The Struggles of Being a Trans Lesbian

All the YouTube channels I mentioned:

[LinkMorganM]

being a pre-transition lesbian is really tough. girls see me as a guy and i don't want to be in a heterosexual relationship. starting my transition soon but MAN dating is so hard when your body doesn't match your identity

[alexandravalentina]

I have a friend who’s trans and has been transitioning since a teenager as well. She always thought she was into men only, as she came out as a gay boy first at 11, the transitioned at 15-16. Now that she’s 22, she’s having a sexuality crisis… she told me… and is realizing that she’s really into women. I know she’s scared but know this video will be helpful for her. So thank you on her behalf haha :)

[laurenalexander]

I'm 35. Growing up, I didn't even know trans lesbians were a thing. So I didn't think I was trans. Everyone in high school was convinced I was a gay guy, despite my protests. Thought for years, "Maybe I'm just bi or something?". Used that label for years, but then I tried being with a guy, and was miserable. Came out as trans at 33. Realized I was a lesbian a few months after.

Your vids helped. I grew up not being able to make sense of my sexuality. It was extremely confusing to me. I thought I was the only one.

[milliescient]

Thank you for so perfectly summing up the double imposter syndrome of trans lesbianism: "I feel like my identity as a lesbian invalidates my identity as a trans woman, and my identity as a trans woman invalidates my identity as a lesbian." Your content is so clear and affirming.

[anarchaqueerswillsavetheworld]

i'm also a trans lesbian, but i'm a transman and butch. i can relate to a lot of your experiences because cis lesbians often see me the same way they see cis straight men and this is just not the case. what really helps me is to look into butch history, trans lesbian history and to find people whom felt the way i do in every part of human history. much love, i love us trans lesbians, both transgirls, transmen and everyone, who doesn't fit into those boxes :-)

[annaxeon]

As a cis lesbian I am thankful for this video. It helped me to understand the perspective of trans lesbians and it also helped to inform me on some of the trials and tribulations that trans lesbians can go through. I feel that I would be proud to date a trans woman because that wouldn’t invalidate my identity as a lesbian any less and this video helped to remind me of that. So thank you so much for sharing your story it really means a lot. <3

[oliviawyatt]

This is why I subscribed to you. Because this is exactly how I feel as a transwoman that is attracted to woman. It's hard to call myself a lesbian because of my trans identity. It's nice to know I'm not alone. Thank you for making this video it really helped.

[kyoka_daz]

I, m not trans but I respect trans people

[raedioheaddd]

I am so happy I found your youtube channel and this video. The girl that I am seeing rn is a trans lesbian, I am a non-binary lesbian and ive been struggling to find information of how she might be feeling or has felt in the past. I’m unsure the best way to ask her some of these very personal questions as we just started seeing each other but it is important to me that she feels completely safe and understood when she is with me. Thank you for sharing your story, this representation is so important<3

[billionai]

This is very interesting, because growing up I felt the exact opposite. I never had any troubles accepting that I liked girls, but growing in a very transphobic place, I could never accept that I liked feminine things. I did, however, have a very weird attraction history (not gonna say dating history cause I married the only woman I dated lol). I could never see girls in the way that other boys talked about them and I was always very awkward when trying to take the first step, because it always felt wrong to me. Accepting myself as trans, I can see now why it was such a hard thing for me to believe girls would like me (maybe I should watch some lesbian coming out stories?)...

This is a long winded way to say thank you for this video! You gave me a lot to think about!

[Emibulla]

Thank you for this, I am a young trans woman who also are a lesbian, this video meant a lot to me and I just wanted to say that you are an amazing person and thank you for making this 😊

[Bookmothic]

I know I’m late to the watch, but it’s been nice to hear someone with a similar identity and of a similar age talk about this kinda stuff. It took me a while to accept being a lesbian after coming out as transfemme, but that’s who I am. I’ve always liked girls… but it took me a bit to start figuring gender out.

[Monberry]

The best part of realizing I was a trans lesbian is finally being able to date somewhat comfortably. As an egg I didn’t feel comfortable dating because I wasn’t who I wanted to be, and I would also find myself more attracted to lesbians due to wanting to be a woman and them being the people I’d date

[asterobiology]

I totally get that. It wasn't until I found your channel that I realized that my dysphoria and attraction to women could coexist, and your channel has been such an inspiration. There are very few trans-lesbian youtubers, and the only other one I have found is Contrapoints, and she has a very good video describing a similar conundrum, I think it is called "Shame."

[llpp]

have u heard of Contrapoints? her video 'shame" is about her figuring she was translesbian and how hard it was, I think she is releasing another video detailing struggles that translesbians specifically go through

[nakyrolly]

I’m so comforted by your experience and the words you said, this is the only safe space I have available since I may never be able to transition 😿

[DionaTakesWs]

the way you sound when you talk is so compelling i just wanna finish the video everytime

[francais]

I literally find it impossible the amount of wisdom that you have for 20 years old (I believe). I can't begin to express to you how important this video is for me. I love and accept you too :)

[etherealradar]

Im 30 years old, livin that CIS life, I've known I was like you since pre-school always been out about it cause lets face it folks don't know understand anyway. What you said about "People accepting your legitamacy as a lesbian them first needing to accept your legitamacy as a woman" YES. All I can say from where I'm standing is YOU MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

[himejoshi_elder_faerie]

thank you for putting this video out there! it means a lot to me. i think i am a transfem lesbian and i relate to a lot of the things you said and it’s a little difficult for me cuz i don’t know where to start with my transition. im taking it one step at a time and im rlly grateful for having supportive queer friends. have a nice day :))