The Chinese Girl who Came Running Back when I Had Money

She ran away when the money dried up, but when I finally got on my feet and started building my career, she came running back... but it turned out to be even more crazy from there...

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[serpentza]

I appreciate you listening to this rather personal story, I hope that it helps you perhaps understand better how cross-cultural relationships can be difficult, baffling, heart-breaking and unexpected. When it does work out however, it's something hard won! Thank you for your support, you're all incredibly awesome!

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[riffgroove]

The fact that you had a "girlfriend" 3 days after arriving in China should have been your first clue.

[niclash]

One of the most bizarre thing that ever happened to me in Asia, not in China (Malaysia); my girlfriend disappeared one day because she got married. She even had requested a "loan" last day I saw her, which (I later found out) basically went to pay for her part of the wedding. Of course, her marriage collapsed shortly after, but I was with someone else;
a) she called and wanted to get back together,
b) her brother calls and begged me to take her back, and
c) her ex-husband called and warned me that she was coming for my money...

[mrdrone]

Always remember the three types of people. The ones that helped you during your hard times. The ones who left you during your hard times. The ones who put you in hard times.

[barristanselmy]

I met a chinese girl on an app, she seemed lovely, we met she was really nice. And the moment i told her i was truck driver she got up and just walked out. Didn't even say goodbye lol. Ruthless some of them.

[johnxina]

You know, the fact that you can hold attention for a long period of time and speak so fluid without using a script and a bunch of cuts and edits is very impressive.

[antonikudlicki]

Imagine leaving someone at their lowest to then dare to show your face again once they have it good. Personally, I'd tell such person to leave immediately and not spend a second talking

[paulomoniz]

A good friend of mine married a Chinese, many years later he was told by her best friend that the only reason she married him was so their son would look more European and for her to get citizenship. That revelation and alcohol destroyed him.

[jimarger]

My Vietnamese girlfriend once told me that if I bought her a diamond ring, she'd be really mad. I suggested a bag of fertilizer instead and we still laugh over that forty years later and I've bought her a few.

[KarlRock]

Exactly the type of person you don’t want in your life. Good work Bro. Glad it worked out and that you have a great relationship now. It’s so hard to find and trust people anywhere in the world.

[agalah]

The wisdom of Edna Krabappel: “Oh, don’t worry children. Most of you will never fall in love, but will marry out of fear of dying alone.”

[michaelking]

Never give anyone a second chance. It's like giving them more ammo because they missed you the first time.

[ianmarkjames]

Thanks mate - I am a Brit that has visited RSA for 20 years but working in Asia for 15 years. In love with a Vietnamese woman for 5 years. Can't believe how kind and hard working she is. Your story resonated. Please keep up the great content - Ian

[carolinespence]

I dated a Chinese girl and learnt this the hard way. It isn't about love. And I realized that this is probably a cultural thing as well. Because even her interaction with her family was very transactional, not very loving. It was very sad actually.

[bingbong]

I am married to a Chinese woman, I remember giving her a birthday present, she told me very directly that it’s not what she wanted and told me to take it back to the shop, wow that was a slap in the face, same happened at the our first Christmas together, she told me that she would buy her own gift, from that day on I hv never bought her anything 32 years have passed, she is happy when I take her out for a nice meal but definitely no gifts. Nice blog, thanks.

[speaksthis]

They met in Shanghai. Married five years and first chance to go to the USA. Arrived at SFO Airport. He had to drop some mail off at the Airport Post Office. He went in. She took off. He never saw her again. True story. Some reading this will know about it, most likely, or will know who he is.

[Millmiglia]

You're 100% correct about the pirated software . The average Chinese (so called) 'software specialist' doesn't have a clue about writing software and to be honest they don't need to as they paste and copy everything from the Internet . All they do is go into the special sites and take what they need. We had a female Chinese IT person who was so useless that she spent 3 years retaking her 2nd year exams in her Computer Degree till finally the company told her to -"Get out, you're useless".
With the Chinese and their mentality it's a case of -"Why should i learn it when i can steal it".

[vishallan]

The chances of finding a Chinese girl that will love you for you and be with you through good and bad times is as rare as spotting a donkey screwing a dragon.

[shannonsutherland]

The brutal honesty and directness of this guy when telling stories or giving opinions, is so damn refreshing. Been a huge fan of you for many years

[seanoneillsongs]

I was in a relationship for about 7 years with a Chinese woman - but with UK citizenship.
I completely agree with your summing.
She was a Beijing ‘princess’ and while she was 43 when she first came to stay as a couch surfer, I believe she had never been in a relationship - focused totally on work and saving for her pension.
She was highly intelligent and was head hunted out of her job in China and moved to the UK - taking citizenship there after a few years.
In her own words, she lived a solitary, Chinese life there, not speaking with many people in case her poor English gave people the impression that she wasn’t as clever as she was.
She’d taken a three month break from her job to travel. She was brave in that sense and traveled as economically as was possible - hours on Couchsurf website and looking for the one pound deal some bus companies offered.
I didn’t have a lot of money but supported us well enough - asking nothing of her.
She did have a pretty horrible temper though.
After about five years, she topping up her pension fund from one of several UK bank accounts, it was becoming apparent that we couldn’t go on and that the next time she visited her parents in Beijing, she would probably return to the UK.
The pandemic gave us two years of separate room - she in the master and me in the guest room - for a quiet life.
Inscrutable - it was probably about four years into the relationship that I learned from her that she was probably a multi millionaire in China - a two bedroom apartment in downtown Beijing as well as the two floor apartment she would eventually inherit - not far away.
A Chinese first world problem is that there’s a limit to the amount of money she can take out annually - or a once off taking of all your assets.
Not possible as she couldn’t do that while her parents were alive as she’d lose out on her inheritance.
When we eventually parted, she wished me luck on meeting the right person for me, she contacted me only when she needed help or advice - i believe I’m probably the only person that got close to even knowing her - her only friend that she didn’t need to lose her ‘mask’ for - including her parents.
When I told her that I had met someone, she said she was happy for me but when I told her that it was serious, she said she never wanted to talk to me again - ever.
Poor little rich girl.