How to Declutter for Someone Who Has ADHD

#autistic

[rebeccacunningham]

Dude's a better psychologist than most psychologists.

[KowaiZuzu]

Honestly, hearing someone talk so respectfully about ADHD mess makes me genuinely emotional. I'm not used to seeing people like me being treated so kindly. It's either judgement or pity. Never just "here's how things are and how we're working with it".

[winlou]

Neurodivergent folks helping out other neurodivergent folks. Just like we always have. Love it.

[trbl]

i’ve never felt more seen, heard, understood, and valued 😭😭😭

[sallyloda]

OMG! ADHD moment. When my son was in highschool, his room was a disaster area. I challenged him and said to him that I bet he didn't even know where {a thing, I think it was a moose} was. He was lying on his bed, and without even breaking eye contact with me calmly reached under his bed, grabbed the thing and handed it to me. I never complained about his room again 😅😂🤣. He's awesome by the way. ❤

[notwearingawire]

I'm 44, a mental health therapist, AND I have both ADHD and bipolar disorder. I have been shamed my whole life for the semi-organized chaos that I live in. The way that you approached this with such wonderful empathy and humor was, no lie, healing for me. I regret that I have only one account to subscribe with. You are truly a special person. Thank you! <3

[missheju]

1:07 I respect you.
It is not laziness
It is not immaturity
We are only going throw away real garbage.
Thank you for respecting them.

[sjahope]

to be honest, i did not expect this level of compassion/understanding of neurodivergence and lighthearted comedy from someone with this voice xD

[SeafTime]

This should be required viewing by all psychiatrists, psychologists, teachers, and parents, oh, and other cleaners of course!

[cortneymc]

I’m married to an ADHD person. Years ago I created “Brad boxes” in all the rooms. 2 in the kitchen. So when I’m cleaning I can throw his stuff in the Brad Boxes. It didn’t take long for him to learn to look in those boxes first for any stuff he needs. Saves me time and saves me from constantly telling him where stuff is.
Then if company comes by I can move the boxes into an unused room.

[MothNeo]

whoever started the idea that autistic people don't have a sense of humor clearly doesn't understand dry humor. this was by far one of the funniest videos i've watched in a while.

[angelica]

The DOOM piles are a way of putting all the visual chaos into one spot. It’s an acronym for Didn’t Organize, Only Moved. Each item in the pile will require extra brain energy, maybe because it doesn’t have a designated spot or because there’s a decision to make / action to take around it (like with mail, it may need a reply, and that’s a separate task). When you don’t have the time or energy in the moment, you add it to a pile or box or bag with things that need similar attention so you can handle it when you do have the time and energy. The piles are a strategy to manage stuff in the moment so it doesn’t look so overwhelming. It’s a constant struggle, so thank you for understanding and being compassionate.

[ADollOnAMusicBox]

“Candy wrapper, broken box, your mom…”
I almost spit my coffee out

[witchcraftyasmr]

I started crying after you acknowledged that for people with ADHD even receiving help with things like cleaning or organizing can feel like the people in your life belittling you or looking at you as bad because you can’t take care of it yourself. This is my daily reality, I wake up everyday wanting to clean my house and have everything organized, but feeling like it’s useless because it’s just going to become a mess again. Then the paralysis starts and it feels like you’re suffocating just looking at it all and it’s going to swallow you whole… it’s getting better, learning to take care of what’s right in front of me instead of everything that needs to be done, but sometimes that doesn’t make me feel like any less of a failure for not getting it all done.

Thanks for the video, it’s inspiring.

[BadNessie]

I really appreciate that you don't just see the clutter, but the humans behind it. Respecting people the way they are is something we need a lot more of in this world. Thanks for spreading the word, man!

[Ruezy]

As someone with a perpetual floordrobe, I can tell you that the morning after when you wake up and can walk across a room without stepping over piles is one of the biggest reliefs while also kicking my perpetual anxiety up just half a notch.

[AshleyEllwood]

"If your friend comes over with depression, you wouldnt yell at them for being depressed. And, if you do, they're the one that needs to find a new friend, not you."

Beautiful!! Love how stern that line was delivered.

[robind]

For the first time in my life I feel like someone understands me.

[theangrybuddhaofficial]

The out of sight out of mind thing is absolutely spot on.

- Adult with ADHD

[fionafitzsimmons]

Mac, I have ADHD & I was almost in tears listening to you describe how we deal with things. It’s almost impossible to explain to someone without the condition, that in order for us to cope with how our brains work, we have to do things in a way that seems chaotic to them.

Also, thanks for the tip about the wolves. I always kept mine in a plastic bag, but they used to escape and chase my moose around the house, which was quite irritating. Now I have them stored tidily in a locked cupboard and my moose is much happier. 👍