The youngest child stereotypes ACTUALLY affect them

Each sibling has their own set of stereotypes, and the youngest child is no exception. How do stereotypes actually affect us as the youngest? I think it goes deeper than most people think. In this video, we take a look at how some of them affected me as I grew up, and now as an adult.

Stereotypes are often formed unconsciously. It's not as though someone sat down and decided how we should think about our birth order. Even psychology is behind the game on this one, with outdated research and unstable assumptions. In reality, stereotypes are formed by the story we tell ourselves. The narrative we give the experience of our life and our sibling's life. In many ways stereotypes preload the way we interpret the world, priming us for our experience. They shape our worldview and how we experience certain situations.
The three takeaways, first of all, what is your identity? What story are you telling yourself? Change your story, change your life, as Tony Robbins says.
Second, step outside your baseline. Go beyond what your normal level of experience is. Push outside the norm and aim to see the world in a different light. New angles mean new possibilities.
Lastly, begin your day proactively. Begin your day with the end in mind and what you want to accomplish. Your mind is the most precious part of who you are, don't let just anything wander in.

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[jjk_death_note]

Older siblings think we’re the favorite because we’re being treated like a child- which we are children. But then when we grow up they don’t realize we’re still being treated like a child.

[redfatseal]

As someone who’s sick as being portrayed as the devil in every damn TikTok video I feel honored watching this.

[animefan_tylerfan]

Same I keep people saying “Youngest is so spoiled!” “There the favorite!” And stuff and it’s annoying. We get left out, we’re not the favorite.

[DICEBOY]

Growing up in school people walking up to me and " oh hey your ____'s little brother right? " Really annoyed me and discouraged my worth as a person.

[ClementineShmementine]

I had a closet. I hate the term princess- I was neglected not given more freedom

[Stellybellyhaha]

My older sisters always get spoiled, and guess what! I’m the YOUNGEST. YEAH. I don’t get spoiled or get knew things, it’s hand me downs, I do all the chores I can, and get yelled at the most. My siblings blame me for things I don’t do, and that’s just part of being a youngest.

[nothingsreallynew]

Im the youngest sibling and i always get stereotyped on how oh i get everything but no im alone. My siblings leave me out it feels like they hate me tbh cause they dont understand it hurts us and makes a change to our livex.

[RoseMoon]

Sending a big hug to all my fellow youngest siblings 🫂 It's a little sad but also in a way really nice to see how similar our experiences are as the youngest and that we were never all alone in our experience despite feeling/having felt so alone in it

[yewnicorns]

As the youngest child, i was told that i was spoiled by my family. everyone always joked around about me being a "demon, " until it wasnt a joke anymore. they would give my brother more attention than they gave to me because they always thought i was up to mischief. they always called my brother humble and kind, while they called me a spoiled kid. it happened so much that i just decided to "play the part" one day. I made fun of my brother like he did with me. i talked back to people. id get all defensive. id steal my brothers stuff. thats what everyone else saw. what they didnt see at the time is when id return his stuff and apologize, when id cry over not being the same age as my brother, when my brother criticized my interests, when i felt the need to put up a wall and push everyone away because i felt like i was just a spoiled kid who had weird interests. because of that, i never figured out who i truly was. i never asked myself what i want to be, or anything like that. i feel attacked over any little thing now. when people joke around about me, i feel betrayed and i quiet down the entire time. i close myself off. all because i neved figured out who i was.

[lxns_metanoia]

I once heard "kids act up because they need their parents' attention"

Which makes sense because parents have given most of their efforts and attention to the older siblings. They were more careful, scrutinizing of their parental skills, they want to do everything right, etc. All while balancing their personal lives/problems as an individual- I understand how it can get exhausting.

By the time we come around, they're kind of over it, they have separate expectations from their kids, but *in their minds* they're treating all their children the same lol.

So then, the youngest grow up not realizing the dynamic is different, because they only know what they see and how they're treated. Deep down, we may notice we don't see the same attentiveness as our siblings got.

[bigskibidiohiorizz]

All these comments for the youngest are so true. This is so hard when I just say one thing about my sisters they say i’m spoiled, and i’m a brat, and i get all the attention. I hate the feeling of this and my sisters never understand how hard it really does hurt. I feel you all

[yuichiro]

I think the hardest part for me is seeing your older siblings slowly moving out. I grew up with 3 siblings and them moving out really hits deep if that makes sense. Walking past their empty rooms and sitting in your room alone does get lonely .

