4 Ways Confident & “Desperate” Women Behave Differently When Dating a Man

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[braveheart]

Bottom line we need to love and respect ourselves first and to stop seeking validation from a man. We must believe that we are the prize... This eliminates neediness as well as men who are not deserving of our time or attention. Also always guard your heart and do not get to emotionally attached till the man has proven by action that he is worthy of your love and devotion.

[bintissa]

Never prove anything to anyone.
Move in silence.

[Azizajewelry]

Now that I’ve raised my self esteem and standards I’ve realized all of my female role models raised me to be desperate because they ALL were. Older women around me when I was growing up always complained about their spouses but added they were too old to start over. I was often told to lower my standards and settle or compromise a lot to find someone and be “happily” married, but none of them were happy. I’m glad I realized there was another way.
Btw ever since I raised my self esteem with affirmations and Eft/tapping, my finances have dramatically changed for the better and so has my living environment. Just waiting for my love life to follow suit next 😍

[jasslynlee]

“Never prove your worth to other people” YESS 👏🏼👏🏼

[ZaheedaNaheedya]

Fundamentally, if you're looking desperate for the guy, he's not the man for you/us. He should be making equal effort and isn't worth our time if he is not.

[SamElle]

I hate that the more you try, the more you look desperate :(

[Roycebond]

He is so on point with everything. And I LOVED his book "F*ck Him, Nice Girls Finish Last". Couldn't put it down.

[playresponsibly]

One thing I keep in mind mostly whenever I am dating is IF HE IS FOR ME, THEN HE IS. I don't think about I do this and that. Bec I know some girls who have very bad attitude, yet they were adore by their partners. So for me, being yourself must be always every one's number one trait and don't worry much if he or she will love or leave u. Just be yourself, let him or her know what you feel.

[anjaliverma]

God bless you ! Men are complicated, not women.
Women are much more sincere in trying to make relationship work.
Keep up the good work..Love your videos.

[allatsarikova]

I love this playlist and the speaker, really. The summary I'm coming up with is this: NEVER FALL FOR A MAN, and you'll do all the right dating things. The mistakes we make are caused by our falling in love, which, admittedly, makes us emotionally dependent and insecure. No matter how confident, well developed and independent you are, you become desperate when you have fallen in love. Love should be treated as any other form of addiction.

[ursulageorgeson]

Watched so many of these and the moral I'm learning is: In dating, try not to feel or show any strong emotions. Men like cool, indifferent confidence. Fake that, and you can have any man you like 😅

[Layla-inci]

I have never been a desperate woman. I am comfortable being by myself. Having a man does not define who a woman is.

[emmasheridanfamodimu]

You have so hit the nail on the head. This is why dating 'The Rules' - i.e. hiding your true self and always being sweet and positive in order to get the ring on your finger actually reeks of desperation. It's the consistent boundaries you set and keep that are so important.

[venben]

Biggest takeaway...work hard on your belief. Believing you are worthy of love. Don’t work hard on trying to make someone love you. 👏🏽

[mila]

Jeez you’re a genius...I love how you’re able to deliver things bluntly but not in a mean way!!

[alcudiababe]

I think if all of that is the case it's either down to a low self confidence or a lack of it, or, a fear of being alone because I was those two things for a very long portion of my life I scared some guys off and when you are lonely and someone's giving it to you you think the world of that relationship and no one tends to tell us how to overcome this

(1) When you stop looking - you find.
Most of us search our whole lives for the one who will be our Prince charming and want marriage and kids with us but when we reach that despair because we haven't met anyone when we give up looking we find.

(2) When you allow yourself to be angry (not aggressive) but angry I find men work harder to make it up with you or at least ask what's wrong because a fear of mine was, if I get angry and I shout and we argue he might leave me.
(But tonnes of women get angry and guys try to run over hot coals to find out what's wrong) because it's the fear of - will he stick around? Will he be there when the going gets rough?

