The 3 Word Rule to Find Your Personal Style - No Shopping Required :)

Today I'm sharing the easiest way to find your personal style without shopping using the 3 word rule to find your personal style. Finding your personal style is the most difficult but most important part of slow and sustainable fashion. This video shares the ONE RULE you need to know to find and be confident in your personal style. I hope it helps!

On this channel, I share #slowfashion​​​​​ and #sustainablefashion​​​​​ tips that center around how to shop your closet, and restyling pieces you already own. I also spotlight brands that I believe in every now and then. I believe in #creativityoverconsumption​​​​​, and that we all have the power to be conscious consumers.

Slow fashion looks different for everyone, and I'm so grateful you share this space with me!

Alyssa
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162 Comments
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[irenejohnson]

Hi, Alyssa. It took me a whole year to find my three words! I asked trusted friends, trusted relatives, took quizzes, looked up definitions, reviewed posts, videos, and blogs by influencers such as yourself. I was able to let go of (sell, donate, give away to friends and family) things that I knew were no longer me (because I turned 70 this past summer). Finally I was left with me and my closet., as you said. And today, I have been blessed to come up with the three words that best fit my style: Classic. Uncontrived. Appropriate. Thank you. You are so much younger than me, but I love your spirit and the creative encouragements I get from you. Be blessed.

[stephsmith]

Since I retired a few years ago, I have struggled to find a style which was removed from smart workwear but still stylish. To be honest my three words had become comfortable, shapeless, careless. So your videos have been very helpful in making me have a reboot. I've cleared out a lot of stuff from my wardrobe, baggy pants with giraffes on, long loose and shapeless tops, frumpy shoes. But I found that amongst all that was a core of a better style which I can build on. A baggy shirt when tucked into jeans, with a nice leather belt was transformed for example. A dress when shortened a few centimetres, looked quite different. Making careful and considered choices when shopping is giving me a more put-together feeling. But I don't want to lose that bit of myself which is unique and which those silly trousers with giraffes on reflected. It just needs a better outlet. I've loved this video and also loved reading the replies from other people. It seems that this bit of homework has been transformative for many. After some time thinking about it, I've decided my three words, which I aspire to are authentic, classy, relaxed.

[PK-nfjg]

A few years ago when I found myself in a style rut, I reverse-engeneered using a similar method.
I started off by asking myself for I wanted to feel/look like in my clothes and put together a list of words, which I then reduced to the top 3. I made separate word lists for work, social and everyday because I realised I wanted different moods (E.g. confident, put-together, mysterious, eclectic, relaxed, adventurous....)
Then based on the lists I was able to identify wardrobe gaps/what changes I wanted to make. E.g. I wanted to look a bit more elegant and polished, yet I had a bunch of chunky casual sweaters, but not thinner/more fitted classic ones that would suit my 'polished/elegant ' mood, thanks to the lists I was able to avoid automatically buying yet another casual chunky sweater, but expend my wardrobe options with a black cashmere sweater which made me feel more elegant, confident and timeless...

[sherikennedy]

my sunday morning "must do" is watching your newest video! really tough for me to find three words. why? i live in scrubs at least 4 days a week. i needed to really look at my life outside of the hospital setting. difficult to do as the days off i mostly veg out at home. so...how to come up with them, i guess i had to look at when i go on holiday and travel. what do i look for there....how do i like to dress on a cruise or going to visit family. so for me, i had to look at life outside of "every day" life as i tend to gravitate to certain things that i can pack in one carry on bag no matter if it is for a long weekend or 3 weeks away. you have really helped me hone in on: classic, comfort, minimal. this video was very helpful as i am in the process of trying to let go of pieces i have spent tons of money on, but never ever reach for.

[sarahroberts]

Classic, minimal and comfort. I often struggle, as I feel my looks are boring. Your idea about the need for a opposite word, really resonated.

[trisha]

I love this idea! My three words would be contemporary, minimal, Bohemian. I do not dress like most people my age (76), but always stay stylish. I like to stay current and follow trends, but I also know what looks good on my body. As an example, I love off-the-shoulder tops. They are considered a little Boho, but are very flattering on women "of a certain age." They cover the tops of your arms, and just reveal the skin that doesn't age (shoulders/collarbone)!

