Why Your New Years Resolutions NEVER STICK! 3 Research-based Principles ✨ | Shadé Zahrai

Wondering why your New Years Resolutions often become ‘New Years Failures?’ In this video I share with you why you might have struggled in the past with achieving your goals, and what to do instead!

Looking at some of the latest research on goal setting and ‘New Years Resolutions’, I’ll take you through 3 principles you MUST keep in mind when setting your intentions for your dream life.

Let me know in the comment what your 2022 intentions are!

TIMESTAMPS
0:00 – Intro
0:41 – Your Dream Life
1:47 – You’re at the Mercy of what you Consume
2:56 - The Hedonic Treadmill & Achievement Orientation
4:31 - 3 Principles to Set your New Year Intentions for your Dream Life
4:40 - PRINCIPLE 1: Appreciate how far you’ve come
6:32 - Self-Acceptance vs Self-Improvement Goals
7:42 - PRINCIPLE 2: Focus on what you Want, not what you Don’t Want
9:12 - PRINCIPLE 3: Think Big Picture, then Little Picture
9:41 - Superordinate vs Subordinate goals

📚RESEARCH REFERENCES:
Olympics & Counterfactual Thinking Studies
• 1) Medvec VH, Madey SF, Gilovich T. When less is more: counterfactual thinking and satisfaction among Olympic medalists. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1995 Oct;69(4):603-10.
• 2) Hedgcock WM, Luangrath AW, Webster R. Counterfactual thinking and facial expressions among Olympic medalists: A conceptual replication of Medvec, Madey, and Gilovich's (1995) findings. J Exp Psychol Gen. 2021 Jun;150(6):e13-e21.

Self-Acceptance & Self-Improvement Goals
• Hallinan, B., Kim, B., Mizoroki, S., Scharlach, R., Trillò, T., Thelwall, M., ... & Shifman, L. (2021). The value (s) of social media rituals: a cross-cultural analysis of New Year’s resolutions. Information, Communication & Society, 1-22.

Approach vs Avoidance Resolutions
• Oscarsson, M., Carlbring, P., Andersson, G., & Rozental, A. (2020). A large-scale experiment on New Year’s resolutions: Approach-oriented goals are more successful than avoidance-oriented goals. PLoS One, 15(12), e0234097.

Superordinate & Subordinate Goals
• Höchli, B., Brügger, A., & Messner, C. (2020). Making New Year's resolutions that stick: Exploring how superordinate and subordinate goals motivate goal pursuit. Applied Psychology: Health and Well‐Being, 12(1), 30-52.

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[ShadeZahrai]

Hi everyone! This one’s a long one, but I’ve packed it with research-based tips to help you think differently about your goals to help you step closer to your dream life in 2022. ✨

Here are the TIMESTAMPS in case you want to skip ahead:

0:00 – Intro
0:41 – Your Dream Life
1:47 – You’re at the Mercy of what you Consume
2:56 - The Hedonic Treadmill & Achievement Orientation
4:31 - 3 Principles to Set your New Year Intentions for your Dream Life
4:40 - PRINCIPLE 1: Appreciate how far you’ve come
6:32 - Self-Acceptance vs Self-Improvement Goals
7:42 - PRINCIPLE 2: Focus on what you Want, not what you Don’t Want
9:12 - PRINCIPLE 3: Think Big Picture, then Little Picture
9:41 - Superordinate vs Subordinate goals

[sohailstone]

Shade is super fluent that she talks, each words crafted perfectly, flowing like pearls ✌🏼

[avonzo]

1. Appreciate/celebrate how far you have come (Celebrate how far you have come)
2. Focus on what you want, not don’t (approach goals and not as move away)
3. Think big picture (super ordinate goal)), then little picture

Thanks Shade! Best start for 2022!

[krishradio]

Merry Christmas and a happy new year. Thank you for a wonderful message at a time when I see myself at the crossroads and the beginning of a new and exciting life ahead. I am also leaving behind a life of immense contentment, which I do want to look back at from time to time. The presentation, framing, design and editing is both tasteful and elegant and rich in content. Good luck to your 2022 journey too. 💐

[venkatasubbaiahmangali]

Even without seeing the video I CAN SAY THAT this change brings US a real Christmas into our life...That is the LEVEL of hope having in you shade !

[htallii]

I am so proud of what I achieved in 2021. I have been hitting the gym religiously since March 2021. I have been following a ketogenic diet along with intermittent fasting since June 2021. These two together have helped me be fitter along with a lot of mental clarity and energy.
I have also been focusing on my financial health since 2018 (invest first, don’t buy crap, live below your means). Thank you, I have bigger goals for 2022 ;)

[krishna]

I was feeling so low for last few days but then your video came.Now seeing this, i have my personal battery full and have started to lead my life with positivity and determination.Thank you for your effort mam.😃♥️

[siddu]

Different way to look at the things.... Twisted and most eye opening words.... Thanks ma'am for this episode

[kulrajchavda]

This is what i needed for a great positive year ahead!
Thanks love your content shadé 💙

[KRGoswami]

Insightful thoughts represented. Those must be popping up from your mind due to well done researched. I have highest gratitude for your sharing your inner voice.

Your videos and shorts will always makes me more positive . . . Thanks for the video.

[akhtarali]

I wish you live long. Love the effort your are trying to put to contribute in the betterment of so many lives.

[shreyashpatil]

Thank you so much Shadé !! You have told me secret of an amazing life !

[beebsblue]

I love how you backed up what you said with evidence. Super helpful video 😊💖💫

[iiamrohit]

The timing of this couldn't have been better. Thank you Shadé!

[aabdille]

I have been listening to your interview on mind valley last week and have ever since enjoy your shorts. Keep doing this wonderful job @Zahraì

[mohammadsobhyyoussef]

Thank you Shade, wish you and your family a happy new year

[aryanyadav]

Thanks for this wonderful video...I will definitely follow ideas you have given to us. Wish you a very happy new year dear.

[rubencaballero]

Amazing video I have an attitude of gratitude a mindset of joy and abundance in all its forms. Most people blindly follow the systems instead of following their goals. It is not what don’t know that hold you back, it’s what you do know that is not true that hold you back. May this new year bring you smiles and good fortune to you. So grateful, thanks.

[mahinshahriar]

Thank you for the effort. Love your work.