HOW THE INFJ SUPERCHARGES THEIR DARK SIDE

INFJ Life Coach Lesson: INFJs have a very strong tendency to suppress their dark side. This can be seen as an advantage because it makes them easier to hide this part of themselves from others; however, sometimes when we don't express ourselves fully or embrace our inner darknesses then it may come out in unexpected ways which could cause problems later down the road.

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[Wenzes]

Have you used your "dark side" consciously to create positive change in your life?

[Betscu.]

Yep. Being selfish in a healthy way is crucial that INFJs can live their life to the fullest.

[laundrymatters]

Twenty five years ago I put myself in the third person mode and asked myself "What should this person do to improve their situation? ". Worked well to rebuild my life after being decimated by a toxic narcissistic wife. I long overdue prioritized me without the guilt.

[Moshii]

This week i pit up a boundary, i thought i was to hard, the next day he apologized

[HoshPak]

My dark side always comes forward whenever people doubt me. They think I am not capable of doing their task because all they know is that soft and caring side. When they deny me from getting what I want I become vicious in pursuing it and if they think they need to step on my toes they will get acquainted with my selfish/ruthless side. To date I'm the only one at work who has ever shot back at our supervisor and came back victorious. I unfortunately am reliant to his opinion if I ever want to get into a higher position, however I am making good progress convincing everyone around him instead. My coworkers actually elected me for two important positions at our company and I know from others that it infuriates our supervisor. He doesn't understand how that's possible. If he spent some time with me in private maybe he would eventually find out but he decided to avoid me indefinitely.

I have a very good life at work now, especially as my new team leader seems to be my biggest cheerleader. :)

[MetaTron]

Wow. So so true. I used my life to make all humans happy.
I needed to be helping others all the time.
I learned from childhood if I wasn’t giving something of myself I had no value.

Now when I say my truth stand up for myself people get angry and yes they do abandon me.
Even my forever friend. When I addressed what she was doing and asked her to stop. And she just cut me out. Just like that.
People see what’s in themselves when I speak
My truth.
It scares them. It shocks them because now I’m different.
What they were hiding I always saw.. it never said a word.
Im integrating all parts of me.
I see the whole world differently.
I see people differently.
I see why they had me in their lives and why I had them in my life.
And why they abandon me.
It makes me sad..to see my friendships disappear.
It becomes lonely hoping someday they will come back and accept me for me.
The me that was hiding behind the curtain.
Never showing who I am.
It takes along time for family and friends to see the goodness in you when they are so unprepared for the changes.
These changes reflect mirror things inside themselves, bring a bright light on their darkness.
I feel I am very different and I love deeply. Unconditional. Even through the hurt my moments of hate are so brief.
I always want to talk it out and resolve conflicts. Humans don’t communicate. All I want to do is explain and resolve. Because I just love them.

On a brighter ⭐️⭐️⭐️😂note.⭐️Starting all over again has its benefits.
We are overcomers. Create your own Epic Life.
Much love everyone.
💜⭐️💜

[lindavalentin]

In my humble opinion Wenzes, the dark side can also be referred to as SELF-PRESERVATION 😍

[karinfriedemann]

My dark side comes up most uncontrollably while parenting. I think that because of our relatively low energy, need for solitude and intellectual stimulation as well as our tendency to be more than kind, once in a while the Monster Mom blows up and I was wondering if you could do a post on INFJ parenting. It took me a while to realize that even my children judge me because I'm different than other parents, even when I'm doing exactly what I think is good. I was always misunderstood by my parents and siblings and hoped that by having children, somebody would understand me. But no. I'm struggling to accept that no matter what I do for others, it doesn't mean they perceive me as a nice or good person or parent. They have no idea what I gave up in order to do what I'm doing for them or what potential I could reach if I didn't have to fight for basic respect every day.

[autumndusk]

The advice resonates with me, and I like the term “intensify your dark side”. “Intense” shares the same Latin root as the word “intent”, to do something with purpose. So, use our capacity to be “dark” intentionally, with a specific goal in mind. Other personality types might use their dark side indiscriminately, as a matter of day to day life, which is what sets the INFJ apart, knowing that putting ourselves first means someone else comes second, and being aware of the fallout from this choice, and learning to be okay with it.

[iconicintuitive]

It's so sad that we will actually feel bad and consider how the person who's hurting us feels! As they abuse! I've stopped doing this even though they keep going

[why]

It never occurred to me how dangerous INFJs could be till I started healing from burnout in retirement & started wondering where the best place would be to go to meet more INFJs. I'd love to see a social club for us to get together in Sarasota where I live. Can you imagine how much the System must be terrorized by the thought of a roomful of INFJs in a Think Tank it isn't in control of?🤭TY so much for your channel that helps me laugh at myself & accept my unique characteristics better as I recalibrate for Chapter 2 in the future.🙏

[Chercheure_Indépendante]

9:40 it's better to be disliked for who you are than liked for who you're not.

[HaleyMary]

I've often felt like I was abandoned by friends after awhile. It was like if I tried to suggest doing something with one friend or a group of friends, it would either take forever to happen or not happen at all. Things would only happen if it was the friend's idea, not mine. I also find that being selfish is healthy because when I do take time for myself, I feel happier and more relaxed. It's awful to say, but I feel happier spending time by myself these days because I've spent decades feeling rejected by my peers.

[bullswing]

I’m constantly helping people in big ways… I often don’t get anything not even a courtesy or friend

[jasoncarr]

We INFJ's are a little nuclear reactor ; quiet, efficient, productive. If you push us; you will see the nightmare called Chernobyl.

[brandonkelly]

I'm a 43 year old single father and it took me a minute but I had to figure myself out and went hermit mode for 8 yesrs and just now getting back to be a little more sociable and meeting new people. People are screwed up

[ljsmooth]

Mindsphere what my dark side might do if it gets out of control

[hilaklein]

I learned to value authenticity and vulnerability instead of support, loved and validated by others

[freddynovember]

Its always so hard for me to understand why people don't ask themselves what others need or like. I didn't realize that they only will ask that person directly and never give it any thought when that person isn't around.

[light]

Damn! You're addressing one of my greatest fears. I do feel like I have a monster lying dormant in me and if I let out my anger, I do feel like I'm going to became an asshole and no one would want to be around me. Thank you tremendously for this video <3