‘He’s Dependent On Us, And He Just Seems Stuck,’ Says Mom Of 27-Year-Old Son

Susan and Randy’s 27-year-old college-educated son, Jacob, lives at home. The couple describes him as emotionally “incapacitated,” and claim he is virtually unable to do anything for himself.

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“Jake sleeps all day, he’s not paying for anything, he has no job. He doesn’t really have any prospects for getting a job,” says Randy

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Jacob says, “My motivation is essentially shot, and I barely feel motivated to get out of bed.”

“He’s dependent on us, and he just seems stuck,” says Susan, claiming that Jacob would likely end up homeless if she and her husband weren’t taking care of him.

When Dr. Phil asks, “Why are you doing this to him?” how does the couple respond?

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[anthonynoneyabusiness]

Not gonna lie this is what my depression & anxiety does to me. My bed feels like a safe place . With my depression I feel like I could sleep all day. & I used too still do sometimes. I’ve battled it since 5th grade & now it’s so much better

[andrewwabik]

I didn’t move out until I was 27. There are millions of guys like him around. Problem is bigger then him.

[CandyLovesMakeup]

I can relate to this having depression for 10+ years...you literally feel like you’re stuck in a black hole with no motivation or happiness in anything and nowhere to go

[queenwizzard]

That is the room of someone with SEVERE depression...

[ahri]

I’m glad the parents aren’t too mad about it. They genuinely care.

[remoove]

He seems like such a sweet guy. Would definitely be down to befriend him.

[clarkkent]

Phil blaming parents again. Not everyone is a billionaire who can have sons be a rock star and marry playboy playmates.

[lostsquirrel]

Seem like Dr.Phil is fed up with his job. Hes just harsh, angry and ignorant with a cleary anxious and depressed man. It's sad, he just wanted help and got humiliated.

[badmanthings]

As someone who suffered the same type of depression, i can assure you that a clear mind starts with a clear environment around you. Cleaning your room is the first step of healing your depression.

[EtheralAnxiety]

Having a room like that is a warning sign, not a failure. My room looked like that my whole life because I was so depressed and anxious. It turned out I had OCD and PTSD. I’m now 21 and on disability. He doesn’t need tough love, he needs resources and coping skills.

[jazzminealvarado]

He seems really kind and funny. He’s obviously dealing some severe depression and motivation issues and I really hope he finds help.

[felishadiaz]

Dr. Phil is such a sell out. This is not how you speak with someone who is dealing with a loved one in depression. What were they supposed to do? Come down on him? That would have made it worse. That’s terrible

[Slooby]

he's me but 27 and worse off, god damn wish i could just give him a hug and help him clean his room

[bethcollins]

The fact that all the people in the comments could diagnose and come up with solutions to this but dr Phil can’t 💀

[hunnybee_]

wow, parents who didn’t just kick their kid out & act shocked when they find out the kid’s living in a car. what a nice turn of events.

[bryarrose]

The parents are so sweet. They just want to help their son and understand theres more to the story than him being a deadbeat.

[Yungkingstonn]

Dr. Phil handed this situation so poorly... have some empathy for the guy and his parents. His parents just want the best for him and Jacob is clearly depressed.

[PennyJackson]

Okay so that is literally me at 28... I have aspergers, social anxiety, and depression...

As if I want to live this life? I don’t. I have dreamed about a job and completing high school since I was 16, but I can’t. I have tried and I fail every single time. Feeling defeated after failing at something so basic in life is only brewing further on my depression.

I think mental health should be taken seriously. That guy is severely depressed, and he needs help, not prejudice.

[IceyKunai]

“This is Jacobs room.... hi Jacob”
“Hi Mom”
😂😂😂

[LilFoxyCosplay]

He’s clearly genuinely struggling I can relate to this
Although he’s way worse than I am

I hope he gets the help he needs I definitely wouldn’t blame him for it
Tough love doesn’t work for everyone it didn’t work for me it actually made me worse

I’d say also he’s so used to success in life failure later in life was like a hitting a brick wall
I went through the same thing