My Life As A Loser

Lonely. Loser. Virgin

[paulpillow]

My oldest son has gone through this. Sadly, I believe it’s a symptom of societal decay.Give yourself a break. You’re not a loser. You’re lonely and depressed. Go for a jog. Join a gym. I don’t have any grand advice, but physical exercise is helpful in fighting depression. Thank God you have your parents support. Don’t diminish the value of that relationship.

[Superabound]

You're cute and honest. Those two qualities alone would make 90% of men happy and lucky to have you

[welshed]

I’m a married man with 2 kids. Allow me to say a few things.

1. You’re not a loser.

2. I’m lazy too. You’re not the only one.

3. We all spend too much time on the internet. Try to cut your hours down one day at a time.

4. Living at home Is going to become the norm. If you and your parents love each other and your folks are ok with it, don’t worry about it. Moving out is unaffordable for many unless you have a partner or do it with friends. My wife and I were renting for ages and we only own our one home now, because we had help from my wife’s mother. We lucked out.

5. You’re not stupid. Just this video is enough to prove that. Making mistakes means you’re human.

6. I don’t drive either and I’m 36. I refer you back to the laziness thing. My wife drives and I really need to help her out with it. But again, just know that you’re not the only one.

7. The secrets thing is again, normal. Anyone that says they have no secrets is just lying.

8. Sex is great. That’s a fact that I can’t lie about. But truly, it’s not all that. There’s so much pressure on people to sleep around and it’s silly. I lost my virginity in my 20’s and when it happened, nothing really changed.

9. Wanting attention is once again normal. Especially for women. That has been proven btw, so don’t come at me. Don’t beat yourself up for wanting attention from other humans.

10. Not being able to cook is the only thing I’d say that you should try to resolve. It means you aren’t reliant on others to feed you. But take it one step at a time. Learn to make something like a burger and go from there.

[natashahortzu]

The pride I have for you is your realism, your honesty. It’s incredibly courageous, it’s brutally brave, and I completely, wholeheartedly HONOR you for that. Your sentiment is not negative. I share it, it resonates with me. You aren’t asking for pity. You are truly giving ALL of yourself and that makes you so beautiful.

[MarkTurner-vsuc]

You will realize at some point, you are actually the valuable one.

[LitherFamily]

How can someone be this honest and unfiltered on the internet? You have my deep respect 🥺

[adidaman]

As a 29 year old male that can resonate with almost everything you said its very refreshing to see other people are in this situation. Sometimes we feel like its just us

[SarahBaumgartner-bk]

I feel so lost. My fiancé left me after 4 years together, and I don’t know how to move forward. I just want him back.

[DreamingOni]

Im 27, and you're the most relatable person I've seen on here. We got a lot in common, which is rare for me to say. I understand 100% how you feel . Life is hard to go through when you feel like you haven't done anything truly meaningful after all these years. I'm also afraid of driving it looks so stressful, but I'll give it a shot eventually...maybe. But I will say this, you will find your way to greatness. We might be losers now, but we can all turn into winners! Never give up champ we are all in this together!

[zmbie-wmble]

Refreshing to see a normal, smart, lazy, funny, beautiful person with some self doubts. Really honest, quite rare.

[Sammich]

It's crazy. You're describing me basically in my 20s. I didn't even really change until I was just about 30. I remember thinking to myself one day... "Pick something, anything, just do that one thing SO well that one day someone will notice". I chose something in the physical space. It's crazy because it seems so distant ago but I can remember it all like it was yesterday. The thing that I stuck with(physical activities/fitness) is the thing that people at random stops me in public to ask me questions about. To them, it's as if I've been doing this my whole life.

Whoever that you feel like you are right now, things can change in what seems like a blink of an eye. Most people will never know what I was like in my 20s because now in my 30s, they assume that I've been this physically adept for the entirety of my life. You'll find that something one day. It may require a series of events to happen that seems like it might have been the worst day of your life, but that "worst day" was just a catalyst for your best days to come.

Hang in there!

[hornedlobster]

Thank you for sharing this. There are thousands of people who feel just like you do. It was brave of you to share this, and it will show people that they are not alone.

[waldiwusler]

I'm a 43 years old virgin guy from Germany and I have to say that some things you want to be called are not completely unattainable. (BTW, some men are reserved because they don't want to be perceived as perverted or pushy.) You are a brave person, you are good looking and you could actually be quite intelligent as you sound reflected. Don't get hung up on superficial attributes.

[dissolve]

You're not stupid. And you're not a loser.

[loumonte]

You answered my question @3:00 . Anxiety is devastating, and it leads to social awkwardness, panic attacks, isolation. Speaking from experience.

[raydavies]

I'm 68 and have been through it...DON'T EVER SAY YOU'RE A LOSER....STOP WITH THE EVERY TIME YOU THINK OR SAY A NEGATIVE....PIVOT OFF OF IT ....SAY STOP!!!! OUT LOUD ....AND SAY SOMETHING POSITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF....MAKE A 10 ITEM LIST OF ALL THE POSITIVES IN YOUR LIFE & REPEAT THEM OVER AND OVER !!!....YOU CAN DO IT ....RETRAIN YOUR MIND AND GET OFF OF THE GOOD LUCK !!!

[robertjhughes]

I am the real life version of the 40 year old virgin, well 41 now. I live with my mother because of fear of going my own way and medical issues with my back. Now she is as dependent on me as I am on her. I was all ways afraid of women after having so many make fun of me when trying to talk to them. My point with revealing my secret is to let you know you are not a loser at all. You are young and have your hole life ahead of you to find love. Please do not give up and hide like I have, I beg you 😢.

[Koroar]

Male virgins: "I've never been good enough for anyone to want me"
Female virgins: "I haven't decided to do it yet / I haven't found a guy who is good enough"

Not really the same

[swordsman]

You haven't met a real loser yet, he resides in Malaysia. An expat from eastern europe with a phd who ended up as refugee here with no job, no citizenship, no family and almost no money. Anxiety, depression and social phobia are my old buddies, but i managed to complete my studies despite all that. My only hope is that one day i might be relocated to another country because the country i am in now does not recognize refugees. It may sound as a platitude but try to be more appreciative of what you have. Wish you all the best and hope you get out of the depression you're in now. And pls, stop calling yourself a loser. You're beautiful and young. Peace & love.

[arianne.nicole]

This was one of the greatest videos I have seen . Thank you for being so real and making me feel less alone and more human. ❤