What one skill = an awesome life? | Dr. Shimi Kang | TEDxKelowna

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Are you balanced in life? What is the best approaching to finding balance...to creating an awesome life?

Dr. Shimi Kang is an award-winning, Harvard-trained doctor, researcher, media expert, and lecturer on human motivation. She is the author of the #1 Bestseller, The Dolphin Way: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids Without Turning Into A Tiger (Penguin Books 2014). Her articles appear in major media outlets including the Huffington Post, Psychology Today and TIME Magazine. Dr. Kang is the Medical Director for Child and Youth Mental Health for Vancouver community, a Clinical Associate Professor at the University of British Columbia, and the founder of the Provincial Youth Concurrent Mental Health and Addictions Program and BC Children’s Hospital.

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[jackiechun]

4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life.
9:10 On Dolphins
10:28 P. O. D.
10:36 Play [have fun without rules].
12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life
13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life
15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better
If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.

[willdrivesu]

As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.

[lailaalfaddil]

The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading

[binbinli]

Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.

[vilmantasramanauskas]

P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)

[Fathm]

1. The one thing: 4:29
2: Supporting evidence 6:17
3. Currrent social diagnosis 8:00
4. The dolphin's way: 10:08

[catedoge]

Best skill to learn is awareness. Everything is connected to that.

[jorgeromera]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" (Jiddu Krishnamurti)

[allisknu]

I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.

[downbntout]

This is the oxygen I didn't know I needed. No more guilt over basic needs.

[stheday]

People can drain us too..it's important to find supportive ones.

[You_Manos_Tube]

"Play is how we adapt"...This is the connection between the game and education which leads to obtaining a skill and then the confidence! Well Done Dr!

[DoodleBugLisa]

There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude.
Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.

[thutosalome]

I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me

[DrBullockADHDcoaching]

So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.

[rojin]

As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .

[hvasf]

With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.

[josephfernando]

Superb...my take away from this video...When I played I found new Passion...When I connected I found new Purpose...When I rested I found new Balance...So true..

[AceHalford]

She's right, the environment is changing and we have no control over it, so we must adapt

[sandraremolina]

I LOVE THIS GIRL FOR SHARING HER KNOWLEDGE ABUOT JOY!
THANK YOU!