How to Practice Being Misunderstood

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[hlagtrvenncvrenst]

I think the scariest thing is when the people who misunderstands us are people that have power over us or our situation, that's when I feel it's really difficult to tolerate being misunderstood.

[gurudra]

When there is no desire to be understood, the fear of being misunderstood never becomes a problem again

[Tameva]

One of the hardest parts about being misunderstood is that oftentimes it comes from people you put on a high pedestal or people you had greater expectations of--the one's you desired empathy from--be it social workers, doctors, parents, or even therapists.

[amyj.]

People pleasing gets tired. I respect myself, so I can appreciate the difference of others

[DunneEducation]

This is so helpful, and incredibly pertinent. My romantic relationship is evolving as we are finding ourselves to be new people than when we started, and requiring different boundaries. I have struggled so deeply with feeling like we are not “seeing eye to eye“on certain emotional things, not really realizing that my inability to except her difference of opinion to be a reflection on my struggle to validate my own feelings. Thanks for sharing your insight with the world, to understand myself more deeply is such a gift.

[heliaalves]

I really had to focus to understand your point. Instead of trying to explain myself, I should just observe what happens and why it happens, and realise different people see things from different perspectives. The thing is when someone matters to you, you want to be understood, and it hurts when you're not and nothing you do makes any difference.

[amy-giacomelli]

Thank you so much for this message. I'm going through this right now with my mother and it hurts to realise she doesn't understand why I may be behaving in a certain way (placing boundaries). I'm learning to let go of feeling understood and reminding myself to know my worth regardless of what others believe to be true. Sending so much love 💓💓💓

[Famaliks]

Thank you Dr. Nicole. Your work is invaluable to human evolution- it’s shifting entire paradigms.

[yonguhlig]

This was EXTREMELY helpful. I realize that I have been invested in having a SHARED REALITY w my soon-to-be-ex. And since he is a covert narcissist, that is simply a set-up for CRAZY-Making.I really never even thought of "Practicing" being misunderstood. Wow. New Paradigm for me. Thank you.

[odettecolato]

This is a great list! I would also add to breathe. Being misunderstood can be really frustrating, and depressing, especially when experienced from those close to us. Bringing attention back onto ourselves, our body can help us navigate the emotions that come up when experiencing being misunderstood. 😌

[NenaLavonne]

Extremely helpful and so well presented! You have such a gift in conveying things in such a calm and loving way. Wishing you a magnificent day! 😊✨✨

[sharonklingemann]

I feel so understood after watching this 😂🤪 but really, it will be helpful to be able to keep boundaries knowing that being misunderstood is not only ok but it's to be expected.

[tamarabucic]

Just this morning I had on repeat in my head "...oh Lord, please don't let me be misundersood" :) :)

[riverpsalmdarksteel]

I just found your videos a few weeks ago and I cannot tell you how helpful they have been to my current life situation. I don't think anything else actually has been so practical and useful to me for where I'm at right now thank you so much for making these videos!

[janedoe]

Being misunderstood can be profoundly painful, even traumatic in some situations. Thank you♡

[teganh]

Experiencing that right now with a colleague. Really trying hard to accept the situation as it is, know that everything will happen as it should and that whatever happens, I'll be okay.

[sarahbarnwell]

We started setting boundaries with my mother in law about a year ago. She became angry and resentful towards us and blamed me although my husband was doing most of the direct communication. The people-pleaser in me feels so guilty about it still, although this is the best thing for us and has been freeing in so many ways. I think a lot of it comes down to us (and our boundaries) being misunderstood, and I have a hard time with that. Thank you for this video it was extremely helpful to us ❤️

[KingPolly]

Thank you! I’ve been practicing this this year & I have to say it is incredibly freeing! I have not known true understanding until my husband, & this has made it easier that others don’t understand me. In 2020, the people pleaser/parent pleaser in me doesn’t have a say anymore.

[MysteriumFascinans]

This is perfectly relevant to my experience tonight. I’m struggling with what may be the dissolution of a long-term relationship... after years of feeling misunderstood. It’s like everything is in many layers that have been compounded. It’s complicated and painful. And of course when I reflect on the conflict that escalated tonight, it began with me feeling deeply and carelessly misunderstood (blame being placed on me, being called selfish for what I feel are my own necessary boundaries).

I feel I may need many lessons on this.

[TheShazzahhh]

Watched this with my husband, we acted out s great example of being misunderstood while he was trying to work out why you would want to practice being misunderstood:)