INFJ: The Most INTIMIDATING Personality Type (MBTI)

In this video I discuss 6 reasons why the INFJ is the most intimidating MBTI personality type. Some of the reasons we are so "scary" to others tend to fly under the radar. However, once you understand our abilities - I promise you'll have a better understanding of our fear factor!

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[richardjohanson]

INFJs' sensitivity means they have a deep appreciation for beauty and the arts. They can be moved to tears by music, art, theatre, books, films, food or flowers. INFJs are very aware of other people's moods and feelings and can feel them themselves, leading them to be exhausted.

[annatetiad.]

INFJ's can not only see through people - we can see through veneers in just about every situation, including people's motives and agendas. We sit back and look at the big picture.

[RealityCheck]

Real life example: I told my neighbor, "The reason why you drink alcohol isn't bec you are an alcoholic. It is only bec you missed your dad who you saw drank on a daily basis." My neighbor cried & stayed silent for a while after I told him this. Dec last year, he quit drinking. Nobody believed he would ever stop drinking before this.

[mruncle]

If you've lied to us or betrayed us, watch out.
Our calm demeanor, kindness and empathy will turn very easy to something no one expects.

[pqnvltn]

Anyone find that people out of nowhere decide you are an enemy and want to bring you down in very deliberate and often emotionally violent ways? I've had people randomly seek out to cause me pain and I've never quite understood it. It's super weird because I hate confrontation and conflict, but no matter how much of a hermit I try to be, lately there's always some random person who decides they are 'against me.'

[HaggisIsGross]

I absolutely refuse the statement that “I intimidate others.” NO. Others are intimidated by me, and that’s on them! I am just going about my life, and they need to own their responses and deal with them without assigning the blame to me.

[darrenparkes]

I give my love to all my INFJ brothers and sisters, hope you find peace and happiness, keep strong, keep well, we are a rare species,

[lioness]

I can smell their intentions, manipulations and lies long before they open their mouth.
And they call me crazy, that it's "all in your head, you're imagining things".
And it hurts every single time.
That's why my respect is earned.

[lisaraymond]

With all the chaos going on in the world, I would love to have a conversation with a mature INFJ who understands the truth. When all the dots keep connecting and the puzzle pieces keep coming together, it all makes sense to me. I am the only one who wanted to talk about the elephant in the room. Speaking truth scares people and causes them to avoid you. Sadly, it has led to a life of isolation. God bless

[Candyliz]

As an INFJ that grew up in a dysfunctional home I am very sensitive to other's pain -- which is why I will never say the really hurtful things I know about a person when I have a door slam. This is where Stoicism fits so well with being an INFJ.

[RealityCheck]

Being able to tell people what they are thinking before they think about it is both a blessing & a curse. As an INFJ, I tend to scare people away. They think you stalk them when all you said was the truth.

[allisonreed]

We're also chameleons. We can play the game, but we don't need or actually care about it. People stuck in keeping up appearances often react badly when the INFJ just walks away because the game is no longer interesting.

[Human_]

"Infj's do not rebel for the sake of rebelling..."

That is true... Nice trait.

[gean]

My ex-boyfriend of 7 years and my mother got together and had an "intervention" where they told me the words I used were too big and the conversations I had were "too much" so they had me tone down my vocabulary and simplify my sentences so "regular" people could understand me better.... I had another boyfriend before this who used a dictionary to look up words when we would talk. I gave him an A for effort on that. 😅

[jlmk]

This is exactly true. Anyone else also have an extremely sensitive nervous system? I can feel it in body so much that I’m learning to protect myself. I get physically sick sometimes from others not even bad people just sick people. It’s intense. It’s honestly too much ❤ love and light to all

[dianewagner]

I needed this. The last 4 years has been especially hard for me. I feel like everyone is lying to me and nothing makes sense. My friends hate it when I try to talk about current events and the future. I don’t want to do what everyone else is doing.

[JohnnyPaulTutaki]

I dont want to soak up information, I want to drown in it.

[kimjay]

Re: lies and deception "freak us out" more than other personality types. That is spot-on, Sir! How did you EVER put all these puzzle pieces together so aptly? Astonishing! Thank you.

[infj]

Recently, I've meet another INFJ, and I cought her sayin something insensitive in a various ocasions. It was shocking to realize I can appear insensitive too, despite being extreemly considered. Turns out she meant something different from what I have imagined. And if two INFJ's can not understand each other, I can imagine how difficult it is for other personality types to understand us.

Your channel truely helps reflect on ourselves, and much needed especially for our personality type.

[Estranger]

I'm 22 Years Old Male INFJ currently in Last Semester of my Degree. A few months ago I heard about MBTI in random podcast later on, i searched it and the rest is history😂, i ardently consumed so much content uncountable videos, blogs, quora answers etc.

Here are my Golden Nuggets :

INFJ:4 FUNCTION STACKS

1) Introverted Intuition
2) Extroverted Sensing
3) Introverted Thinking
4) Extroverted Feeling

Understand them deeply!