Think of Ian Beele in Eastenders he's had a type - Cindy. Melanie Owen. Jane. Mandy. He's had a thing for blondes, most of them they sense his desperation by need to impress and he gets treated like crap or used yet he will treat someone like Laura Beale like crap because he thinks someone like her is beneath him. It's a pride thing. His snobbish nature for the finer ladies and to impress them turns them off whereas if he had the self confidence most people would be attracted to him by the different energy he'll have out out there.

Self confidence is key. I remember going on a website of how to get my boyfriend back after he'd dumped me because he didn't want a serious relationship. It hurt but I knew I made some silly mistakes when I was with him at the time I thought if I fixed them he'd want me again and I was looking at this website pages and pages of their weekly advice and all it said was to work on me and I was thinking this is crazy I want steps to get him back but I was ready to try anything, so I went out there, dressed up a bit more, developed a shopping addiction but I started being my own best friend, I'd take myself out for a cake at a expensive coffee shop, sometimes I'd wear a suit, different clothes give off different impressions but I embraced being alone and feeling good about it anyway I didn't meet anyone but my sister always said how I always turned heads whenever I walked into a room and I got noticed but by the time I was in a relationship with another person then my ex started showing up at my work place, to the point where everyone noticed him and asked if he'd got together with me. So when I wasn't interested and enjoyed life, going out with friends and family and doing things I found some one else the ex I no longer cared about wanted me. Of course I didn't go back, I'd moved on but if I'd have known it was my energy that I was putting out I'd have changed things around a lot sooner

[marinikaP]

Powerful words, Geert / Brian, thanks for putting it so clearly when we do this ! Definitely keeping all of these in mind, body, and heart, as they really resonated as well as continuing to change my beliefs about myself to consistent positive beliefs of full worthiness, be it in relationships, jobs or anything I experience, really. We truly deserve (love and respect) more than how we allow ourselves to be treated at times.

(2:53) "Here is a less obvious one that would make you look desperate : accepting inconsistent behavior.
One day they love-bomb you, the other day they're nowhere to be found. One day you are their top priority, well seemingly, because the other day when better opportunities are present you're not even on their list of priorities."
(3:22) "In a good relationship the good days are supposed to be the rule and the bad days the exception.
It's not supposed to be the other way around.

(4:45) "When we hide what we believe to be a flaw we devalue (& disrespect) ourselves, and we come across as desperate, because we are. Why else would we be hiding it? When we own our flaws, when we own ourselves entirely - "hi, this is me, good and bad things included" - we come across as ourselves and that's the person our romantic partner should fall for anyways, of course. Otherwise we have a lifetime of hiding and acting in front of us."

(5:15) "Acting: Pretending they didn't hurt your feelings, when they obviously did.
Pretending you don't really care that much about them, when you obviously do."
(5:35) "Not telling them when they have crossed a boundary, but still sticking around, giving them the same amount of love and attention."
(6:22) "Always explain it calmly when they crossed a boundary, and then make it non-negotiable. Otherwise it's not a boundary."
"If something they did really hurt your feelings, say it! Say it in a calm way, but say it or leave them. NEVER just pretend nothing happened.
As a rule : never be afraid to loose them,
or you will come across as - and be - desperate."

(6:48) "Giving them things they haven't earned yet, and thus trying to earn their approval and attention, while they're not doing the same for you, or at least not at the same level.
(...) If there's a big unbalance it's a huge sign of desperation."

(7:31) "And that brings me to perhaps the most important concept of this video :
NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE,
always believe YOU ARE WORTHY OF THEIR LOVE.
Always believe YOU ARE ENOUGH.
If deep down in all honesty you ever believe you don't deserve a certain person, then work really hard on CHANGING THAT BELIEF, not on changing their perception. Work hard on your belief. Never work hard on trying to be worthy or proving your value to them (...) because that of course would do the exact opposite, and is a huge sign of desperation."

[mariaelizabandolesalcantar]

I have 16 kids, 4 cats and 2 lizards so he thinks I am not a match 😂😂😂 gosh this got me lol 😂. You're not just a love guru, you're also a comedian 😂❤️🌺🌸

[laurac]

I swear this man is a blessing in the world

[dw]

God Bless this man. E-V-E-R-Y video of his hits you right in the heart. So truthful.