Why the phrase--i disagree--will literally blow the listener's mind

Today's danger phrase is "I disagree". We've talked before about how everything we say to someone creates a biochemical response in the person with whom we're communicating. It's important to know what words and phrases you may be using that are inadvertently creating a hostile environment in the person with whom you're communicating, because that closes the lines of communication. Watch this video to learn more about how to communicate effectively and avoid creating a negative environment. #communication #communicationtips #dangerphrases #2016 #danoconnortraining #Shorts

[lizzi]

Great short, Dan. If I see myself communicating, I'm not at that polished level yet. I hope to get there!

[lilaclilly]

Once again another invaluable communication lesson. Adding it to my new vocabulary. Sometimes work can be like a verbal war zone… In the past I would just withdraw. Now I take small steps to communicate in a more assertive way. I am being heard and colleagues that caused me anxiety are backing off. I have a very long way to go yet. Dan it is all thanks to you. 🙏🏼🤗

[SarahRejsa-oibq]

Now that advice would save someone thousands of dollars in therapy. That is great advice about changing your thought patterns and that will as a result, change your out look on life . I love your personality and your wisdom. Thank you. Your videos guide me through my work life and my personal life. I'm a big fan . LOL, if I met you in real life I would pass out! ♥️

[wildchild]

"life's tough, get a helmet"

[Missmay]

Another danger word, pertaining to conversations structured for debate, disciplinary action, or any communication in which there tends to be a “disagreement” is the word “you.” People feel attacked or triggered when the word “you” is made and not immediately followed by a compliment or affirming words. Instead, use the word “we.” EXAMPLE: A; “ ‘you’ got this wrong last time and the client wasn’t very happy with ‘your’ work; maybe ‘you’ should reconsider ‘your’ approach this time around. Do ‘you’ have any ideas?”
EXAMPLE: B; “ ‘We’ got this wrong last time and the client wasn’t very happy with ‘our’ work product, maybe ‘we’ should reconsider ‘our’ approach this time around… any suggestions?”

Remember this tactic isn’t to enable poor performance or bad behavior, but rather for the purpose of creating an environment in which your main objective is being met,
or at least discussed for remediation vrs. being shutdown, tuned out, or targeted in the future, as then nothing is being accomplished.

[exlesoes]

What about when they use reverse psychology, in a way like "you're not confident" to take a low blow at you while you are indeed confident but they (i'm talking a superior here) want to make you second guess yourself

[FlatOnHisFace]

I disagree. The line:

"You can't change the world, but you can change the facts and when you change the facts, you change points-of-view. When you change points-of-view, you may change a vote. And when you change a vote, you can change the world."
— Depeche Mode

[HectorD.Nazario]

And this ladies and gentlemen is what we call corporate bullshit jargon 😅
I disagree! Take the red pill and stop catering to peoples feelings. Life is not perfect or fair. If you need nice words to make you feel good, you have other issues.

[GameDevMadeEasy]

Nope. Why are you curtailing to feelings. Everyone feels differently to how words and phrases are used. There is no pleasing everyone, so changing how you speak will do nothing.
Actual hostile phrases are things like, "You are an idiot if you believe that."

[denhawken]

Nope.. I fully disagree...you create more hostility when you fake agree and insults another intelligence..learn how to disagree and take the disagreement as value to find common ground

This is bad advice in the video