• Future Focused, Creative, Info Junkie about the topic that are curious to us, Deep, insightful, Empathetic, Visionary, Caring, Absorb others Feelings, Old souls, Quest for learning, Putting your feet in other person shoes, Crave Meaning, Big Picture thinking, Pattern analyzer, Make Connection in seemingly unconnected things, Good writing than speaking, Chameleons, Need Alone Time to recharge, sensitive to criticism, Private & standoffish,
Feel unfit in group setting, like one or one ( small group setting), exhausted by Large crowds, Noises and flashlights, Self critical, Set high standards, Struggle in Small Talk, Mysterious, Have idealism, Abstract thinkers, Seeing beyond the obvious, Strong Gut Feeling which make them good future anticipator, Making world better place, Keenly Analyze body language subtle cues and voice tone of others, Soul Crushing Stare, Minimalistic, Dislike Superficiality & show-off, Avoid conflict Seeking harmony, Love Reading, Good with language, Doorslam Others( means part from others suddenly without explaining them as if they don't exist), Emotionally sensitive but high pain tolerance/resilient, High in Energy or cerebral power but limited Physical energy.

U might have interest in
Psychology, Philosophy, Theology.

Weaknesses :

UnHealthy Perfectionism (All or none approach, Done is better than Perfect )

Over Planning & Procrastination ( Due to Perfectionism, u Feared a lot from Failure that u don't even try which leads to procrastination.
U have strong urge to control all the variables of future to avoid surprises as a little bit changing in your expected future can pivot you to dismiss your plan. Avoid Over planning just set priorities )

Overthinking/Other Analyzing Ni-Ti Loop
( Do some sensory Concrete Stuff e.g walking, playing etc as we lack in our 4th function extrovert sensing, be more spontaneous and LIVE In Present moment " )

Overwhelm/Burnout
( Come out of your comfort zone but don't overwhelm yourself, Set healthy boundaries, Start saying No, First Take care of your Health & needs then others)

We lack in Action Parts due to our shadow function 'Extrovert Sensing' which deals with real concrete sensory world, and due to introverted intuition we are so much in our heads all the time, we make up so much in our heads that we think vision and only vision gonna leads us to results.
Its deception to yourself, wake up to reality.
Action is the Antidote!
Action-> Motivation ->

Growth Journey could be slow in beginning as compare to others but as the time passes you would surpass others, Infjs have unique style of learning others are learning 2×2 = 4 but we are learning multiplication and forming deep insights in our brain that we can apply on other sceneries also.

Feeling incompetent is a nightmare to us so don't Campare with others and embrace your unique strengths.

Don't let avoiding mundane robotic stuff spoil your bigger vision!
Proverb: Seeing trees for the forest, But in Infj case it is vice verca, Infj see forest for the trees. Means anticipate bigger vision planned everything in head but in term of doing boring stuff necessary for desired results, Infj be like: No no I'm not doing this, is this for which i born.

Trust Your Intuition & set realistic expectations with yourself and others!

Rather than setting detailed goals set themes for year or next chapter of your life e.g " Growth, Focus, Healthy relationships, Competence, Fitness etc.

Avoid people pleasing, own yourself be honest to yourself, don't unnecessarily mould yourself acc to others.


I Think INFJs have 4 Needs & Dimentions :

1) Intellectualism

( Philosophy, Political science, History, Psychology Sociology... in Short " Literature Type " Person.

2) Creativity ( Graphic Designing, content creation, Script writing, Copy writing, content writing, ghost writing, Any Type of writing.., Painting, Crafting, " Artistic Type "

3) Helping
" Doctors, Psychotherapist, NGOs, Any Sort Of helping humanity or working for betterment of the world.

4) Purpose/Meaning
Religion/Spirituality. In Islam especially Mysticism. Crave Meaning in everything they do. Existential Crisis can be expected in your 20s.

Order could vary.
U can fulfill your needs acc to your life conditions/ environment.

Also choose carrier acc & Beware! Give importance to money, we have tendency to be acstetic and deep down we somehow consider it evil.It is not our big motivation as we are not materialistic but still finances shouldn't be Ignored. Atleast make priority to earn enough which is sufficient to maintain minimalistic lifestyle.

~ WE DON'T HAVE TO DO
SO MANY THINGS, BUT
FEW RIGHT THINGS.

~ I DON'T CARE WHAT
OTHERS THINK OF ME, I
DON'T CARE WHAT
OTHER FEELS, I'M NOT
RESPONSIBLE FOR
OTHERS!!!

~ IT'S OK TO BE I'M
PERFECT, ITS OK TO
FAIL SOMETIMES, ITS
OK TO MOVE SLOW.

~ TASTE THE
AMAZINGNESS OF
PRESENT MOMENT!

~ STOP WORRYING
ABOUT FUTURE, IN THE
LONG RUN, WE ALL ARE
DEAD.

• Prioritize Yourself and
Your Family fist then think
about rest of the world &
its problems.
• Set boundaries take care
of your health & needs.
Put yourself first
than others.
• Be a Bit Selfish Buddy😎.

There are so many channels on Youtube regarding Infjs, but i found these 3 the best if you wanna learn more :

1)Wenzes INFJ couch
2)Frank James
3)The INFJ Circle

YOUR FELLOW INFJ,