[Mega.bibleprincess]

My style aesthetic is : stay at home princess … like whimsical girly but lounge-ish so like a combo of princess jasmine pants and rapunzel like dresses but with Giselle flair

[xiomaras]

I’ve learned so much from you. I love skirts, mostly silk, satin or flowing but I like to combine them with button down shirts, comfortable flat shoes and minimal jewelry and I’m 75! I never close my mind to learning. I have a bridal shower and a wedding coming up and I’ve shopped my own closet for both. Have kept old evening bags (my Mom used to love to thrift) and it’s surprising what I have. Some are treasures. I also have crochet skirts and blouses and sweaters which she made but all in soft colors - none of the patchwork and loud color stuff. stuff. My three words might be feminine, comfortable, mixture of very old and new. Your videos are great.

[JennAndTonik]

I turn 50 I’m a few weeks and have really been reflecting on where my style is and where it goes as I head into this next phase of my life. I’ve felt a bit at a loss (body changes, lifestyle changes, career changes) but your videos are helping me flesh it all out. ❤️

[ladyparmelee]

Love this method! Even though my overall style is classic, my three descriptive words would be: structured, effortless, powerful. They speak to my love of looking put-together with minimal pieces, with high-end impact.

[maryfitzpatrick]

At 74, I am still bubbly, attentive to detail, and impetuous. However my 3 style words are subtle, minimal, neutral. I wear mostly black, navy, deep camel. Solid colors. So I wear knits which have ease. You taught me to balance with a third piece, which I prefer to be architectural to create tension.

[amyobrien]

my 3 words are cozy, academic, unexpected. thanks for this video!!! love your philosophy and the way you present concepts!! thank you❤

[dear.charity]

This is maybe my favourite of all your videos, just so good! My three are comfortable, feminine and effortless like I just threw it on. Thanks again for explaining personal style and helping us get to our own style without over consumption.

[liavanus]

I really love this guide and found it so helpful in refining the description of my style.

My 3 words are “ non-conformist, utilitarian, and roguish “

[melodypatrick]

This is one that I’ve actually been thinking about for a while. I recently settled on the three “C’s”, which describe me well at this stage of my life: classic, creative and comfortable!

[pollyking]

Like many others who have commented, I have been going through a style identity crisis. I just turned 60 and it feels like I need to breathe some life back into my style. I have recently gone down the Kibbe rabbit hole more than I care to admit. I mostly thrift shop, which is good and bad (good to recycle, but bad because I end up with a lot of "cheap stuff" that I don't wear). But this video was really what I needed (all your slow fashion content is what I need now to be honest). Your advice helps me to simplify and relax, and lean into what makes me me. My three words (today) are nostalgic, simple, and guileless. As you suggested, I'll try it out for a while and see if it sticks. Thanks for making this all so much more approachable. Peace.

[TheMaryWriter]

I've been doing this for years, it is so fun! I could use a variety of words but I think that my core three are clean, organic, and whimsical. I use clean to describe my general overall technique--I don't dress in loud or visually cluttered pieces, and I use variations of classic pieces that capture the polish but not always the sharp tailoring and structure. I use organic to describe my colors, the soft lines, drape, patterns, and fabrics, as well as the more natural earthy elements of my style. I use whimsical as the catch-all for the fun details and playfulness of my style--I love vintage elements and pieces (more on the antique end) and there's sort of an imaginative tone to my pieces. I settled on these because classic is too formal, boho is usually too western/worn, and minimal is too simple for what I wear, although I see elements of all three in how I dress.

[davidjohnston]

I asked my husband. He thought eclectic was my style. Hmm, I would say minimal ( only 2 colors, and hardly any pattern), classic, and sporty. ( working as a PT). This was a fun exercise. I agree with everyone loving that black dress. But everything looks beautiful on you. 🍃

[leidylopera]

Watching your videos brings so much pleasure, it’s a combination of the amazing background, your soothing voice and the valuable content.

Pure Joy!!!!

[tanyaeve]

Some great 3 words on here! I think I am pragmatic, eclectic and dramatic. I very much favour functional, weather appropriate clothes, but enjoy lots of different influences, including retro, vintage pieces and often have something dramatic or statement in an outfit.