[AndrewWYT]

your line about stereotypes we tell ourselves was so fire.. im an oldest child and helped me step back and think about what my siblings might be going through.. great video man

[AvaBlack-mt]

As a oldest child in a big family, all these personal experiences in the comments this video made me think more of how I treat the youngest child of my family. I’ve always been more focused on parenting and things going on in my life instead of thinking how it could affect my siblings. Thanks for this video! <3

[Unforgivably_yours]

Thank you… my older brothers are 2 years apart but I am 8-6 years apart from them I recently found out from a private convo I heard that one of my brothers ignores me on propose. And all these years I was waiting for him to talk to me have a friendship like him and my other brother had when I left my childhood and grew up faster because BOTH of my brothers I felt like I had to “grow up” for them to love me this started when I was 8. Then they moved out and it made me lonelier because even though we didn’t have a relationship I had a peace of mind that they were there.. and it lead me to push them away because i found myself holding grudges against them from childhood experiences of them pushing them away so I resented them and leaned towards being more independent because I wouldn’t wanna hurt myself letting someone in and not knowing if they will hang out with me for 5 minutes or they wanna be my sibling. Leading to trust issues. And apart of me pushing them away was proving to them that I I didn’t need them and trying to show that I am not the annoying little sibling anymore. Plus being the youngest sibling finding yourself getting awards were SHAMEDDD because somehow everything I did it was so much easier for me to get. I would force myself to be alone even though I wanted to talk to someone about my struggles but I had too because if I wasent silent, they wouldn’t hear me. If that makes sense. I had to prove to them that I don’t need you, if you don’t wanna be bothered by me then don’t. After I started distracting myself and moving away I realized I could go 3-5 weeks without a “Hello” from them which would make me mentally battle myself because I wanted my silence to be heard because words don’t work which led me to rebelling a Lot so silence if my way of yelling at people. I’ve always felt ignored by my siblings they didn’t wanna talk, play with me or just be around me but they were there for each other which I hated and held against them and ignoring them is probably weirdly the thing I’m most pasionage about because if I prove them wrong I feel like I would get satisfaction proving I can grow up just like you. I threw away my toys I started mirroring teen personalities on the internet so they would like me and I found myself in my teen years looking back seeing how I threw my childhood for them because that’s how much I wanted to have a relationship, to prove them wrong. Nobody talks about this enough and I would sit in my bed in cry because you can’t trust friends. But even though I held grudges, resented them, pushed them away they were still my brothers and I needed them. And hearing them say they ignored me on PORPOSE woke me. Because even before they said that I would always want their attention that I never got which led me to needing words of validation from friends, relationships, any form of relationship. Then when my silence was not loud enough I rebelled so all the attention was on me like a cry for help that I WANTED them to notice. Because I was never like that till I noticed a pattern in how my siblings treat me. And being the youngest left me with a weird obsession and fear of death because my mom had me at 38 while my siblings were born way earlier. I would constantly think mainly in my teen teen years that when I have kids will they be around. And just thinking about it that’s why I always needed noise like the tv in the background because death was all I could think about.Being the youngest isn’t as easy as people make it seem

[jdx]

Im youngest of four and at 21 I still remain the "child" of our family. Especially the eldest forgets i grow up just like he does. He doesnt know how to interact/have serious conversations with me, because he expects me not to comprehend. To him i will always be defined by my childlike charactertraits like "enthousiast". I brought this up with my dad and even he admits that it will most likely take for me to become a parent for this to change. This and the fact they're all strongminded people and are relatively succesful leaves me still feeling like a child and incapable to this day.

[ChloeEditzChloe]

There is pros and cons in each sibiling order us youngest aren't always the favorite in my family im ignored and seen as a disappointment since my sister is " the smart one of the family " and my brother " the handsome and talent one of the family" and while I have all of the above they see me as the disappointment and " spoiled brat " as my sibilings say, I love them a'lot and want only the best for them but my sister said to my brother " I dont know she could be have the most fucking annoying personality" when I was only 11, and when ever I try to fake my personality since everyone hates it I'm called " cop cat " and comments like " she's so cringey trying to act like ____ " so yeah and also to add more to the batch im always told to shut up I'm also seen as a little kid when Im in my mid teen years im 14-16 so yeah no our life isn't just butterflies and happiness. My family constantly blame me for everything bad that happens in the family, even if I wasnt even there so basicly im like the scapegoat, but you know lately I've gotten used to it and just tried to ignore it.

[janemeier]

I think the worst part of being the youngest sibling is, that we are being held back. At least in my experience (youngest of 5) i was always kept back by my parents. In their eyes (or at least my mother thought that) I was the child, who should have stayed the longest. I was their "baby".. I struggled really long with growing up, because I was told, that I shouldn't. I was told, and in fact internalized, that I am supposed to stay young and dependent. And all the people on the internet told me, that I had it easy, because my parents didn't expect me to grow up and be responsible at a young age (something oldest siblings struggle with apparently). Or that I was always allowed everything, because my parents treat me best.. Its hard.

[StrawberryShortcake_]

As the youngest child, my parents are so strict w/ me bc im "spoiled". If anything i am neglected and depressed bc of it.

[GeckoTech_Engineer]

And if we are spoiled by are parents (which WILL fuck up a child’s personality) it gets blamed and pitted against us as if we did it