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[truth_teller]

Boy, Am I glad my parents weren't like this woman. When I went to college I worked part-time and lived at home. Doing so made it possible for me to not get any student loans and even have some money saved by graduation with zero debt! In exchange, with the money I saved I'll be able to give back to my parents once they're older and need financial assistance from me.

[A]

I am 27 and a full time biology teacher. I live at home and pay the mortgage and bills. my mom doesn't need to work because of my income. my point is that as long as you contribute to the home, it's okay to live at home. then again, we are a Mexican household.

[bradleymaravalli]

An 18 year old not knowing what she wants to go to school for is... well... normal. No need to punish her with a 60-80 hour work week. Her parents should act like parents and help her find internships, apprenticeships, career days, etc.

[douglaswilliams]

My father's solution to this was he told me as long as I was in college, I could live under his roof and eat meals at his house. I paid for my own car, gas, etc. (there were no cell phones back then, but I guarantee you I would have had to pay for that also). I also had to help mow the yard, take out the trash, etc. When I graduated, he expected me to get a full time job and move out, which is exactly what I did. He passed away three days ago, at 91. I've been completely debt free since 2012, own my own house and two cars. Guess his method worked, in my case.

[hj-mhge]

“Two grown adults 18, 24, still living at home working part time and going to school”, doesn’t sound bad to me. Sounds as if they’re trying to go further in life. At 18 you’re probably just graduated high school or still in high school. Give me a break. That’s not a grown adult, that’s still a child trying to figure out their life. Can’t handle these types of parents.

[VibingCat]

As a Japanese guy one told me, it's the parents job to make sure their child is prepared for the real world, if you toss them out there and they end up homeless or on hard drugs it reflects more on you as the parents.

[bobmarker]

I lived at home until I was 27. Paid room and board. When I left home, I had a big down payment on a house I paid off in 11 1/2 years.

[nappyboi]

I think they are being a bit harsh on the 18 yr old.

[christianmetalpwns]

I'm 24 and I live with my mother. I work full-time and I pay rent, my phone bill, car insurance, gas, food and my own college tuition.

[macewindu]

I wonder if this guys kids will let him live with them when he's 80. Or maybe they will give him six months, then to the streets?

[dadaboy]

This is utterly ridiculous. In my opinion, our job as parents is to prepare our kids to be successful. To say get out of my house at 21 because you have a college degree now is a set up for financial failure. If my child has to stay at home till he/she is 26 and financially/occupationally ready to put down a good down payment for a house. That is the best case scenario in my opinion. I usually love your insight Dave but you are incredibly wrong on this one.

[Slurpyk]

I doubt Rachel has had to pay a dollar out of pocket for anything in her entire life. She was completely funded by daddy, and then her husband. Not sure how she’s in a position to give any advice on this.

[kman]

We spoiled them...with clothes, food, roof over their head, etc..

[sonny]

how about dont have kids if youre trying to kick them out as soon as legally possible?

[bobbiclinger]

The problem with some of Dave's advice regarding this type of topic was that he was already wealthy by the time his kids reached this age, so it was no problem for daddy to pay their way. He needs to keep in mind that not all parents can afford to keep paying their children's way - some of us need to put a lot of money into investments so we can retire with dignity. I think he forgets what "most" families can afford.

[john]

My parents said people that live under their roof share their values and go to church on Sundays. I hit the bricks the day I graduated high school and never looked back or regretted it.

[wavyboyo]

lol at people having kids, then wanting to leave them for dead once they hit 21 without being able to lead them in any direction

[aroncarvajal]

from a Hispanic point of view we can't relate to this move out of the house at 21 we are very close as a family is a culture thing and sometimes we I hear people talk like this about their kids it sounds cold and like if they are talking about a pet or something.

[adibchyy]

Wow great insight from someone who had their schooling and the majority of their expenses paid for by daddy dave

[somename]

moving out at 18 or 21 was realistic, affordable, and normal 60 yrs ago.
union jobs everywhere
white collar jobs everywhere
low job entry requirements
college could be paid for easily
exports were strong

Fast forward to 2020:
Blue collar jobs overseas
white collar jobs to India
complete export/import imbalance
College is extremely expensive
2008 recession still affects millennials
high medical insurance costs

stop applying boomer expectations to the awful situation of many young people.