90 Day Fiancé: Niles EMBARRASSES Matilda in Front of an Elder

ET’s Melicia Johnson dives into the must-see moments from season 7, episode 13 of '90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days.' In this episode, Matilda reacts to Niles 'embarrassing' her in front of a community elder, Loren proposes the idea of marrying Faith's mom so he can have citizenship in the Philippines, Vanja and Božo officially end their relationship and Veah agrees to send her ex, Rory, home. '90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days’ airs Sundays at 8 p.m. ET/PT on TLC.

[tequila]

If Niles can’t afford $200 for food he had no business trying to find international love

[MoroccanSama]

I'm just here to hear Mathilda say 😂😂😂

[nelyd]

I just LOVE IT when Melicia recaps. She is great host, she should be the host of the tell all.

[TS-dnwz]

I really like how Niles stands up for himself and says “ I need a moment” 😂

[hi.goodbye]

Very unpopular opinion buuuuttt….

Matilda and Niles should NOT get married.

[ladymacan]

She asked him for $300 for a big celebration/dinner. That hardly makes her a scammer. Niles doesn’t want to get married and he needs to be honest about that.

[Rantwithbee]

Loren is the reason why im scared of people who are always smiling

[spicelife]

Niles is not the 1 not the 2 for me.
He lies, and is throwing Matilda under the bus everytime he gets.

[AmakaN.]

Why will Niles go all the way to a different country without at least one person for knocking/marriage anything.. You don’t go alone

[Irieartistadvisor]

Can we talk about the fact that the elder automatically took Niles and made him his son. "I will guide you now!"

[racheladjei]

I LOVE MELICIA AND HER RECAPS!!! She speaks for us at home😂👏🏽

[Pinkphantom]

He stood up for himself very well in a healthy masculine way. Good job Niles

[rayrayndiema]

Don't Judge Matilda by the Van Cleefe necklace and the Gucci slides. The bootleg versions are so many in every country, they're the most affordable thing around

[streetrunner]

Niles my boy get your self out of there before you get swallowed up

[cliffordboateng]

MR. ARCH embodies the essence of the Ghanaian Elder. Respect and Honesty!!!

[weddings]

My knocking ceremony was just 10 people, you only need a hand full of people in your living room to accept that both families can go ahead and plan for the wedding ceremony

[sk]

Melicia, I appreciate your recaps. I watch your recaps instead of the show. It’s so much better 💜

[keeml]

I wish u were the official tell all other lady lets people get away with murder

[enzcvdy]

That “ahaa” from Mr. Arc is Ghanaian for “this bs right here”😂

[gifrock]

A fellow Ghanaian here 🤚🏿🤚🏿

A Ghanaian wedding with 200 people is on the average to small side, ESPECIALLY if it's happening in Ghana where people have lots of extended family (the nuclear family is a western concept), church family, neighborhood etc. It's just different than how we think of weddings in America. In Ghanaian culture, you are raised by the community/village and the community/village is your family. Weddings are a community affair, ESPECIALLY in a village like Ofinso, where Matilda is from. Please don't judge other cultures through the lenses of your own because it's very easy to make assumptions that way.

I feel sorry for Matilda because with all due respect to the Elder, the plans for the wedding are often negotiated between BOTH families during the knocking ceremony but it is ABSOLUTELY the bride's family who sets the terms, not the groom's family. They can negotiate things down or compromise, if they choose but Mr. Arc as the "father" of the groom CAN NOT set the terms for the marriage and that includes the size, date, location, accommodations etc.


In fact, according to tradition, the knocking ceremony is done at or in proximity to the bride's house. On the other hand, 90 people for a knocking ceremony is absurd. The weddings are grand but that's not necessarily true for the knocking ceremony. At the knocking ceremony, the bride's family will then make a demand in the form of list of ALL their requests (gifts, money, food, etc). I think Matilda was trying to treat the knocking ceremony as a traditional engagement because of the sudden change in plans to postpone the wedding. She was embarrassed.