The 6 Keys to Overcoming a Trauma Bond to Get Out of A Toxic Relationship

The 6 keys to overcoming a trauma bond and finally get out of that toxic relationship

In this video, I go through six keys to getting out of a trauma bond relationship. This is in depth work, so you may want to do it with a therapist, however, I hope this video will give you useful information to understand what it takes to being able to overcome a trauma bond and be free from your toxic relationship.

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[tomzxbg]

1. seek help, leave immediately, take it seriously
2. seek therapy. feel your feelings, be hyper-vigilant with how you are affected. be connected with self. tune into YOU. dont numb/dim feelings
3. establish conscious boundaries. what are non-negotiables? time/ mental/ emotional/ physical/ sexual/material boundaries. am i repressing them?
4. what are you addicted to? conscious mind recognizes it’s not good but subconscious takes over and keeps going back. identify the need that is being met and learn to meet it another way
5. trait variety. what traits do they have that make us feel whole that we can develop in ourselves instead?
6. reprogram belief patterns “i’ll be alone forever” (scarcity principle) and develop support systems
7. set boundaries
8. heal imprints. why are my alarm bells not going off? make list of behaviors they treat you with and dont treat yourself the same way

[colorfullyme]

"I'm not going to find someone I connect to in the same way.... and hopefully you dont!" lol girl i needed to hear that thank you!!

[loragilman]

Hello! I have been listening to Thais for 4 months now and have found the courage to stop retraumatizing myself and stop strategies with others. I am so grateful for this love and logic work. I joined the school yesterday.

[MisuZama]

6mnths ago I was such a different person. The growth is so good yet has had and continues to have moments of real pain. Not trying to rush the healing, not trying to rush being more secure Thanks for being so relevant

[Michelle-qqsd]

I have been listening to you for almost 2 years and I still learn new things! Amazing.

[rugrat]

I've been in therapy of different sorts for 46 years for CPTSD.
I'd like to know WHY NOT 1 psychiatrist or therapist taught me about a trauma bond. Or how to set boundaries & stick to them.
Really pisses me off bc it could've saved me YEARS OF PAIN🤬

[skylar]

Be careful who you choose as your therapist. I was in couples therapy with my ex and when I tried to set boundaries with non-negotiables, the therapist would baby him. The sessions with her just retraumatized me and left me feeling even more disempowered.

[sara_sofia_]

Is it possible to become trauma-bonded to a dismissive-avoidant not because of abuse, but because of emotional neglect? I can't figure out why I'm so attached to this person and I find it so hard to leave even though it's clear that he is not willing to meet my attachment needs and his distance to my suffering hurts me a lot. In the past, I was in a relationship with a NPD that was extremely abusive and it was much easier to leave. I feel so much joy when I spend time with the DA, I have a belief that I'll never find anyone else that brings me so much joy, because I have never found it before. But he is never willing to give me enough time together to meet my need for connection and emotional support and I'm always hungry for more - that's why I want to leave. I don't know what to do, up until now I have been having a lot of difficulty keeping my boundary for distance...

[tinajones]

I am understanding that I am in this and have to leave. It's sad to me but I want to be happy. Pray for me please.

[motogal]

Thank you for your amazing, helpful content.

[katten]

In a dynamic like this that I can't leave, one moment I'm so happy and in love, the other I feel miserable. I don't know what to do with myself.

[helenachase]

Omg, I'm in a trauma bond again.
It's because of my poor relationship with myself.

[nataliaestrella]

So how do you meet your personality need for romantic relationships but also make sure that you are not staying latched on to trauma bond? And how do you meet that need to just not repeat the pattern with someone new?

[MyHeadHurts]

Im scared
I don't want it to end
:-( i just want him to get better and treat me right
😢

[notaleftistbaby]

See a therapist.. umm.. ok super helpful🙄
do you know all the research on talk therapy says it does nothing or harms people in most cases?

Seek help.. k that is what we are doing.

Feel emotions... yes how to be a human 101.

Set boundaries- we are literally here because WE CAN'T.

Nothing helpful to me here. This is stuff I can figure out by ruminating in my own mind which I do almost constantly.