The power of AUTHENTICITY (the word of the year)

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[unsolicitedadvice]

If you don't fit in, it's because you stand out, and that makes you OUTSTANDING.

[cb]

I suspect now that narcs know about the word, they will boast about being "the most authentic person in the world"😂

[surajswatej]

They fool people by doing nice things from time to time. But its just to look good and they're not authentic and our authenticity scares them

[allisonnovak]

Narcissists are intimidated by, and jealous of authenticity. It’s an intangible force they don’t understand and can’t mimic.

[aynilaa]

I grew up with narcissists and even as a child, I didn't want to be like them. Everything was fake and superficial to get their needs met. I was yearning for authenticity, so I became that person.

[youngblood]

A narcissist will hug you in public and then slap you in private.

[perseph]

My mom and grandmother (oddly enough, my dad's mom) were the most authentic people I've ever known. They saw and encouraged me. But they didn't know we were swimming in a sea of narcissism, both within the family and out in the world. Mom just taught me to accept that most people aren't capable of perspectival thinking, so it was up to us to bring them along. She saw how women had to fashion themselves in the world so as not to displease the men and knew our expectations had to be different. She gave me permission to explore them. Without her authenticity and trust in mine, I would never have survived the abuse I've received from the narcs.

[kklock]

I sat in divorce court with my narcissistic ex just last Friday. She lied under oath about so many things - even things that she didn't need to lie about. It was obvious that she was lying, and she came across as mean and nasty, because she is. I was honest and calm. I guess maybe we were both being our authentic selves. For me, it felt good.

[Play-All-The-Games]

I began exploring what it meant to be authentic to myself over the past 3 years or so. And boy did my narc hate it. She called me selfish, entitled, lazy, and so many other disparaging descriptors that (at the time) I took to heart. But the truth was always that I deserved to be myself, and I deserved someone who saw me for myself and respected it, not privately hoping that I would turn out some per-convieved way that they had planned.

[kmoon]

ME: I was BORN... with deep wiring of authenticity... It is precisely how i SURVIVED the abuse/gaslighting of Narcissism and Scapegoating in my family dynamic from birth. I survived.. because OF ... my authenticity... I thank god for being lucky enough to be born with this quality.. and yes, I lose people... all the time.... I am 73. I have learned to live with my authenticity... and be grateful and in peace with it.

[sharonfuszard]

Being authentic can also be dangerous, depending on the type of narcissist you are dealing with. Your authenticity will, like everything else that makes you who you are, be weaponized by the narcissist. This is why it is imperative to be discerning as to whom you allow 'on board your ship.'

[carolesirianni]

My oldest sibling is a narcissist and I am the exact opposite as the youngest sibling being described by everyone as authentic. The narcissist tactics no longer work on me. Went no contact and set boundaries giving 10:41 me back my peace

[empath]

Narcissists target empaths... they know we are good people who give others the benefit of the doubt. They take advantage.

[moniquejackson]

So Brilliant. Use the word correctly and not to enable Narcissistic behavior. "Social Media and Narcissistic relationships are where authenticity go to die."

[TheBlondiekitten]

This is wonderful. Thank you. I was authentic about being hurt when my narcissistic mother betrayed me. Two years ago she gaslit me, insulted me, told me there was something wrong with me. Today, she tried to get back in touch for Christmas with passive aggression and I held her to account for the betrayal again, I told her I don’t like being betrayed. She tried to rewrite events, she told me I was wrong, she told me she didn’t betray me she was proud of me, I kept going with the betrayal and the things she said…. In the end what did she say…. “I’m sorry you feel that way”….then…. “I think you think I’ve hurt you too much”. I ended the conversation with the statement “you have hurt me too much”.
My heart was racing but I did it. 🥰go me 🥰

[PhD]

This was very useful to me. I think of myself as authentic and I think I am in some ways but I often don't express myself for fear of being disliked. Telling me people disliked me was one of the ways my mother controlled me from an early age and when someone did indicate they liked me I didn't try to pursue a friendship because I couldn't believe anyone could truly like me. I'm going to work on this. Thank you.

[terencehennegan]

The more authentic you are the easier it is to spot inauthenticity in others.

[nicholes]

It feels as though integrity is poison to a narcissist. I think it bores them and annoys them, in equal measure! 😂

[anttipatomo]

We need opposition to recognize authenticity from fake, healthy from toxic, good from evil, truth from lies, etc. That is the way we grow. It's a painful path, but it leads to knowledge and eventually to wisdom.

[Dethian]

I'm tired of the Narcissistic pillaging and abuse authenticity