This Is Why Suicidal Thoughts Are So Common In Divorced Men

Over 50% of men describe experiencing suicidal thoughts during divorce... the real number is probably much higher. This is why these agonizing thoughts are so common, and what you can do to protect yourself if you're suffering from them.

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*Helpful Books for Divorced Men* (affiliate links)
► The Full Body Presence - Gives gentle, accessible exercises for somatic processing of emotional pain and trauma

► The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time

► Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself - Concrete tools and exercises for rewiring the brain and reimagining your sense of self and purpose

► Legendary - Inspiration and a powerful perspective for stepping into your potential

► The Myth Of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture - Brilliant, in every way. This is an amazing resource for understanding yourself and your ex wife and finding the clarity or compassion you need to forgive.

► Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Help - Intense and well researched. I would recommend this book when you are past the early stages of divorce and have a stable support system in place.

I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.

DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.

[Adakataba]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[kboogie]

From my perspective, I can't understand how this isn't more like 80%. Been dealing with this for two years, no end in sight, ever.

[almac]

You missed an important point: having your “why” to live taken away. Closely related to the sudden loss of identity but it’s not the same thing.

[georgesontag]

I know what happens to men in divorce, I lived it. Here is why the man goes insane. The house, land, furniture, savings, dog, children, alimony, 1/2 401k, 1/2 pension all goes to her. The man becomes homless, gets his clothes, shaver and owes her $200, 000 in child support. The lawyers took his home equity and he paid for 85% of everything he lost. The courts won't support his visitation schedule and he needs another $20, 000 to fight in court, just to see his kids 2x a month. A new man moves into your house and the husband is completely alone and broke. That's why he is unhappy. The ex wife enjoys the house, new man and thev money that keeps coming in. All along the man thought he would get half.

[JacobValles-wd]

I’m m liking and connecting with this. And her other videos too. It’s awesome to see a woman who’s passionate for the men of divorce and to help. Thank you.

[stormchaser]

I thank this channel and many more for making me realize fully why my choice to remain a bachelor was the best decision ever. Ever!

[melkerner]

Don't kid yourself - those thoughts go through the mind of every married man at some point - especially if they are living in a sexless marriage with few options - the tricky part is to understand it isn't really about them and not to internalize the rejection and neglect. Men are casually used and discarded in western society.

[gregorylatta]

Because men actually care. This is in contrast to most women.

[delanodor]

This is a bad situation I’m in. I have tried beating my mind and I have never felt this depression. Things are mounting up. The ‘move on’ bs is not working. My mind is tripping. One minute I’m praying to survive the next I’m looking to end it. It’s been one year sitting alone. Don’t like going out like before. Bills from lawyers, huge payments due to her and the family. Man I lost my mind. One thing I started doing among other bad habits are contacting clairvoyants that tell me so much bs but it’s as if I just wanna hear that she’s coming back. But the fact of the matter is she ain’t and the court orders are the only thing that is coming. 43 years old watching videos like this. I’ve got a midlife crises happening. I want to have my wife back and everything will be alright. Everything will be alright. Everything…… no one gives a shit it’s all going. Self care, self respect, self destruction but what If I changed my mindset suddenly, what if I got up from this state and spat on my misery and told it to F off! Surely it would be better than a box six feet under the grass.

[kaczok]

This hasn't been my experience. I am passively suicidal after my divorce because I do not see a future worth fighting for. I'm 39, still tied to my ex since we have a kid. No friends, no purpose. And on top of that I have to deal with a mental health baggage that predates the divorce and even the marriage. Never learned to emotionally connect with people. Never formed a stable identity for myself. So by the time I untangle this through therapy I will most likely be 50 or older. Getting to start your life over at 50 is not an attractive thing to fight for. So why bother?

[KigurumiAlice]

There is also death of love one that trigger this to. Seem multiple layer and complex.

There was no suicide note left by my cousin, go thought a divorce. He father passed away, new job issues.

Like a water jug it over fills with water.

I believe the former wife was a controling narcissist.

[Hashie]

Damn she's hitting the wall hard 😮

[georgesontag]

Another female ignoring the one sided divorce laws. Men get over losing the wife the cut off sex 3 years earlier. What he has trouble with is he just became homeless and has no bed. He has no money, he has no children, all he has is court orders for him to pay alimony and child support.

[DesertFox]

We don't talk about or show our emotions because of the way women will treat us if we do.

[moreme]

And the other 50% think about offing someone else….

[Gene]

This woman has no idea what guys like me who have been destroyed by my wife from what she has put me through through and taking away my purpose in life

[ApostleChally]

1 Corinthians 7:10-15

10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.