Regretting the Past is Pointless

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[EliDragonfly]

I am a therapist and can say we all have different approaches to treating whatever brought you in. Ask for a a solution focused approach rather than a psychoanalytical one. You can ask about the approach even before the first visit. However, the past is likely to come up because it has to do with the way we attach to others and learned to problem solve (or didn’t). By repairing and changing the narrative of these past “error” messages, we can change our mindsets and finally move forward. ❤

[RashaunMichelle]

I had a therapist release me in trust I can handle things on my own because I showed her enough times I did the work. And I had the tools she gave me. I appreciated that.

[alejandramagdaleno]

Very few people move through life like this!! Very honest and transparent! Thank you!!

[rensofie]

The second therapist sounds more like a coach. Yes though, unless you heal the original wound, it (even minimally) is highly likely it will poison your life in some way.

Not dwelling, not suffering. Processing. Key ❤

There are benefits to both approaches, different people need different things at different times.

[IFBBProYeo]

Thank God my therapist is like the 2nd. Dwelling on the past is another form of creative helplessness.

[igak]

You talk about it to access the feelings that come with it, connect to those hurt vulnerable parts of you and reclaim them.

Thats the work.

[jasminegayle]

I think therapy is super important. And It's not for everyone. I think some people aren't aware of how things show up in their lives BECAUSE they've never examined the past. I think a skilled therapist allows you to make connections from the past to the present but most importantly for your future. Yes, harping on the past isn't healthy but neither is denying it exists and its potential impact.

[springledbetter]

Girl, you said it and you said it the right way. I agree with you 100%. Thank you for sharing

[LittleMrsMiddleton]

You are such an honest person. Thank you so much.

[MHUKTI]

I think there is phase for everything !
I tried to forget and gave a pass about my childhood and everything my mother & sister did and treated me to be able to move on and focus on survive and independent (which I did) until the past came back hitting me with all the traumatic events I forgot and had NO choice to sit, face & dealing with everything that happened as my body shut down made me struggling with my health for almost 4years now: I was so angry, in pain, dwelling and blaming them and everyone for my sorrow as I refused to do it for 35years.
Conclusion: you can’t escape your past, and trying not to look back was putting me in a situation where my soul & heart had to break to feel and connected the dots from a life I felt I wasted taking the burden and pain for others .. and here I am now, over 45 & still in the process of figuring out how and where to restart and learn to live again for myself..

[tklyte]

That's how therapists make money. They keep you coming back over and over to talk about the same damn thing ad nauseum😊. I really needed to hear this today. Thanks Leila.

[lifetosuccess]

I absolutely love this woman right here and her personality hold her back no matter what she was going through the inspiration from her is so amazing one day I hope I get to meet her

[tonyv]

This advice from you an Alex has changed my life and my mood on a daily and when I share this advice with other they have told me it has helped them a lot thank you for posting this kind of content

[spencervalitutti]

Thank you Alex and Leila. It’s amazing how you both have so much valuable input that’s so different yet so complimentary! You guys are a perfect tag-team! 🇨🇦

[TheJayJay]

"I don't even think about yesterday" 🎉

[ElisaValkyria]

I love how you think about these things

[kastnostones]

Thanks for sharing ❤. You're such a powerful woman to share such personal moments that deeply affected you. Most people dwell in the past. I learned from a therapist to STAY in this moment, right here, NOW! ❤

[helenangulo]

This helped my daughter so much regarding her father. I appreciate you 💕

[moonie]

Leila I spend this whole year dwelling about my lost chances and how I never put the work needed to get what I want in life... I've grown tired of my pointless behaviour and will commit to get done what has to 😊

[NanadiChloe]

Yes, yes, yes! If you only talk about such stuff without actually working on it, it just retraumatizes very often! I had exactly the same until I decided to change the therapist!