I'm Disappointed

The world doesn't get easier, we get better. Some days are just going to be harder than others, but I take some comfort in knowing it's only making me stronger for the next round =)

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My name is Jay Swanson - I'm an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they'll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I've learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.

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Patron Producer: David Brooker
Edited by: Metro Mask Man
Music by: None today =)

[lorenzocardoza]

Not expecting anything from anyone (except for myself - but allowing myself to be pleasantly surprised by others when they do exceed said non existant expectations) is what does it for me. I swear I’m not a pessimist! 😅

[Sportkite]

Oh my goodness. Eglise Saint Agustin looks so clean! Good talk Jay. Disappointment was huge in my early years too. (I've been disappointed that Eglise de la Sainte Trinité has been undercover every time I come to Paris)

[aliwins]

Bright future ahead!
Great optimism.

You inspired me to write down a memory from my past that haunts me. I am hoping it helps me heal and move forward.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on disappointment. It is good food for thought!

[juliejones]

So brave of you to put your heart out there Jay. Be proud of yourself and keep being honest about your feelings. Don’t let this effect how you view yourself. You are worthy of someone very special! ❤ PS - thanks for the My Paris Portraits recommendation, I just got my photos back and it was fabulous to work with them. I’m super excited with how they turned out! 🙌

[boothr]

great reflection and introspection, Jay

[michaelgray]

Église Saint Augustin looks amazing! Definitely want to go to mass there next time I’m in Paris. I’m sorry to hear of your disappointment in your situation. People always let us down some way, just as we disappoint others in our lives. There is one person you can put all your faith into and He never disappoints…!

Thank You and God Bless You

[agyos]

There is only one thing that soothes disappointment (for me): the realization that whatever it is: event, situation, thing, or person; that did not behave as wished for, is actually not what I perceive it to be. That event, situation, thing or person, is a smokescreen….a symbol, of something very real, and deeper than the physical manifestation of what I think I wanted. I believe that we must look beneath the veil, to find the True lodestone of our desire, in order to understand WHY we feel disappointment in so many varied things. There is no event, situation, thing, or person that will ever satisfy that deeper desire. Ever.
You have the knowledge within, of what is truly your happiness, and you will find it in due time. The ups and downs of the seeking, is the journey of life. Have patience, have humor, and allow your feelings to trace their art upon your soul, and create the beauty that is YOU…but, always remember that the true treasure is never without, and always within. (I think this is true for me, at least, and I do my best to bring it to mind at the moments of disappointment when I feel a kind of despair that is deeply uncomfortable.) My heart is with you, and with all of us who allow ourselves to feel openly. ❤✨🌞

[KarinLynnBates]

I’ve found that grown up me has to take care of small me, who’s still in there, to manage disappointment. And the only way out is through. You just have to feel it fully so you can let go. I hope talking about disappointment with us helped you a bit.

[danielledavies]

You’ve got this, you can tell your strength over the disappointment. And yes Cholula🤤, I too was happily surprised when it appeared in my local grocery store in little New Zealand.

[NaudRuun]

I love these insights Jay
Thank you
Please keep them coming from time to time

[flatironnewyork]

I'd rather be hopeful and be disappointed than cynical and jaded. BTW just had my first Noir experience, down the street from my hotel. Thanks for the rec - I was not disappointed! And I'm delighted by their gorgeous branding :)

[NickAlexTheo]

Aiming farther and higher. That approach can only pull you off the disappointment track.

[tas]

Coming from emotional neglect this is huge. When parents do not teach you how to manage your emotions. Getting therapy and learning how to cope with disappointment of which there have been many in life but it gets better each day.
Just an edit. Wrote this before I watch the full thing. Did not even know you were gonna speak on childhood. My example was of my own. 😊😊

[SliderDuck]

Hey Jay, I'm sorry to hear about the hypothetical relationship thing. I hope a more ideal situation comes along soon....hypothetically of course. In the meantime, I'm jealous you found Cholula, it's been hard to find since 2021!

[Jakeu]

"The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide" - Tyler Durden. With disappointmets, adjust your expectations or just adopt an "Oh well" mentality. Major upsets need to be managed or redirect energies towards a solution. Fatigue, high emotional states, stress, other pressures can make some issues feel like Mt Everest when they are actually more like a pebble.

Being able to step back can help evaluate the issue and how to respond. Easier said than done, but sometimes you are just not in the right headspace to respond appropriately. In those cases, respond the best possible way and deal with the fallout.

[maxshenkwrites]

Neville Goddard (Christian mystic) was big on what he called REVISION: when something disappoints you, go into imagination and rewrite it the way you wish it had happened... for lack of a better way of putting it, replace the old memory with the revised scene that you WISH had happened. That way I'm not reliving the disappointment by assuming that it's true and "that's the way life is." I act on the basis of a new desired assumption and then THAT goes forth and creates anew.

[wollid]

Difficult to find anything spicy living down here in Spain as well. Missing hot salsa. Growing my own pepper plants again this year to remedy this problem. Why does Europe not like hot, spicy food?

[PAWS-]

i am all about hot sauce on pretty much any dinner item. as for disappointment you are learning how to deal with what that actually means as an adult. keep reading, studying and learning about yourself. relationships whether family or outside, struggles always! have a great weekend.

[EdzoBotjes]

onto the next round dear sir.. glad you went to far away to find out this was an option..

[pjh]

Honest assessment- I’m not sure how I feel about what I consider the production of your videos now. I’ve been watching your channel for the last 6 years and the aspect that I’ve admired is that the videos weren’t “over produced” meaning that it really felt like you were simply living your life with a camera in your face.

Now it seems like the focus is more on finding cool angles to shoot from in “normal scenarios” which are not normal because you had to set them up.

Just trying to get used to the new format of your vids.