Is this true about women “wanting” an emotionally intelligent man? 👀

[kia]

You should never ask for anything from a partner that you are unable to offer.

[mohammadaffandisubir]

She didn't cook, she set the place on fire 💥

[blazeharris]

In other words: If u can't match the energy, that emotionally intelligent person WILL NOT let you drain theirs

[memoir]

Exactly! You betta have done the work on yourself to match the emotionally intelligent man you want!

[divasamai]

Emotional intelligence requires accountability! Most folks don’t want that!

[Keytheintrovert]

She’s on point with this because in order to recognize the emotions of others, one must first fully understand their own.

[islandgirlxx]

That lady is speaking facts. And she is gorgeous!

[ruthcook]

IF YOUR NOT READY FOR THAT DON'T BE ASKING FOR AN INTELLIGENT MAN 🔥🖤

[Jolie-gmbw]

Beautifully said, and I’d like to add a clarification for abusive personalities. The five pillars of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, self-motivation, empathy, and social skills ( I like to say social grace).
Emotional intelligence calls for men/women to be able to navigate their own emotions and express their needs from a place of respect. Often, we see extremely abusive personalities claiming they are emotionally intelligent, but they seek to destroy and manipulate with their words. Ideas incongruent with their beliefs leads to aggression, demoralization, and bullying (all of which are responses of a weak mind). An emotionally intelligent person consistently works on his or her mind. They are not highly reactive, they are controlled, they have fortified within themselves the ability to regulate their own emotions and thus, their reactions.

[sav.walker]

“so if you not ready for that don’t be asking for an intelligent man” PERIODT

[steverobinson]

FACTS, Make sure you know what you want before you receive it.

[DeeDe]

she broke it down At That Level, Emotionally Intelligently 🗣🎤💯💯💯💯🔥

[lawrencebolt]

When I was younger and all over the place with my energy, women loved me. I'm relatively tall, well built and attractive. On top of this I have always been able to talk well and so women would queue up around the block to be noticed by me.

But When I became this exact man in the video. My speech became calmer and unhurried. I can see a woman's spirit and mind before Ive registered her body. Because of my transformation it was like night and day in respects to female advances. Yes there were elements of me cutting off emotionally erratic women. But the vast bulk of women stay the hell away from me.
I've learnt that most women realise the type of man that's Infront of them but the man they know they need is scary because he requires her to be the best version of herself.

[aodhancampbell]

A particular comment in this section said essentially that the man they're talking about sounds like a narcissist and like they'd say mean things to their partner. I have some thoughts on that, as a man in a relationship in which I have struggled with being severely emotionally neglected by my female partner. If there's zero space for me to talk about my feelings in a relationship without my partner getting uncomfortable or upset at MY discomfort or MY being upset, the problem becomes all about what SHE feels about what I feel, leaving the issue of how I actually feel to just... not be resolved. I go out of my way to comfort my partners, but if a man can't trust his partner to support him in a similar respect, where is the love in THAT? It just isn't worth the emotional labour when you bust your ass to perform to the standards of a woman and she doesn't think she should be held to the same standard. How can I trust my partner to lay out relationship rules if she doesn't think she should have to play by them? At that point, the odds are stacked against me, the game just becomes giving, and giving, and giving, and getting scraps at best of recognition and support in turn, and the game stops being worth entertaining. It isn't narcissism to leave a relationship where you're neglected, and you certainly wouldn't say that if the positions of these genders were swapped in this scenario. It'd be a chorus of "you go girl" and "dump his ass". It's really not arrogance, toxicity, or narcissism. It's knowing one's own worth and respecting oneself. We're worth being cared about, and the fact of the matter is that women who aren't capable of that don't deserve to reap the benefits of an emotionally intelligent man. As far as what you claim these men would say, just... just no. It isn't disrespect or cruelty to open up to your partner about what isn't working in the relationship. A mature and truly emotionally intelligent woman will want to know when there's a problem, even if it hurts, so that issues can be worked on, just like they expect their male partners to recognise their shortcomings so THOSE can be worked on. The appropriate response isn't to get offended and villainise men for expressing dissatisfaction with how they're treated, it's to actually talk about it the same way you'd want your feelings talked about. Respectfully. Without anger. Without judgement. My feelings aren't an insult to anyone, they're just how I feel, and it isn't automatically my fault for feeling that way. If this carries on and on, then yeah, something in me is going to snap. I'm going to stop being so gentle and calm, because I've tried desperately to talk, but there's nothing I get back from that relationship besides my words being twisted to make the problem about my having the audacity to "insult" my partner, and an adamant refusal to just... hear what I'm saying, take that shit at face value, and work with me to grow as people and a couple. Yeah, you're damn right that eventually I'll get tired of it and just get up and leave because I care about me as much as I deserve, and you don't.

[rhideflory]

This was a refreshing take coming from a woman. I agree with every word she said.

[juannmorris]

We already had the alternative. I want one. Sounds like ambition, integrity, godliness and the Ps are there.

[ladysweetnfieryofficial]

This lady keeps it real, and agree with what she said however, I feel with having emotional intelligence also means to have emotional maturity as well. There needs to be a balance. One is to hold themselves accountable, regarding how they communicate and connect using emotional intelligence due to the intellectual information/knowledge one acquires after doing the work. You have to know and understand what type of man/woman you dealing with ok, regarding how you connect, communicate and express yourself to another. To be emotionally intelligent, is to be self aware 👀 ok so, if one doesn't like the way you "communicate" and express yourself using emotional intelligence, he/she does not respond well, the connection is not there. It's about being self aware and truly listening, to hold space for another to safeguard and respect how the other feels and perceives things ok.. Anyone who does the work to become and embody what is means to be emotionally intelligent is one thing, but if there is no emotional maturity as well, then that's how you explain how men/women become emotionally manipulative, narcissistic, egoic and just overall impossible to communicate with because of a lack of understanding and inability to effectively connect.

[apostlegeorgepaulk]

Protect This Sister at All Cost 💯 O.G.Florida 🌴

[aishalipham]

Emotionally intelligent men are a force to be reckoned with and not for the everyday person. Not only for all those above reasons but they can see the holes in you and will make you see it and fix it yourself. Most women could not handle an emotionally intelligent man. It’s a whole new ball game lol. But I love these guys, they have taught me more than I ever thought I could learn but the lessons are really really HARD! They are irreplaceable once you meet one but they are rare.

[ElevenAce]

Glad to see some defence on part of Emotional Intelligent men. If a guy says it it wouldn't have gotten the message across!