how to spend the summer alone ♡ focusing on yourself, self love/self care, enjoying your own company

in this video, I take you guys on a date... with myself.

#focusonyourself #selflove #selfcare

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[RebeccaJayy]

hey besties, it would mean the WORLD to me if you considered subscribing and liking this video 🫶😭 (and watching until the end!!) I appreciate all of you so much you have no ideaaaa

[bhenderson]

I really needed this video. I'm struggling with being alone since I ended up messing up a relationship that I really valued. Just so worried about the future and being without this person. Learning that all I really need is myself and God and I'll be ok. Some days I feel better than others, but really appreciate this video.

[zainabfayyaz]

I had constantly been getting jealous of everyone around me and I was unconsciously avoiding spending time alone, but today now that I finally did I understand that I was skipping on needed self-care time and your video made me realise these things

[crazynerdygirl]

"People can change, people can leave without any reasons, people can pass away in 1, 000 different ways. The only person you have in the end is yourself." Wow, I loved it when you said that. Thank you for sharing all your wonderful videos and content - I've found your videos so helpful. <3

[Mymakermovie]

I love this! I’m comfy spending time alone at home but not always outside of that so I could challenge myself more

[mirzasha]

Studying abroad in Japan made me realized that I only have myself at the end of the day. It was lonely at first but I’m used to it now :) Going out alone is my favorite thing to do now!

[violasimeone]

as an introverted myself, I've always appreciated my alone time, and I think this video explains one of the best thing we can do for our mental health! Now you reminded me that i have a beautiful garden so i'll go there to read :) thank u <3

[anushaprakash]

It's not just a content, it makes a real difference in someone's way of thinking and feeling. I'm really grateful to be here and knowing that the feeling that have been bothering me so much is actually something I should be cherishing.

[daniklore]

i have social anxiety so one of my biggest struggles is being by myself in public places. i turned seventeen couple of days ago and when i say i have social anxiety people literally laugh in my face and they're like oh so you can't go to the grocery store alone grow up finally. i can go to grocery store alone, i can pay for myself and everything but with huge amount of anxiety on my back. i'm growing up in toxic and at some point abusive household so when my parents comment on my body or anything else, i think that others think the same as them. i like to be alone, you know just reading my books, listening to music, playing games and more. i don't feel lonely when i'm alone. but these days when you're focusing on yourself and you don't really hang out with people, or you don't go to parties to drink etc you're considered to be a "boring" person with no life. when i think of it all, people my age literally f*ck around and i'm stuck in my house trying to figure out myself because now i have no idea who i am or who i am supposed to be. anyways, i loved the video so much. your channel is one of my comfort things for quite a while. i love you and hope you're having a great day/night. much love. 🤍🧚‍♂

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im trying to improve throughout the summer & this video really inspired me

[frandszk]

the fact that going to a restaurant by yourself was on level 3 is surprising to me lol, as someone who has super bad social anxiety and hates being perceived in public, going to restaurants is one of the few things i can convince myself to do (probably because my constant desire for food is stronger than my aversion to people but idk)

[Louise-rfdc]

it felt so great being understood ! my mom always feel worries when i do stuff alone, when i go to museums alone, restaurants alone, i just need some honest time with myself to feel better with others

[frsjoan]

I used to wait for my friends to be available so that I could go out with them. but many times, I ended up being pissed at myself that I wasted my off days waiting for someone to be available. that's when I started going out on my own. to the mall, to the movies (multiple times), to a restaurant. I would advise listening to music/podcast, watching YouTube, anything that can sorta distract you a little bit during your first few times going out alone so that you don't get so overwhelmed with the thought whether everyone's staring at you or judging you, especially for those with social anxiety/awkwardness. I wanna try the beach/picnic/cycling idea soon. all the best! we can do it!! ❤

[EmphaticTrain]

Definitely feeling lonely. My birthday is in a week and I will literally have nobody around me. BUT i will treat myself to a nice gym session followed by some skateboarding afterwards. I'll go get a nice haircut and I will give myself the day off from doing work. Ending the day with some fresh pizza and a nice movie I can watch, ':D

[im_elli]

I have no friends or partner, and two years ago, by the end of the summer, my mental health was at zero. I even spent a couple of weeks in the hospital. the doctor said that everything was fine with my physical health. now, looking back at it, I understand that it was from the fact that I could not spend time alone. but now I'm working on myself, and it's much easier for me to survive the summer. thank you, Rebecca, I always enjoy watching your vids. you are <з

[VTrigger]

I just saw your "WHY YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF ♡ (how to date yourself & my self love journey)" and It inspired me, *might try something like you did as well*
I felt lonely in this world, like I didn't fit with anyone when I was in grade 4-9...but in the 10th grade I started to love myself more and learn new things (music, dancing, art...), gave me popularity and confidence in myself for the last 3 years of HS
Struggled and went through a dark past
Spending time alone to myself again for the last 5 months..losing my Mom to Cancer, I felt empty during the 2 months she passed away and currently on a Journey to Self-Love again. Trying to go on dates with myself and enjoying nature.
God bless to everyone on their journey to love yourself, it's a important thing to keep in mind.

[stxawbexxy-gn]

My phone broke at the beginning of summer and my parents have been to busy to get it fixed and not being able to talk to anyone and I've legit started to cry a lot, and I still can't stand being alone, but this video has helped me :')

[akilahthompson]

This has to be my favorite video from you yet!!😀. There’s a toxic family member I need to break away from, but I’m scared to do it because we’ve always been so close. But I can’t deal with the pain anymore. This video helped me to know that I’m going to be okay🥰. Thanks Becca. Love you and your videos😊💕💕

[gunloverful]

Thank you so much for being real, Rebecca. It's easy to assume that a college age and attractive looking girl like yourself would be "living it up", having parties and being surrounded by people 24/7.
But as you've mentioned, it isn't the case for many people, yourself included. And we should all learn to detox from social media and be comfortable with ourselves every once in awhile! Sending you hugs from Singapore :)

- Just another recent college grad who chanced upon and fell in love with your style of vlogs!

[myname]

Thank you for posting this video! I feel like I need time alone, because I sometimes still feel insecure about my height because my friends are like way taller than me, even I think you're taller than me and I'm a boy lol. Your channel helped me accept who I am, and thank you for that.