How Non-Monogamy Changed Me

Wanna know the story of how I became a non-monogamous person?

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[isabellehunsinger]

I really needed this. My partner and I are ENM and it's been very, very difficult for me. It started off with him exploring with men but now he's found someone afab just like me and I've been incredibly insecure about it. To the point where we're fighting a lot about it. All I want is for my partner to be happy but the jealousy is so hard to deal with. But your video gave me another way to look at it.

I want my partner to feel loved and cared for and for him to experience the s3x he wants that I can't provide for him. He is his own person with his own fantasies and desires and I'd feel incredibly selfish if I didn't let him experience those things with other people.

But this makes me realize that I want the same thing too. My partner and I are both queer. I experience attraction towards any gender and I've always wanted to explore that but I'm so afraid of not being the "good girl." I feel like if I do that then there's something wrong with me or my relationship. I feel like I'm cheating or being a bad person but I don't want to feel that way anymore. I want to be like my partner and be open to all kinds of affection and experiences. You've helped me realize that being a good girl keeps you from your desires.

Thank you for this video. It was very helpful.

[melancholyofmanny]

Such an amazing video glad to see a black woman talking about this subject ❤❤

[shanekahowellmivida]

Greetings, beautiful goddess 👑
Your video was refreshing! I enjoyed hearing your perspectives, experiences, and evolution through your upbeat and confident personality. Thank you. I hope all is well. 💕

[ChanningLewis-pvld]

Glad I came across this because I’ve been working up the nerve to bring this to my husband. My mindset surrounding relationships has changed over the last few years and I realized how restrictive monogamous relationships can be. One person cannot meet all of the needs of another person and it should be okay to explore other ways of getting those needs met outside of the main relationship. And that doesn’t always equate to sexual needs.

[azizaciofassa]

lmao it's the dad saying that it happens on SPECIFIC days for me hahaha

[robhabash]

More non monogamy content. Me and my wife started exploring it a few years ago. It is a lot of work. Like way more than I was anticipating and I think non monogamous people should share more trials and tribulations and how to work through it. There are very very few guides out there. Like is, we are just winging it day to day and it is so flipping hard.

[kalekoi]

thank you for sharing your experience! i really think/hope that given some time, non monogamy will just become more and more normalized

[mishukat]

This is an amazing video and I am happy you have had a wonderful experience. I know I am non-manogamous yet I find that many people are working out their agendas through the lence of non-monogamy. My last relationship was with two other women, and it was all well until I moved in and then noticed that I couldn;t mesh with them at all. It was like they had to uncouple in order to let me in, but I always felt like an outsider between them. Once of them particularly always got mad if she walked in the room and we were having a chat, she felt we were discussing her which was never something that happened. Or, she would say that I only cared for the other and not her, or that I was ironic and on and on, a constant critique of my person and always pointing out my flaws. I almost felt like because I was the person that was taking her wife's attention that she recented me for making more money than she did, for the clothes I wear, for how I speak or for what I eat or just everything about me. Then when we would be intimate she would sit there like a creepy voyeur, would have limitations of what I could and couldn't do to her or to our other partner. I was very weird, I felt like I had to walk in eggsshells with her. But eventually it didnt work because I needed more, I needed freedom to be loved openly and love others openly. I also starting fighting back and talking back and she didn't lke being challenged. But this is why I say, that some people say they want a non-monogamous relationship but so long as they get to control you and the dynamic.... that's bullshit, and this happens a lot in poly relationships.

[JaneChristensen.]

Polyamourous life broadens us. I can't imagine doing non monogamy any other way.

[natashakalungu]

I just found your channel. I'm in love with someone who's fluid in all aspects of life. I'm slowly learning to know what love is for me. Thank you for sharing. You're really awesome. I'd love to watch more related content.

[theseamossbruja]

It’s the communication part for me. Gratitude for the communication part from your partner. 🙏🏼💕

[robbylebotha]

Its fun and liberating, but it never ends well.

You're going to learn the hard way that a man who is comfortable with you being layed by other men, that man does not love, respect or value you and will eventually leave you. He's pretending to be happy with it because thats what he needs to do to get his own cake and eat it too.

I was also into the non-monogamy life. It is not something you do with your wife or a woman you intend to marry, it doesnt end well.


Good luck. Love, light and all that.

[pianistchicks]

Thank you so much for this video! As the "poly" partner in a currently monogamous marriage, you're really giving me hope.

[QueenBookLeo]

Thank you for this ! I appreciate you sharing your journey. I’ve always considered my beliefs around sex, dating, and relationships to be non traditional. Which I am 1000 % okay with #HOESBEWINNING lol However, recently I’ve began to explore ENM as a way of life that describes how I feel. It is fresh trying to date this way as I prefer to meet men in the wild and I’m still exploring which dynamic under that umbrella feels the best. Keep the videos coming ❤

[benfaust]

Loved the video! This is the most positive, uplifting video I've seen on the subject so far, and I've watched a lot of them. I've seen the beginnings of the personal growth you mentioned a couple who are friends. ;-) I subscribed and hope to see more!

[chrissyj]

I just found your channel and this is the first video and I am hooked ❤

[ymsg]

Interesting. Stay safe out here in these streets!

[luissalazar]

Good job team, glad you enjoyed your self

[emel]

Oof, “i’m bored in this relationship, i want to open it” seems like an incredibly harsh way to approach the conversation 🥲

Your experience is really interesting though, thank you for sharing ❤️

[mattroberts]

I think your dad didn't see it happening, I think he was doing it himself lol. I think it's really cool that he told you about that instead of saying it's cheating and wrong.. Very cool.