, and props to HIM for winning a new life, and I think the EX is a huge TOXIC P.O.S. for trying to guilt trip him with a failed suicide attempt to try and use that as a way to worm her way back in.

[CenturianTale_Halo]

I feel so bad for the son... since he's been cheated on, the idea of his mom cheating on his dad hurts even more...


Also I'm glad Nina and OP got together!

[ConveyApp]

Very similar stuff happened to me. After a 19 year marriage. I’m 43, and am 5’5” and about 165lbs. My estranged wife is 51, and is 5’9” 140lbs. We are both pretty fit. Anyways she was having an absolute mental health issue. Like paranoid thoughts, physical attacks against me for hours, believing I was a demon. It was bad. Anyways all I wanted was her to get a proper diagnosis and treatment. This didn’t go well. She thought I had this evil plan to destroy her. So she just did everything in her power to hurt and belittle me at every opportunity. She once told me she was going to find the tallest, biggest, and jacked guy she could find and F&$K him. Well a year later I found a video on her phone with a 47 yr old 6’6”, 240lb ex bodybuilder on the beach confessing his love to her. She was eating it up. She doesn’t even like this guy. He is very unattractive. He literally looks like the live action version of Shrek. She strictly got into this relationship to hurt me. Something I could never compete with. Genetics is a difficult thing. Anyways this was the one and only thing I could never forgive. I’m no contact for 6 months as of now. I feel exactly how he feels about his ex. If she was in a car accident or living under a bridge, she is no longer my responsibility or problem. This guy can deal with her borderline personality disorder. She is great at hiding it in public and maybe a few months in a relationship. As soon as I can no longer be reasonably blamed for her issues she will shift to whom she is closest too. That time is coming. I see the writing on the wall.

[SeaWitchUSN]

An ex slashed his wrist after I dumped him,
emailed me pictures and called me while I was in Australia, thinking I’d come running back. Oh I ran alright. AWAY. I never spoke to him again. I feel for OP, and he had zero obligation to “be at her side”. What the hell did her friends and family expect? They saw the binders! I’ll say what I said to my ex when he called me: “be well, but far away from me.”

[worldslargestnerd]

It never ceases to amaze me in these type stories how family and friends of the guilty party always try to make the OP out to be in the wrong after cutting out the cancer from their life.

[tasteslikepennies]

This is a nuclear option that I fully and wholeheartedly endorse and wish that more men would take rather than the violent past that we have chosen traditionally. This is exactly what a woman would do in the opposite situation. I'm super proud of OP and I gave him big fat kudos I mean Sue's own father understood why the op did what he did. That should tell you something

[thestorm]

Forget being a jerk, I respect the hell out of the OP for his scheming mind and his ability to hold everything in for so long. To wait almost a year to exact the perfect revenge? Absolute legend! Sue got what she deserves and as far as I'm concerned, the OP starting to date Nina is also not a jerk move, but a CHAD move since Nina sounds like an infinitely better person than Sue. I congratulate the OP for his win and wish him the best of lives. Here's some extra advice forbyhe OP -- If Sue tries to off herself again: just let her. Regardless if she's doing it to end things or just to get attention, it's her choice and the OP is and never will be at fault.

[jayyang]

This reminds me of a story I read a long time ago. This girl married a guy for ten years but her sex life wasn’t that great compared to her other partners. So she finally had enough and called her ex in tears and begs to come back to him. She lives with her ex in Tennessee and her Ed has a gf already and they have a threesome pretty much everyday. This story made me furious on how selfish the wife could be. You left a good man because you didn’t get good sex?? He devoted his life for you and you leave home for some better sex?? I can only imagine what the guy went through because the wife never filed for divorce or anything, maybe she did, idk. Never was mentioned I then story. But yeah, feel bad for that guy.

[swoffyplayz]

I feel like when Sue tried to end it and the people who left her contacted the OP about going to support her was wrong. The OP should have went right back at them saying something like “if I cheated and tried to end it would you want her to support me?” Sue was definitely the jerk

[juanhaines]

I've heard this whole story multiple times and its never lost its punch. I love it when people go all out like this.

[robloxsmyths]

NTA
OP has a right to be angry, saying that he "needs to be here for her either way" is honestly disgusting. 23 years of his life wasted because his wife was d'd down by some young guy. The people saying he needs to be there are toxic people for even saying that. This woman is absolutely disgusting, and the fact that she wanted forgiveness is honestly astounding to me.

[bobodahobo]

dude her trying to END her life because of HER cheating is just cringe bro, I cant. Call it insensitive, I dont care. Its her fault, the audacity is just off the charts cringe.

[TheBalisongBear]

Laughed out loud when he got the phone call near the end. Her actions has consequences, and she didnt want to face them. Then her own father calls just to say "Yo, just wanted to say. No hard feelings for not showing up."
Legendary.
Cheaters dont deserve a happy ending.