Why Do Jews Place Stones on Graves

There's a lot of history behind this Jewish tradition. Here are some of the reasons why Jews place stones on the graves of their loved ones.

[derfer]

I want to visit the tombstone if a Jewish pal, but was not sure what to bring. Thank you for this!

[TheShmoo]

I just read a story in the news about some of the cobblestones in the streets of Prague being hewn from Jewish gravestones in the area. A man on his way to work in the 80, s had noticed a fresh pile waiting to be laid that day and noticed Hebrew letters on the side that would obviously be face down, so he took some and still has them today. The mans name is Leo Pavlat and he is the director of the Prague Jewish museum.

[gladysrodriguezpitre]

Short, sweet and actually quite beautiful. Thank you.

[Gaming.Gamer.]

Someone told me about that not long ago. It made me very curious so I looked this up since his explanation when I asked why this is a thing was a bit meh and I still couldn't understand it since I'm not jewish (and not really religious at all either).
Your explanation was very good and made it easier to understand the intention behind this for me.
Thank you very much for your help. 👍

[contact]

Beautiful!
Thank you for sharing, this eternal principle.
Much appreciated.
Shalom
Moira
From England. ♥

[deborahlongo]

I had asked a Jewish friend, about the stones. She said “because they’re too cheap to buy flowers “ I laughed!

[BanaiFeldstein]

That's a poetic reason for something that had a completely different original reason.
In Israel, they leave flowers.
I learned that we leave stones because Jews in the US wanted to differentiate themselves from Christians, who placed flowers.

[SWSimpson]

With all the Jewish people that have been in my life, and I never knew this? It's very sweet. Not some Fakakta cemetery thing, but very sweet.

[adrianak]

I'm not Jewish but my grandkids are they have said to me nana but rocks on grandmother tombstone i have done this for awhile i have noticed several rocks on my path? I'm thinking this is a sign of my two parents saying we are with you at all times..❤❤ 💐

[biblereadingoutreach]

Genesis 28:18
And Jacob rose up early in the morning, and took the 🪨stone that he had put for his pillows, and set it up for a pillar, and poured oil upon the top of it.

Genesis 28:22
And this 🪨stone, which I have set for a pillar, shall be God's house: and of all that thou shalt give me I will surely give the tenth unto thee.

[Canadiana]

Is it rude to take a rock from a headstone as a keepsake? Or is that disrespectful?

[sharonrigs]

Are there any stones that are preferable or prohibited?

[gladysrodriguezpitre]

Question : Can we pray by a non Jewish loved one and leave stones on their grave site area? Obviously the loved one is not in a Jewish cemetery.

Any thoughtful insight would be much appreciated.

[checkerzzzgaminghi]

That's why as A Jew I'd want No One At My Grave

[deckiedeckie]

