BORDERLINES Are NICE & KIND People!

This video dives intio the question, are people with borderline personality disorder just misunderstood, nice and kind people.

Thursday, October 24, 2024 10/24/24

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[orionism]

Borderlines often start off by being incredibly warm and kind, using charm to hook you quickly. This initial kindness can be a tactic to create emotional dependency. Once they know you’re attached, their behavior may shift dramatically, revealing cycles of manipulation, blame, or chaotic mood swings. This cycle is not about genuine care; it’s about pulling you in close enough to exploit your emotional investment. Their early kindness isn’t lasting—it’s a strategy, a lure that can lead to pain and confusion. This is how it happened to me and I’m still traumatized by her actions

[AndrewBackus-eyqi]

Biggest lie that these abusers tell to cover their malicious behavior is that they are nice and kind people. It's the wolf in sheep's clothing

[cassandracross-soto]

My BPD ex husband swore up and down he was a nice and kind person. To prove this, he tried to run us both off the road on several occasions (one time successfully-thankfully we both survived). Held me down with a knife at my throat while I cried and begged for my life. Strangled me twice. Flipped over our bed with me on it during a rage. Destroyed household furniture during a rage. Sliced my daughter’s tires when I finally got the courage to leave. I could go on and on….Well because he was so nice and kind, l got a three year PFA Order and filed for divorce, which became final a week ago.
Also, anyone who feels the need to tell you they are nice and kind usually isn’t!!!

[KB-jlnl]

Boderlines are nice when lovebombing then comes splitting and that's when you wonder what happened and that started the learning process of being devalued and then discarded

[loriwhalen]

Excellent video David.
Every diagnosed borderline that I have ever known and loved, ( Mother, best friend, daughter) has had many times of being kind and giving, But they have ALL been on a similar cycle of being kind, devaluation and cruel discard. All of them, and they have never ever changed and become healthy or even apologized for unusual cruel behavior.

[adamd]

Lol "I'm a kind person!"
*immediately threatens you*

[robertban]

You and Sam Vaknin are my go-to channels when I need to gain insight and knowledge on this topic. For me this has been an invaluable part of my healing process coming from a 15 year long relationship with a person having most likely BPD (undiagnosed). Where I live there are no (none that I have come across) therapists that have been able to help me sofar. Keep up the good work. Love from Sweden.

[GreatRegression]

98% of the time, my mother is the kindest, sweetest person on the planet. 2% of the time, she is the most evil demon sent from the deepest of the pits of Hell. Splitting will come completely out of nowhere.
The 98% is far more than negated by the 2%.

[CalmBeforeTheStorm]

The woman I was with was very proud of how polite she was... and she *could be polite*. But, she was nice and kind to people she wanted things from. To myself, she just looked for reasons to be mean, dismissive, and made up reasons we couldn't be together. The push pull is so destructive.

[jasec]

Anyone that makes up false lies to smear you to anyone that listens (after they discard you), aren't kind, nice, caring, decent people. They're evil.

[ZTwo]

it always the most self righteous thing you've ever heard then a threat in the nicest way possible.

[Hurkuhntreeks]

Borderlines are as bad a narcissists imo at times. Any cluster b disorder tends to ruin society❤

[clintmoffet]

Hahahahahaha! They were kindly threatening you and trying to make you feel guilty. It was out of the kindness of their heart.

You sir are a gentleman and a scholar. Major props to you sir

[hanlrr]

You are doing amazing work man. You most likely know this already, but you are helping out a lot of people. and what i really like about your videos is that you aren't sugarcoating anything. you are saying the truth, you are saying what needs to be heard. and i also like how you show genuine emotion and really emphasize how bad something is, instead of remaining monotone about it. very happy i found your channel, and will continue to support it.

[deviMa]

Every time I try to get any of them to take accountability for what they've done, they tell me I've got them confused with narcissists, they label ME a narcissist, and that I'm contributing to the stigma of the disorder. I'm also currently being smeared and slandered by one of them and their flying monkeys.

[mariatobin]

Thank you David for all your hard work and desire to help us all these years! I've learned so much from you and my life is better thanks to you. Words cannot express my true appreciation. ❤

[brandoncmela]

They will have sex with you like crazy but once they have you! The intimacy is gone! It’s wild! They will cheat and act like nothing happened. There nuts

[TCFDS]

My ex partner with undiagnosed BPD was actually the kindest, most caring, nicest, sweetest, wonderful human I had ever met…until she wasn’t.

The post-discard smear campaign is the most cruel, spiteful, hateful, selfish, twisted, disgusting, manipulative, terrible, and completely horrifying behavior I have EVER personally encountered in my entire life, without question. She is an extremely sick person. Ironically, she knows, and even points out the traits and behaviors that make her borderline. She makes every excuse to not get help, and I truly feel sorry for her, and embarrassed for caring so much.

I will never blame her for her behaviors, it is NOT her fault, but until she takes responsibility for her actions, she will continue the cycle. I feel bad for all the new people who fall victim to her eventual abuse and destruction.

This woman absolutely destroyed me. Thank you for everything.

[tugnormoustuglicous]

I have never dated a pwBPD that hasn't absolutely destroyed others. Sure they are nice people but their disorder makes it all moot

[ttc]

David. I love your videos. You always make me laugh. I totally get and appreciate your sarcasm. Keep up the great work.