The Narcissist Playbook

If you are in the market to sabotage your relationship, look no further, because I have developed the perfect formula to destroy all the trust and intimacy in a relationship. Through habits like self-centeredness, control, manipulation, power, you will have all the tools you need to show your partner you are NOT a safe place for them to be vulnerable or honest with you.

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[christelleny]

A relationship with someone who has no empathy, self-awareness, accountability or willingness to grow is NOT a relationship.

[querida]

I have learned something new. " Discussions are better than arguments because an argument is to find out who is right. A discussion is to find what is right."

[malkulaas]

People are often afraid of a narcissist but what keeps me more afraid is a "smal narcissist" - somone who has just enough empathy by keeping you in the relationship but being an a*h* enough to make the relationship worse.

You never know if its right to break up or not because you are just in the middel and if you want to break up your partner will do everything for you or convince you that you can't live without him.

[Honey-zdel]

I tried to open his eyes to the possibility that he may be doing the "defend, dismiss & invalidate" instead of approaching our problems together. He is now calling me hostile. Thank you for helping me know what my gut has been telling me: It is time to let him go.❤

[nirobytobias]

As a man, this touches me…I experienced this and became a shell of myself and she suggested therapy, did therapy and she quit…suggested taking a break then when I wanted to, didn’t want to…suggested breaking up then when I agreed to, wanted me back then blocked me and cussed me out. Wanted the therapist to hold me accountable but when the therapist agreed with me on things, stated I was lying and manipulating the therapist. When I expressed my thoughts, said it was my fault that I was getting that energy

[realigninglife]

You literally just described two decades of my marriage, except we both didn't know it. I had a healing crisis before he did, but a year later he went into therapy too, and here we are 4 years later. Still learning how to be healthy with each other.

To everyone out there I just want to say -- it's worth it -- if you have two people willing to look at themselves, be honest about their flaws, and learn new patterns. It's work, but it also changed my life.

[nickus]

That was brilliant! I wish I had all this information awhile ago so I could avoid getting involved in narcissistic relationship. Who discards someone all of a sudden for someone else with the words "Look in the mirror, how you think you had a chance?" It emotionally destroyed me to the point I needed 2 years of therapy to rebuild myself.

[alissatibcalev]

Neglected as a child and was emotional bin from family growing up. First relationship I had was with Narcissist and the second was with the avoidant. 😂 Now I love being alone (and with my son 🎉). Still trying to love myself and learning to love myself and reassuring myself that I'm good enough even if I'm not perfect. Cheers to everyone who's on the same journey! 🎉 😄 I'm happy now and you can be happy too! ❤❤

[amandajames]

This post needs some kind of award!
I love this approach- going to save it and hope I can get the narcissist in my life to watch it one day. Thanks Jimmy.

[daynenes]

Boy, all this happened to me the last couple of weeks. Was told it was my fault he didn't buy a christmas gift. However, I didn't even get a Merry Christmas!! 30 years married, and this is what our life has come to. My heart is heavy, and so many decisions are waiting for me. 😢😢😢

[tabithamartin]

Calling a narcissist, a narcissist, is a huge trigger and guarantees to start a fight. I wish I could send this to him. We tried therapy, but he lied to the therapist to spin a narrative in individual therapy.

[Jroses]

Love how you present this information. 😂 It helps me find humor in the insanity. I am happy to say I am a survivor. I see these people as they truly are and leave them there. ❤

[laurencastillo]

Ah...the Narcissist..this is how they work:
They make you feel insane, all the while punching you in the face then wiping your tears away at the same time. If you react to the punching with anger, or boundaries, they will immediately turn the shift back to them. Then make you feel wrong for reacting to their abuse.
Rinse and repeat.
The cycle stops when you have had enough. You DONT DESERVE THEIR ABUSE. You deserve respect.
Rinse and repeat!!!

[aaronschneider]

Reading about all the hurt in the comments, but also feeling the hope from those talking about surving and healing. Jimmy bringing important awareness to many... even someone thats in couples therapy already. Thanks Jimmy for thr clear and easy to understand content.

[r..avneetmann]

Thanku for being there for me when I was at the Rock bottom of my life

[Smileits]

I left by doing everything he did to me for one week. He went absolutely off the edge and had a mental breakdown. He literally could not handle it. So if the person is physically abusive dont do it but if you cant physically leave..this will have him packing your things for you and him crying and reaching out to other woman.

[franiscoflores]

I have been afraid to implement the boundary of walking away when my husband raises his voice because once he gets the point that I will stop the conversation then he would definitely use that to his advantage because he never wants to talk in the first place

[annakey]

Ohhhh those quotes. I heard them all. And i took them seriously and tried to figure out how to do better.

[gatrostfamilyvideos]

You're 100% spot on as usual. I really have a lot of growth to do. I personally struggled my last 3 relationships being faithful, lying about me cheating when I was confronted, and having a hard time with certain boundaries. I've started Therapy up to work on myself and your videos inspire me to be a better person I'm really thankful for you.

[michellemay]

Thank you for this post Jimmy Knowles. Excellent description that covers how they destroy.