we need to bring back gatekeeping

In today's video, the rise of the people's princess, the death of the it girl, and why we should bring back gatekeeping.

~sources~
The ‘It’ Girl Is Dead. Long Live the People’s Princess.
Chloe's Scene
Chloë Sevigny, ‘It’ Girl to End All ‘It’ Girls
What Was (and Is) the ‘It’ Girl? An investigation.
Laura Harrier Wants ‘It’ Girls to Go Back to Gatekeeping
Hot Girls, Please Gatekeep

~socials~

[jordanguillory]

I think they should go back to gatekeeping so we don't have so many damn ads

[Minnie_Stronni]

"Instead we get a rotation of Clean Girl, That Girl, and Vanilla Girl, who really amount to nothing more than an amalgamation of the Amazon Store Front links"
I'm dying! 😂😂😂😂😂

[faithjarod]

when i first saw the "where did you get your plain white socks" i was livid that was my last straw

[Loveiskindloveiskind]

I think we need to also acknowledge the fact that the reason many of us (especially black/ brown and or curvy girls) are able to do good make up, understand how to dress for your body type, take good pictures, edit and make good videos etc. is precisely because people aren’t gatekeeping. A lot of women learn their beauty habits/ secrets at home or from their culture. Not everyone had a mom/ auntie to teach them Make-up. Or if they did maybe not in the style they like. There is empowerment in teaching young girls that the beauty they see takes work, that every Instagram/ tiktok influencer has beauty rituals, poses, lighting, workout routines, diets, etc. than highlights their beauty even more. Y’all remember when Victoria secret models were pretending they eat a lot of pizza??? Should we start gatekeeping the truth about our diets and exercise as well? I do think there is power in mystery and not over sharing, no one should be forced to spill all their secrets. But let’s be real It-Girls will never go out of style, people are sharing more but there is sooo much that goes unsaid especially for really successful influencers/artist etc. Curation is the key. You might learn from one person but then combine it with something else you learned somewhere else. I have also noticed a trend of very beautiful women acting relatable (“oh look I’m a lazy couch potato, ugh I can’t afford nice things”) when it’s very obvious they workout regularly and have an intense work ethic and people eat it up! We want aspirational people to make us feel better (buy this product to be pretty, oh look I’m gorgeous but I’m just as lazy as you, etc.)

[Genorgin]

I agree this "hot girls don't gatekeep" trend is just encouraging over consumption especially when is comes to skin care

[GuineaPigEveryday]

Greta Lee, Ayo Edebiri and Quinta Brunson are great examples of genuinely talented people you want to root for rather than the oversaturated market of spoiled rich brats who buy their way into being famous rather than you know offering the world anything interesting and new

[ThatCaliCrys]

Zendaya does a great job of straddling this line. She’s the people’s it girl.

[globalelite]

Even the idea of presenting yourself as a peoples princess feels like a manufactured concept and the real “peoples princess”is someone entirely unplugged and uncomfortable with even the idea of being put on a pedestal

[MrFirefox]

ha, also funny how we reinvented "je ne sais quoi" in english as "it, " an interestingly similar semantic statement in its emptiness yet that very emptiness is its power.

[MrFirefox]

the people's princess seems like a slightly more self aware form of the it girl, and like a step toward social maturity. i wonder, still, how different they end up being from a parasocial relationship standpoint, and if a people's princess in her accessibility and vulnerability presents a more realistic front, one less conducive to the mythologization that pairs with parasocial situations. interesting and fun video :)

[mars]

We are so washed. Social media and monetization has cooked us. I’m so exhausted after this topic

[falafelfelon]

"You can't buy charm." FACTS

[MrFirefox]

also interesting how gatekeeping is being used in this instance. It's more a marketing tactic than an actual recognition of reality, used as a way to flaunt being a 'hot girl' without the negative press associated with being so self-proclaimed. It makes the person doing it seem more amenable and approachable, and makes it harder to question 'why' someone is sharing these links. And it is, of course, as your rightly point out, for the money.

[johnrockyryan]

Your natural hair looks gorgeous its makes your natural beauty shine alot more if that was even possible

[kellygreengables]

I think that we are somewhere in the middle. On one hand, it is great that people are so willing to share things like beauty tips or where they got their clothes. But on the other we need to stop feeling entitled to certain information just because it's public and, we need to stop sharing excessively personal things and then getting mad that people ask about them.

[texashg]

I feel like there’s a link between being an internet star BEFORE being a Hollywood star is what distinguishes It girls and People’s Princess. Issa Rae (the OG millennial people’s princess 🤘🏿) and Quinta were iPhone famous before they were big screen famous. Same with Lena Dunham

[detriticore]

I think that believing you can become more well-liked by imitating popular people is a side-effect of mass self-consciousness, and being overly self-conscious misses the point of why people are more attracted to someone who doesn't go out of their way to be well-liked.

[Justauri-asdfghjkl]

I also feel like people feel entitled to know everything. Someone doesn't have to share what concealer they are using if they don't want to. Only time I think they are obligated is if they are selling something. Like selling shampoo while wearing a wig or something

[normalouis]

Your hair is so beautiful and cute!! The shape is literally perfect and suits your face shape so well. Curls look amazing too ❤️

[foxwilliamulder]

i want tiktok to be gone so that everyone gets offline and stops jacking up the prices of thrifting, skincare, clothes, even certain FOOD products bc of viral recipes. im over all of it, im so sick of hearing and seeing the word "tiktok"