Transition is a Marathon, Not a Sprint | How to Plan Out Your Transition Without Getting Overwhelmed

Transition can be scary and stressful, but also rewarding and exciting. I know I wanted to change everything I could as fast as I could so I could really start living my life as me. But I'm glad I planned things out and didn't do everything all at once. So today, let's talk about ways to plan out your transition so that it's more manageable and less overwhelming!

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[DarthRayah]

This video feels like it was timed perfectly for my life

[michaeleberl]

Great reminder. I'm 38 years old now and still haven't been able to start my transition. I'm also balding fast and aging otherwise, so my desire to transition right this second is really eating away at me. I've been "waiting for the right moment" for over 20 years, so now my mentality is set on a state of "see what happens when you keep putting this off because it's too hard!?!? You blink twice and your life has passed you by. So do it finally!! Do it But, that patience and balance is still necessary, no matter how hard it is to continue to be patient with the speed of my transition. Sigh. Ah well. Thanks for the video and the parasocial company in the meantime.

[Aika-ko]

i just recently allowed myself to accept that I'm a trans woman, and the desire to transition right away is very strong but thanks to your videos and other trans Youtubers, its been an immense help to not only my confidence but also your advice helps quite a lot!

[DarDarBinks]

I hate taking things slow. I care more about the destination than the journey. I'm 5 months into HRT now but still have yet to get my name changed. Now that I got my stimulus from the Feds, I plan on making it official. I'm like Sonic the Hedgehog: Gotta go FAST!

[wklozam]

One thing that causes me to panic a little bit is my age. I feel like I've already wasted a lot of time because of fear, and now I just want to run through this process to make up for the "lost time". Luckily, therapy and the people I've come out to have been a massive support. Thanks for always sharing helpful information, Chloe!

[finnmiller-new]

Came out to my family this last Sunday and now I'm starting to come into my social transition even if my family aren't completely open to the concept. This video is so well timed for where I'm at in my journey

[LadySammiRey]

As a trans woman who is currently 8 months into her transition this feels like exactly how I feel. Going into my transition I knew it would take a long time but I didn’t know that it would be this slow paced. I’m trying to tell myself to pace myself and be patient and this video has really helped that. Thank you.

[izziestyx]

You're right that it gets easier and every step is a big accomplishment. I found things a lot more manageable by coming up with a plan and writing it down. Figuring out what I had to do, what hoops I had to jump through, and what I could (or wanted) do when made things seem less daunting and helped put it in perspective.

It also made it a lot easier to take baby steps and build comfort by doing small things first; socially transitioning and wearing feminine clothes only around friends, then for quick errands where I wouldn't run into people, then longer trips out, using my new name at a coffee shop, etc.

If I can offer some (small step) advice for anyone considering socially transitioning right now, it's probably a good time to try. Where I live the government was early to adopt mandatory mask rules and wearing a mask everywhere helped me with some anxieties and dysphoria. Especially given that I hadn't finished hair removal treatments or mastered makeup at that time. I also found it great to find women's clothes that were a bit more androgynous, since that allowed me to wear clothes I felt comfortable in and build confidence, even to places where I wasn't out yet (like work or visiting family.)

[obsidianjane]

That's really good advice and a great perspective to have on transition. Even if you are "fast tracked" with the standard protocol, it takes years to get there, and some of them are the hardest you are going to face.

[gwendolinegoetz]

My transition already started decades ago. The most important was to finish my social transition, which was made in a few months. The administrative transition took place at its pace. Yet, I'm on the plateau. I have the feeling that's my objectives are fulfilled for the time being.

[cekdarazmislim..]

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

[ZoominZoey]

I feel this so much right now. I want to be myself right now, but there's so much to do

[idin.aazami]

You’re honestly the best Chloe ✨💖 Thank you so much for this!

Transitioning truly is a marathon. I often feel like things are taking forever, but truly, it’s all happening.

[melissak]

Another great video Chloe! I feel like I hear people talking about anniversary dates for starting their transition. Not sure if I can really pin my "start" down. Many people think it is either the day they go full time or HRT start date. Which for me is only the last couple of years. I was thinking that maybe it was when I started electrolysis 5 years ago when I actually committed to physical change? Your talk has gotten me to think even it was longer ago. I hadn't considered that I started dressing indoors over 15 years ago and my style was figured out 10 years ago. Also about 10 years ago I started working on mannerisms like walking, sitting, general movements and such. So I guess I have been a very slow transitioner. Big surgeries are still to come, but I am not in a huge rush. Several people that I have met do seem to be in a rush and sometimes that makes me feel pressure that I should be in a bigger hurry. Going slow has given my opportunity to really hone certain skills without getting overwhelmed. Sure I still really do wish there was a button to press and it would all be done.

[livenca]

Thank you Chloe ❤️
This is great timing. I am finally ready to begin planning my surgeries this year, and this is a great reminder not to bite off more than I can chew!

[saraannefay]

Very nicely done! And excellent advice besides. Thanks for sharing. I don’t particularly like the marathon metaphor. I’ve ran several and you don’t feel so good for awhile afterwards.

To use a slightly different analogy, transition is a long journey not a destination. It’s not measured in distance or time, but in well-being and contentment. And, all journeys begin with the first step. Your journey is unique to you. It’s your path and maps aren’t necessary, unless you need one. There are signs and allies along the way to help you and keep you on track. Unfortunately patience is a virtue most trans people do not posses, but do your best and lean on your gender therapist and support people when times get difficult. You’ll be fine. You’ve got this!

[sharnapankhurst]

I ended up taking a break from planning things when I came out at work and went full time 6 months ago, I just wanted to take a few months to let hormones keep doing their thing and to just enjoy being myself without having set goals and timelines, Its been really good and I have found so much to enjoy as my new self.

Now that I have done those 6 months I am beginning the road to planning GCS and I have been watching all your videos on it to help me figure out some of the things I may not have thought about.

[Lara-szck]

You are so True. Find your own Speed and for me the biggest Thing was First Time go to a Shop and buy Woman Clothes.

[Tandarok]

Ok, but maybe I can just sleep through winter and wake up being ready with the transition? No? Why? That's annoying 😅
Great video btw :D

[heatherwillowwood]

I keep thinking I’m marathoning and others keep telling me I’m sprinting, On average, feels about right. 🌸 P.S. It’s totally a metaphor. 😊