This Is Why So Many Women Are Single

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[lifesIronyboard]

I was with my wife for 30 years when she died. As an older gentleman, who had a relationship that went longer than many of you have lived, I will give you a story. I was in a luxury mall with my wife. She saw this cool looking handbag and I told her if she wanted it I would get it for her. Her answer was to angrily tell me there was no way she wanted to waste our money on something like that. She told me many times how stressful she thought our careers were and she knew having savings reduced that stress. We didn't live a luxury life and we accepted each other fully, flaws and all and I wouldn't trade a second of those 30 years.

Now that I am widowed, I know life is a lot better with a good, kind, caring partner than alone.

[theonlykalonji]

"if you are so quick to write someone off over miniscule things that truly don't matter at all, that signals to me that you're actually emotionally unavailable and no where near mentally ready or capable of a healthy relationship."

just this. so much this.

[seanhoude]

Far too many women today, demand the authority of a Man, the privilege of a Woman, and the accountability of a Child, all while claiming victimhood status under the Patriarchy. So as a guy that identifies with all the men out there that have checked out on all this nonsense, it's so refreshing to hear that examples of sensible women actually exist. Thank you, Courtney.

[adamp]

As a man in his 40s who has been dating the last 1.5 years, I can tell you exactly why women are single. I'll just say, I am over 6 feet tall, I have a six pack, I make well into six figures, own a home, former model, etc., etc., etc. With all that, I struggle horribly to get a date with anyone. To date, I've been using the apps for the most part (Hinge, Bumble and Tinder), but I'm trying to move away from them. Most women use the apps and apps are what's doing it. I have dozens upon dozens of matches in Hinge (hundreds, really), and 98% all end the same way. We match, I text, maybe she answers once, I text again, she vanishes. Rinse and repeat.

Even when I get far enough to set up a date, 90% of the time she will flake, usually the day before. One wrong text, they're gone forever. We live in such a throw-away society that women will drop a guy for the slightest thing at any time, and actively LOOK for disqualifiers constantly, and thanks to the apps they believe there will always be 1000 men behind the one she just dropped that she can choose from. This is so painfully obvious. I see the same women on these apps that were there almost two years ago, still swiping, still ghosting, still believing the perfect guy is the next swipe. Unrealistic standards, zero tolerance for imperfection, choice paralysis and delusion are the reason women are still single. And it gets worse as they get older. By far, BY FAR the worst offenders are women in their mid-late 30s and 40s. They are the most picky, most entitled, most unpleasant and hardest to tolerate. I don't say any of this out of pleasure, I'm just stating my experience, which I'm sure is shared by the vast majority of men out there. It's almost an unwinnable situation.

[mimicotom]

I'm 65, Courtney. And I have seen women reject men for the simplest excuses, going back 40 years. This is nothing new, but it seems to be more amplified now, than it was when I was a young man. I blame social media for this. Women (and men) have to compromise. Not change your wants in a mate, but be forgiving if he/she does not meet your standards 100%.

[Telltalesign]

As one of those women who work and manage my business at home, I kinda end up getting stuck inside the house in front of my PC or Laptop most days of the year. I think she's right on that part where women do not put themselves in the position of meeting new people, preventing themselves from finding a suitable candidate. I remember this one tiktok saying: Bruh, you think your soulmate will just barge into your house? If he did, that's not your soulmate; that's probably a robber. 😅

Still find that joke funny.

[michaeluphoff]

THANK YOU. Say it louder for the people in the back about unrealistic expectations, Courtney. Most modern women want perfection without being anything close to perfection themselves, and they lack accountability and the ability to accept the consequences of their decisions. It's mind-boggling.

[egcg]

This channel helps me feel a little more validated as a man. It’s been really important to me

[kingofkings]

The moment a girl requires me to “fly her out” or buy her a car or designer bag, she drops down to a 2 to me doesn’t matter how fine she is. When things become monetary, gentleman, you’re just dealing with a transaction.

[tsietsiramakatsa]

I really loved the point about viewing dating as another career. I'm an introvert as well, and much more into staying at home vs going out, but something a pastor once said spoke to this and gave me clarity that spurred me forward to being more active: "you say - Pastor, 'I'm looking for a life-partner', but you have no life! What life are you inviting them to?"

And living life to the full is not merely about looking to meet someone, its about learning to be fulfilled as an individual as well, so as to approach relationships in a healthy manner.

[lawrence]

Here are a couple of reasons that may have not been addressed:

1) Dissappointment with previous romantic partners
2) Refuses to make fair and appropriate compromises
3) Wants to avoid men who will only use them (this one is fair)

[AlexanderSkinnerVids]

Misandry does not solve misogyny. Oftentimes, it makes it worse.

[darrenthompson]

I do believe social media has ruined us all. Yes it’s great to keep in contact with others but it’s set so much of a bar that if your not living the perfect life in someone else’s eyes you have no chance.

[donaldmackerer]

Two important things she failed to mention to women who are still single, work on your personality and character more. If you have a bad personality or practically none at all, hardly anybody will be attracted to you. If you don't have a strong sense of integrity, and you keep breaking promises or making promises that you have no intention of keeping how do you expect a decent man to trust you? If you don't have a strong sense of fair play and right and wrong, then how do you expect a man of quality to respect you? All the makeup and nice clothes in the world won't overcome these flaws 4 man with high standards. In fact too much makeup sometimes can make you look like a clown or a little tacky

[pyroseed]

The idea that you would need to go on dates with 200 people to find someone you are "compatible" with is hilarious to me. Most people are not that complex.

[angelacosta]

I think relationships are about leaving your selfish interests behind and coming together as a team. Building a life together can be difficult, but the hard times is what will make or break the relationship. But if your willing to put the work in for each other it will lead to a much happier and fulfilling marriage. Social media just defines a good man as someone who has a lot of money and can provide a luxury lifestyle.

[positive_vibes_]

I’m 32 and never been in a relationship. I’ve been told by many that I’m a great guy. Definitely living proof that they’re are great men out there. Hoping that “single” status changes for me

[jazzyjake]

For me, I feel like a lot of women don’t give me a decent chance. Most of the women I see don’t last more than two dates, and it’s really hard to want to keep dating when I feel like no one really wants to give you an honest chance.

[Saltpork]

I think you nailed it on the why. It's unrealistic expectations and also something I call the princess mindset: 'One day a prince will come and save me from everything wrong with my life including me' is a deeply ingrained belief some women have from childhood and those who don't grow out of it don't realize just how toxic it is. No one can fix you but you. No one will fall from the sky and be your perfect match. It always takes effort and in long term relationships compromise. People, even those who click, will have friction. It's just the nature of being with people.

tl;dr - Don't expect anyone to save you. Get off your ass and try.

[-Hercules-]

I love the perspective that you give both men and women. You are very humble, kind and realistic in the way you approach the situation. I wish more women would listen to your words and adopt your way of thinking. Social media is definitely a big reason why both women and men are against each other. We should be working together to understand each other not blame and judge each other. Look for the good in each other but not the other way around. It will only lead to good rather than bad. We aren't separate, together we are one.