What Your Birth Order Says About You

How does your birth order shape you? Does being the middle born or an only child affect your personality? Or, is this personality theory flawed?
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TIME CODES:
0:00 Intro
0:46 The Theory of Birth Order
1:08 First-born
1:53 Middle-born
2:30 Last-born
3:04 Only Child
3:34 Personal Experience with Birth Order
4:08 The TRUTH about Birth Order
4:22 Flaws in Birth Order Theory
4:59 SciShow Birth Order Video
5:12 Why Birth Order Theory Will Never Go Away
5:42 How We Frame the Birth Order Conversation
6:18 My Conclusion

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What Your Birth Order Says About You

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[unabashedlyanne]

When Abby said “their only friends are adults” I really felt called out

[elizabethcochran]

I think closeness in age can affect the dynamic too. My older brothers were 20 months apart, so they don't remember not having each other and the younger of the two caught up in size rather quickly and they were always able to be competitive. Everyone thinks my second brother is the oldest because he nailed down his "adult" responsibilities and habits at a rather young age. Neither of my brothers were ever that bossy to me but I am also close in age to them. Enter the "baby" of the family, my little brother with a 7 year gap. I am a middle child, but I think I relate to being the youngest child as the gap between me and my little brother is so large. And I probably boss him around because of our age gap. Eg. I finished college before he started high school.
All this to say, Abby's point about a lot of different factors at play I think is a good summary. Any study attempting to be scientific would have to take into account so many factors it is going to be difficult to be conclusive.

[monsev.arellano]

As the youngest, I have a hard time being assertive and feel uncomfortable bossing people around because I never had to do that growing up...and I am definitely not life of the party😅

[kelseywarren-bryant]

I have one older brother two years older than me. I personally never believed in the birth order because it didn’t reflect our family 💁🏽‍♀️ My older brother was the playful, funny, slightly rebellious one, and I was the responsible, serious one. He just always naturally had a loud personality and my parents said I was the quietest baby ever 😂

[radiyhakhatun]

This is my take on it.
Older - Bossy
Middle - Smart
Younger - Innocent/playful
Only child - Loner
Twins - either completely similar or completely opposites

[roy.shrestha]

I am an only child and I fit in the loner stereotype. My parents have been my only friends for a really long time (I made two good friends in the university). I used to be quite ambitious growing up, now I just want to be happy and healthy - 4w5 INFP

[mostlyyinwithkayce]

I LOVE Birth Order Theory! I have a sneaking suspicion that birth order is also related to Enneagram Types (like a large percent of first borns are 1's and 3's etc..)

[kobrien]

First born. However, my mum is also first born and the eldest of 7. She definitely had responsibilities placed on her. As a result she was adamant not to do that to me. Thanks mum.

[anjaamann]

I’m a social butterfly only child! It’s because i don’t have siblings, it was very important to my mom that i had friends and was always happy to invite them over. Though i do fit into the the mature, perfectionistic stereotype

[aprildoucette]

This makes me laugh because my dad is the eldest of 5 and my mom's the baby of 10.
My brother can get away with pretty much anything (ESPECIALLY WITH MOM)
For as long as I can remember my dad has been telling me that I am the eldest and therefore I need to be able to take care of my brother and I when we age (and my parents are no longer here).
We both have Spina Bifida and we're in wheelchairs and so my parents have taught us to really stick together...
My dad being the eldest male in his family, he was raised with the whole "you're the eldest male and so your siblings are going to be looking up to you etc..."
Being the eldest and a girl my dad still reminds me of how much importance I have as the oldest child especially as a woman... (and I'm 33 y/o)

[krutikparekh]

I really like the way you explained it 💙

[jacksonhollingsworth]

Super informative! Didn’t realize past studies were so flawed. Makes sense, though!

[MissHolliday]

I'm the youngest... and had a lot of responsibilities. I'm a One and the child that is expected to succeed and make the right decisions.

[mattcalloway]

definitely did not get what i expected from this video and i’m glad i didn’t!

[evelynallen]

I'm a middle child but I also have 5 siblings. Ive never been rebellious my goal is to always do what I'm told so I can get forgotten and do what I want because everyone knows ive already finished my chores and homework. Idk how stereotypical that makes me

[Marjorie_Fisher]

I’m number 4 out of 5, but my older siblings are 12, 10, and 7 years older than me. By the time I was in middle school, I was the oldest child at home, which led to most people who don’t know I have older siblings assuming I’m an oldest or only child, as I was often considered to be mature for my age and am comfortable interacting with individuals of any age (though sometimes people close to my age are the hardest to interact with).

[Vanarian]

I’m the 7th child of 10, but my older siblings have always told me that I was supposed to be the youngest so I was spoiled that way, but I also have had to act like all 3, oldest, middle, and youngest because I have 3 younger siblings. So I probably relate the most to the middle child because I’m not sure which role I’m supposed to take on lol

[dawnaskey]

I am #5 out of 7. The first 4 were born in 5 years, then 4.5 years on either side of me. I have been the youngest, the oldest, the middle AND an only child (his theory states that a 4 year gap on either side is equivalent to a single birth.)

[dawntripp]

I always felt like my sister who is technically the middle child, even though our other sister is 13 years younger than her. was more like the first born. She is the responsible go getter and I as the eldest am the opposite. She is a type 1 and I am a type 9 so this makes total sense. I never was on board about birth order. Glad to hear it was disproven!

[artsyanne]

I’m the only child, and I always felt like I could relate better to adults than I could to other kids. In fact, growing up I always thought my peers seemed immature and obnoxious. Even as a grown up, most of my friends are people way older than me.