some people don’t see the narcissist as much so it takes longer for the mask to come off

[mariewyche]

Very true.
So difficult to expose a narcissist.

[viviannzero]

My ex is loved by everyone (esp at church) but he would never let anyone come over to our house to visit 😢

[Zuluchild]

Exactly. My Narc’s friends only saw the party happy girl during events. Never were they with her everyday. My Narc went as far as contacting my best friend, inviting her bowling, and then introducing her to her “new boo”. Then at the bowling alley she was distant towards my friend. On top of that the people who were invited were acting as if my friend and her girlfriend should be praising my narc and her new boo on their relationship. As if they were “celebrities”. Very strange crowd of people.

[Ashley-jxsw]

They lack healthy boundaries and overcompensate for the people around them ONLY to prove that they are good people, when in reality a good person has boundaries and doesn’t need to prove themselves

[mrs]

Thanks to you guys on YouTube who speak out about Narcissism I’m finally free after 30 years of abuse. Your so appreciated!❤️

[pristineparr]

So true! And when it cracks, sometimes after YEARS of them knowing that person, it's shocking to them. But they finally see what you been going through.

[beautyinthedark]

Narcs spouse spends all his time with friends, never with family and he doesn’t see a problem with it. It’s always been an issue throughout the marriage🙄. He is non existent in the house with zero interaction. All his friends swear he is the nicest coolest dude all the while anything but that behind close doors. I learn to ignore him especially since he loves the silent treatment I wish he just leave us alone because I’m not. This is my home.

[helrutherford]

He had the shittiest friends! I thought he was the best of them, but he was even worse. He intentionally surrounded himself with people who not only never really knew him but would never call him out on his horrible behavior because they were not good people themselves.

[SoigneWave]

This is so true. I initially kept wondering why others didn't see what I saw but they weren't intimately involved with her. Still don't get how they don't see some of the other traits though since those presented while we were still "friends, " before we got together

[joeycooper]

Exactly 💯 my situation...I hate it!! They wouldn't believe me if I told them the bullshit I put up with!

[alisamartin]

When I called him out on treating strangers better than me...he told me he's not being "fake" with others he was " just adapting to the environment".

[nicolewinston]

I am so glad you touched on long distance relationships. There should be more videos discussing this topic.

[TheLittleHouseofGardening]

So true… mine had “friends”… these people did not know him. They only knew what he told them about himself. He would go out of town a lot to escape and go family to family to hold the facade. I notice a trend with the narcissus I’ve met with frequent roaming to save face.

[kendras]

I wonder if this is why my SO did not like staying at gatherings and events long. Most of the time their mood was blah and there would be limited communication. People would often ask, “What’s wrong with them, are they okay.” I would always get asked by my SO about an hour into an event “Are you ready to go?”

[JesusIsTheWay.Truth.Life.]

Absolutely true, Lee. My ex was an OTR trucker. He was only off the road 32 hours or so per week. Maybe....
So his friends and family saw him in short spurts. So, he was all sunshine and light, and Godliness. Yet, if he stayed a bit too long, look out. I know that he spoke to his other trucker friends on his headset all day. He'd eventually start fights with them when they spoke everyday for hours! Then he'd ghost them, give them the silent treatment for months. He hated for anyone to give him advice or criticize him. Telling him that he was wrong was a big no-no.
So our relationship was basically long distance. We got along fine when I'd see him on a 32 hour reset, because he was love bombing. But...if he took a week or more off to be with me, or I went in the truck with him...he would turn bad after 2-3 days. All hell would break loose with that mother trucker. 😅
He couldn't hold the mask up, and he'd rage at me and treat me like garbage. Especially if I was stuck in that truck with him for 6 days. 😔

[Revelation-]

Narcissists have no friends, just acquaintances that they don't see often. They will talk about the acquaintances behind their backs to the empath. They are 2 faced and use people for their own gain.

[inspiredbydior]

OMG so true!! I didn't really learn my ex until this past year and I met him in 2010!! I always knew something wasn't right, but I didn't know he was a narc. He would always use his work schedule and kids as an excuse for us not really getting to know one another and of course other bs...this went on for YEARS!!! He would pop in and out of my life and I was so trauma bonded due to the love bombing in the beginning. I always kept trynna get back to that high in the beginning and knew he had potential...smh fast forward a few years after I met him, I went 10 months no contact...blocked him, changed my number, email and everything. One day I am walking outside and who do I see parked on my street? YEP! SMH from there it was down hill and now we have a 5 year old. These people are sick and no amount of time will change them. Once you see them for who they REALLY are and truly educate yourself on narcissism, you cannot unsee them for what they truly are. It's a tough pill to swallow and some hard lessons along the way, BUT you can set yourself free at any moment. I've went back countless times, but I'm finally finished this time and I am healing and getting through it. I won't waste my pain anymore. I am choosing me this time. God bless everyone who is healing; it's a painful, but rewarding process. I started my own business and getting ready to start a new position at my full time job. Doors open when you leave the devil alone!!

[krisw]

Mine had friends but it was always transactional. He would befriend people who he had more than or felt he was doing better than. It was sickening.

[amyphx]

Thank you very much for offering your perspectives on npd. I didn't fully realize a loved one was a narcissist until I came across your videos and put 2 and 2 together with some trauma recovery information I'm studying. Literally the same week I came across your videos, the person disclosed they fit the profile for npd, to the extreme. The combination of that confession and your videos is bringing so much healing, after a very long relationship and feeling so many times like something was wrong with me for the way it brought me to feel. Now I see it for what it is and can healthily detach to focus more on my own healing.

[munequa]

This is why it's important to trust your instincts.