The Lord's Faithless Bride
1Again the word of the Lord came to me: 2"Son of man, make known to Jerusalem her abominations, 3and say, Thus says the Lord God to Jerusalem: Your origin and your birth are of the land of the Canaanites; your father was an Amorite and your mother a Hittite. 4And as for your birth, on the day you were born your cord was not cut, nor were you washed with water to cleanse you, nor rubbed with salt, nor wrapped in swaddling cloths. 5No eye pitied you, to do any of these things to you out of compassion for you, but you were cast out on the open field, for you were abhorred, on the day that you were born.
6"And when I passed by you and saw you wallowing in your blood, I said to you in your blood, 'Live!' I said to you in your blood, 'Live!' 7I made you flourish like a plant of the field. And you grew up and became tall and arrived at full adornment. Your breasts were formed, and your hair had grown; yet you were naked and bare.
8"When I passed by you again and saw you, behold, you were at the age for love, and I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness; I made my vow to you and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Lord God, and you became mine. 9Then I bathed you with water and washed off your blood from you and anointed you with oil. 10I clothed you also with embroidered cloth and shod you with fine leather. I wrapped you in fine linen and covered you with silk. 11And I adorned you with ornaments and put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. 12And I put a ring on your nose and earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. 13Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty. 14And your renown went forth among the nations because of your beauty, for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord God.
15"But you trusted in your beauty and played the whore because of your renown and lavished your whorings on any passerby; your beauty became his. 16You took some of your garments and made for yourself colorful shrines, and on them played the whore. The like has never been, nor ever shall be. 17You also took your beautiful jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I had given you, and made for yourself images of men, and with them played the whore. 18And you took your embroidered garments to cover them, and set my oil and my incense before them. 19Also my bread that I gave you—I fed you with fine flour and oil and honey—you set before them for a pleasing aroma; and so it was, declares the Lord God. 20And you took your sons and your daughters, whom you had borne to me, and these you sacrificed to them to be devoured. Were your whorings so small a matter 21that you slaughtered my children and delivered them up as an offering by fire to them? 22And in all your abominations and your whorings you did not remember the days of your youth, when you were naked and bare, wallowing in your blood.
23"And after all your wickedness (woe, woe to you! declares the Lord God), 24you built yourself a vaulted chamber and made yourself a lofty place in every square. 25At the head of every street you built your lofty place and made your beauty an abomination, offering yourself to any passerby and multiplying your whoring. 26You also played the whore with the Egyptians, your lustful neighbors, multiplying your whoring, to provoke me to anger. 27Behold, therefore, I stretched out my hand against you and diminished your allotted portion and delivered you to the greed of your enemies, the daughters of the Philistines, who were ashamed of your lewd behavior. 28You played the whore also with the Assyrians, because you were not satisfied; yes, you played the whore with them, and still you were not satisfied. 29You multiplied your whoring also with the trading land of Chaldea, and even with this you were not satisfied.
30"How sick is your heart, declares the Lord God, because you did all these things, the deeds of a brazen prostitute, 31building your vaulted chamber at the head of every street, and making your lofty place in every square. Yet you were not like a prostitute, because you scorned payment. 32Adulterous wife, who receives strangers instead of her husband! 33Men give gifts to all prostitutes, but you gave your gifts to all your lovers, bribing them to come to you from every side with your whorings. 34So you were different from other women in your whorings. No one solicited you to play the whore, and you gave payment, while no payment was given to you; therefore you were different.
35"Therefore, O prostitute, hear the word of the Lord: 36Thus says the Lord God, Because your lust was poured out and your nakedness uncovered in your whorings with your lovers, and with all your abominable idols, and because of the blood of your children that you gave to them, 37therefore, behold, I will gather all your lovers with whom you took pleasure, all those you loved and all those you hated. I will gather them against you from every side and will uncover your nakedness to them, that they may see all your nakedness. 38And I will judge you as women who commit adultery and shed blood are judged, and bring upon you the blood of wrath and jealousy. 39And I will give you into their hands, and they shall throw down your vaulted chamber and break down your lofty places. They shall strip you of your clothes and take your beautiful jewels and leave you naked and bare. 40They shall bring up a crowd against you, and they shall stone you and cut you to pieces with their swords. 41And they shall burn your houses and execute judgments upon you in the sight of many women. I will make you stop playing the whore, and you shall also give payment no more. 42So will I satisfy my wrath on you, and my jealousy shall depart from you. I will be calm and will no more be angry. 43Because you have not remembered the days of your youth, but have enraged me with all these things, therefore, behold, I have returned your deeds upon your head, declares the Lord God. Have you not committed lewdness in addition to all your abominations?
44"Behold, everyone who uses proverbs will use this proverb about you: 'Like mother, like daughter.' 45You are the daughter of your mother, who loathed her husband and her children; and you are the sister of your sisters, who loathed their husbands and their children. Your mother was a Hittite and your father an Amorite. 46And your elder sister is Samaria, who lived with her daughters to the north of you; and your younger sister, who lived to the south of you, is Sodom with her daughters. 47Not only did you walk in their ways and do according to their abominations; within a very little time you were more corrupt than they in all your ways. 48As I live, declares the Lord God, your sister Sodom and her daughters have not done as you and your daughters have done. 49Behold, this was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had pride, excess of food, and prosperous ease, but did not aid the poor and needy. 50They were haughty and did an abomination before me. So I removed them, when I saw it. 51Samaria has not committed half your sins. You have committed more abominations than they, and have made your sisters appear righteous by all the abominations that you have committed. 52Bear your disgrace, you also, for you have intervened on behalf of your sisters. Because of your sins in which you acted more abominably than they, they are more in the right than you. So be ashamed, you also, and bear your disgrace, for you have made your sisters appear righteous.
53"I will restore their fortunes, both the fortunes of Sodom and her daughters, and the fortunes of Samaria and her daughters, and I will restore your own fortunes in their midst, 54that you may bear your disgrace and be ashamed of all that you have done, becoming a consolation to them. 55As for your sisters, Sodom and her daughters shall return to their former state, and Samaria and her daughters shall return to their former state, and you and your daughters shall return to your former state. 56Was not your sister Sodom a byword in your mouth in the day of your pride, 57before your wickedness was uncovered? Now you have become an object of reproach for the daughters of Syria and all those around her, and for the daughters of the Philistines, those all around who despise you. 58You bear the penalty of your lewdness and your abominations, declares the Lord.
The Lord's Everlasting Covenant
59"For thus says the Lord God: I will deal with you as you have done, you who have despised the oath in breaking the covenant, 60yet I will remember my covenant with you in the days of your youth, and I will establish for you an everlasting covenant. 61Then you will remember your ways and be ashamed when you take your sisters, both your elder and your younger, and I give them to you as daughters, but not on account of the covenant with you. 62I will establish my covenant with you, and you shall know that I am the Lord, 63that you may remember and be confounded, and never open your mouth again because of your shame, when I atone for you for all that you have done, declares the Lord God."

[aeksinsang]

To ensure they don’t get up and get kicked out of the 110th country

[gotc]

Hmm.. I've always wondered why the stones/pebbles on Jewish graves. I thought it symbolized the laying down of weapons (stone symbolized) that now the person is deceased and is (hopefully) at rest. Apparently it has the more bizarre idea to bond the person to the earth and so it won't become an unpleasant spirit, roaming the mortal earth. Also proof that the living are stopping by the grave; offering respect.

[XmanSully]

Not true at all. Very poetic though.
We place stones on graves, because the first hebrews were esentialy tent dwelers and desert people. The common people at ancient times couldn't dig real deep grave holes, and wild beasts woud bore through the cover and drag the dead out. Also, nomadic people don't visit the grave to often, if at all, so no maintenance. So, you see, it was a custume to place a stone to create a huge pile, digging sideways was not so easy.
The pebble and tzror, I am jewish and israely an tzror dose mean a bond of something, but dose not mean pebble or stone.

[mauricedarby]

Fath marriage pray hypnotize with stone. Like Jewish hold in or hand say like love letter say life end entirel Dr HARRY George Darby
Marriage counseling. Pom pom
Wood plate stone candles cloth polyester yon

[dirensirius]

I think its because they dont want to give money to flowers 🤣