HOW I KNEW I WAS GAY

Hello! I get tons of questions about how I knew that I was gay/how to figure out if you're gay so I thought I'd make a video about it! I'm a bit all over the place, but hopefully you can still get something out of it. If you have any other questions or video requests, please let me know! Thanks for watching!

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[andie-castillo]

“what if i’m just straight and going crazy?” i felt that so deeply 😭 fortunately i’m not though 😌

[leopeo]

Currently identify as bi, but half the time I have that “what if I’m faking it “ feeling, but then I see girls

[ellahunter]

When I came out I got a lot of people at school calling me names and stuff saying I was only 16 and I was too young to know but now I am 20 and engaged to a girl:)

[aliciagarcia]

every girl who struggle with this should read about compulsory heterosexuality. There's a doc called "am i a lesbian?" which talks about it and it's great, it made me realize i was gay and cleared all my doubts about if i was attracted to men or not.

[sarahsloan]

I think we all go through that _"do I want to BE her, or do I want to BE WITH her"_ phase as we question our attraction to the same sex. I honestly don't think I totally accepted it until I watched Keira Knightley in the movie Love Actually (all doubt was removed) 😂 Oh, and I love that sweater...so pretty and looks super comfy!

[Mitchell]

I will always say love is love no matter what

[restlessroach]

i think i’m bisexual because i’m a girl and i’ve liked both boys and girls but it’s been a while since i felt any attraction to anyone at all so i’m starting to think if IM going crazy ahahaha or maybe it’s just that no one’s my type rn

[katesalvidge]

I made the mistake of going into denial mode and over compensating. I kind of suspected during my teens when my first sexual daydreams always revolved around elaborate super heroine situations, being rescued, or them falling under a love spell or potion, or being kidnapped etc. Although not 100 percent gay, I now accept I'm probably around the 90 percent mark, and made the huge mistake of ignoring what I felt and entered a doomed ten year marriage which I only escaped from last year. Not only do I feel I wasted my 20s, it wasn't fair on my ex husband. If you know you're gay, don't suppress it, because trust me it doesn't go away.

[racheldion]

I’m still confused, I just don’t know if I’m bi, or straight but think I’m bi, but I’ve had girl crushes before but I thought maybe it was a one time thing but I got butterflies over her ugshsjwjdjsj *confusion*

[livcaitlyn]

I struggled with my sexual orientation for over 4 years. I don't wish that on anyone at all, it was living hell also considering I have an anxiety disorder. I would worry every day 'am I gay?' or 'am I attracted to her?'. I struggled with a lot of internalized homophobia which im sure a lot of others can relate too. I still doubt myself, but its completely normal! I just got so sick of societal gender and sexuality norms that one day I was completely like, screw it. I like who I like and that is okay! coming to the conclusion that I liked girls was really really hard for me, but it felt like such a relief from all the years of constant stress and worry.

[callmeariii]

“What if I’m straight but I’m just going crazy” I love that 😂😂 but this video was very very helpful so thank you! 💙 your videos are amazing !

[laurenhills]

I’m not even joking when I tell you that it took me watching Blue is the warmest color to realize that I wasn’t straight, and then I’ve just been spiraling from that point. There needs to be more lgbtq+ representations in our media & Hollywood imo.

[littlewolfgraphics]

I got alot of hate at school when I came out I put up with it for ages until I realised that it doesn't matter what others think if I'm happy that's all that matters

[sophiemcgarry]

This helped so much, I thought I was just going crazy and I thought that I was "trying" to like girls for attention. I have been thinking about it for about 6 months now and by watching your video it helped me realise that it is normal to think these things. Thank you for the video, really helped 😁

[johnwalker]

About the whole "thinking someone is attractive vs being attractive to that person, " I may try to explain this with a cake analogy (though it doesn't necessarily have to be cake). I could see a very well-made looking and well-decorated red velvet cake and think "Oh wow, someone who enjoys or prefers red velvet cake would probably really enjoy this." Meanwhile, that doesn't mean I will necessarily enjoy that same cake myself as I happen to be someone who doesn't care for red velvet cake in my own personal taste, and much prefers chocolate cake instead.

[lodettes]

you help so many people with your videos. your videos are the something i always come back to when i want to feel comfortable being myself. thank you for making videos!

[beneanathany]

Thank you for this video, I'm in this stage of trying to reflect on my sexuality and what that even means. I really appreciate all your advice and insight into how you figured out yours, especially about how you said who you daydreamed about and who you thought you'd enjoy being with more. The only thing with that is I never know if my internalised homophobia is stopping me from ever imagining myself with a girl, but maybe I'm just overthinking it and stressing myself out haha. Also thank you for the reminder at the end that it's okay to be confused and that we don't have to label ourselves or be certain of it.

[souliewrld]

I think I’m gay but I don’t know... I’ve never liked any guys in my whole life and I’ve liked a bunch of girls... but like.. do I really like them or do I think I like them? It’s so confusing D:<

[maggiedelnoce]

I am so frustrated because for the longest time I considered myself just a really emotional ally and that I was allowed to "look" at the LGBTQIA+ community, but not "touch" and now I'm coming to terms with the fact that I'm gay and I'm so happy to hear that I'm not the only one who has a ton of doubts and "what ifs" and feel like I'm faking it. I'm not. I've had multiple relationships with men and I've always broken things off before they got sexual because I couldn't do it, but I never opened my mind to the high likelihood that I'm gay because I always justified Heterosexuality. I'm still very confused and figuring myself out, but I'm in therapy and I'm getting there

[camilledi]

Thank you so much for this video, for many months I have been struggling with my sexuality. I'm still unsure but I won't label it as all that matters is that whoever I end up dating as long as I am happy & they treat me right then that is what matters. Whether if it is with a girl or a boy as long as I am happy that is what is important to me at the moment. Thank you for this & I will refer to this to help me guide me if I'm ever confused & send this to anyone who may be confused and needs advice xx