HOW TO FIND YOUR STYLE and NOT follow trends // how to actually build your dream wardrobe

#howtofindyourstyle #howtobuildyourdreamwardrobe #howtostopgettinginfluenced

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chapters:
0:00 intro
1:41 customize your avatar
4:20 start in your own wardrobe!
7:21 dig deep to discover style
9:55 find inspo!
13:37 time to shop!
17:05 confidence 💌

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[always_leahving]

to the people saying that she's following trends: I can't speak for her, but keep in mind that liking something trendy doesn't mean you like it BECAUSE it's trendy. she might wear something that's considered trendy, but that doesn't mean she is doing it for the sake of the trend, she might genuinely like it. also, almost all fashion is trendy in some corner of the internet. it just matters what you genuinely like and will stick with.

[feliciacae]

I went from being voted the shyest girl in 8th grade to being voted most original my senior year. I also stopped caring and wore what I wanted. Sometimes I dress completely out there and people ask why and it’s just because I like it.

[ohsnapgirlfriends]

the 2 tips that impacted my closet the most are the avatar and the thinking back to your childhood ideas!! i thought of my closet like a dressup game and got rid of the clothes i wouldn’t be excited to put on my avatar. i also had a sunflower dress when i was little that i loved wearing with colorful cowboy boots so recently i’ve been styling my dresses with a pair of pink cowboy boots and it feels so ✨me✨!

[therobotdevil]

YES on the dress shaming! I now wear dresses almost every day because I find them to be the comfiest, easiest outfit for my body (it's literally a 1-piece outfit, so quick and easy) but for years I avoided wearing them even though I wanted to because whenever I did, I would get unwanted attention in passive aggressive comments like, "Wow I could never put that much effort into getting ready, " "What are you dressed up for?, " and "You're probably judging me for my sweatpants right now lol." Big NLOG energy. Eventually I said F em and started wearing dresses as much as I wanted, but people still love to comment on it, as if the most self absorbed thing a woman can do is to wear a dress. 🙄 It's just a piece of cloth people!

[luciacuevas]

“Think back to your childhood” I totally denied that one at first thought, but then I remember some of the styles that Bratz and Monster High (my two childhood obsessions) tap into, and yeah, I got that urban and alternative shade with an academic touch real bad

[cheerscassidy]

IM NEW HERE AND THE POSITIVE ENERGY IS UNREAL. ITS SO HAPPY HERE WTF

[shadowcadette]

Dude the thing about dressing how you wanted to as a kid is so true. I never even realized it until I started going over what I liked as a kid and realized it was SPOT ON to how I want to dress. Such a great tip, thank you :)

[kapokikkodragneel]

Important to note is also that you don't need to look perfect 24/7

Fashion is fun, I like fashion. But I've been feeling the pressure to always look my best and look put together all the time so much lately. Living in a big city near a lot of shops, when I'm just strolling around I see all these girls dressed perfectly. There are barely any people that aren't dressed up a bit. It makes me feel self conscious to go out in my comfy basic clothes. Cause even though I don't really dress to impress, I often feel super unattractive seeing all those girls. It feels like I'm getting judged. And again, I live in a big city with a lot of shops nearby, basically the whole country comes here to shop, and there are many many tourists. For most people I see, it probably is a special occasion, which is why they dressed up. So it's really just my mindset that needs fixing.

Something else that bothers me about that is that I have only a couple of things that I really really love. I wear them so often, but I can't wear them all the time. Clothes gotta get washed, and I don't wanna get sick of those clothes either ya know lmao. So it just bothers me that I'm almost pushing myself to buy more clothes so that I can look cuter more often... Even though I deep down don't really want to.
(I like clothes, but I have a deep dislike for shopping)

It's just good to keep in mind that you don't have to dress up cause boy... Dressing for other people becomes so stressful.

[sun-esde]

cant wait to go through my clothes tomorrow and think about the criteria youve mentioned!! ive gotten a lot more confident in the past few months and feel like i can finally keep the clothes i genuinely like because im finally confident enough to wear them!!

[simplyjess]

that tip on taking your time to build your wardrobe is so helpful. I’ve felt so pressured to find it overnight but I definitely agree that taking your time to really curate your dream wardrobe is so important 🖤

[lesbiangoddess]

I always look like an anime/kdrama character and I LOVE it. Being mostly neutrals but my fav colours being lilac, sun yellow, mint green and pink.

[verda]

Yesterday I wore an outfit I would die to wear as a child and i was so happy and high energy all day. And currently my goal is to be the person my prep year(14 y/o) self would've want to be in all levels.

[ximenagarcia-zuazua]

I remember when I was in high school whenever I wore a dress everyone would ask why….and it was just smth I wore because I wanted to and everyone would just like look at me and I’d wear that dress maybe once in a while because I didn’t like the looks and stares which was always hard

[alwayskim]

tiktok really made me realize i didnt know my style, i was just jumping from trend to trend. and i am so excited to find my own style! when u said ask ur inner child, it felt like an awakening hahaha. would definitely do that!

[MsLinoi]

Loved watching this!
Made me realize that one of my biggest fear has been "looking" overdressed or too childish partly because of similar experiences with that "popular girl" 😂
I also noticed I've been super inspired by jenna coleman's style recently. And I have the same Kibbe body type as her so I guess it kind of makes sense that I'm drawn to her style. Also I've been so afraid of wearing too much colour/ patterns but within the last year or so I realized that I actually like those things!

[iceetas]

i always dress like someone my childhood self would be in awe by. i loved that's so raven as a kid and i used to draw all her outfits while watching the show and my style definitely shows that (especially in the fall/winter)

[marsbars]

the childhood thing is so accurate i never hear it spoken about
i liked really masculine and dark things and i was a “tomboy” and i really loved woodland type magical fantasy things

now i’m a transmasc who likes grunge and goblincore :|
so yeah you’re right

[tinylaw]

how do y’all remember how you wanted to dress as a kid??? i’m 21 and i can’t remember one thing i liked 💀

[silver_bat._.]

You could always alter clothes you already have in your closet if you know or learn how to sew. I find that pieces are much more personal and attached to me when I spend a lot of time and energy to make them perfect how I want them.

[マライカのスクラップブック]

I love how you said you are inspired by nature because same! Didn't even know I needed this video, thank you!! Going to start working on my personal style again :)