Goodbye, online dating.

Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction
01:33 - Sponsor
03:33 - I The Manipulation
05:23 - II. The Addiction
07:05 - III. The Intention
09:07 - III. The Self-Image
10:16 - V. The Anonymity
12:00 - VII. The Human Element
13:18 - VIII. The Good

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[andrews.]

I am in my 50's and lost my dear Partner 3 years ago. I realized the 24 years i spent with her cannot be duplicated ( i think i was already in Heaven).
She always reminded me to "enjoy every moment in life"; she and i did - i enjoy your videos and newsletters; please continue doing them you have a special talent.

[Chrisratata]

I've never liked the checklist nature of it. There's no substitute for reacting to the organic spark of unexpectedly meeting someone in person, hitting it off with them, and going with the flow. Body/eye language when we're in each other's presence says so much more than a profile *ever* could - there's energy there and that's the fuel that keeps the connection moving. A well-chosen pic might be hot but it says little to nothing about how you and I vibe.

"Well yeah, that's the whole point of contacting/meeting up with them - to see if you do vibe." ...Okay sure of course but I have to be compelled to meet up with them in the first place, and that's almost certainly not going to happen at a distance so I have nearly zero motivation to go after her in such an inorganic environment.

[salmanisrar]

I think meeting people by cultivating your interests in a social setting or purusing social hobbies is the best way to meet possibly compatible partners/friends!

[AhmetKaan]

*5 things to quit for all people:*

*1. Caring about what others thing*
*2. Not believing in yourself*
*3. Not prioritizing your health*
*4. Wasting your precious time*
*5. Chasing meaningless relationships*

[brechtgeers]

You can chat and really have a good connection online for months, and yet when you meet them in person they're not even close to what you thought.

[peterjuff]

To me, someone who is shy and not very confident online dating is a necessary evil. It's great when it works, but it seems to work less and less the older you get. Being in a good relationship is wonderful, but being off dating apps and getting away from the game is equally wonderful.

[taylorjackson]

It’s so hard to find people nowadays. Which is why online dating becomes the best option. But a relationship I feel has to start with in friendship stage and not rushed in to the partnership stage. But it’s so hard to find that.

[BrownieEXE]

i never used those apps. I find that old fashioned way is a lot more charming. Kudos to those who found your special someone online though

[ethancohen]

After a year long on/off relationship with these apps, I finally just put them down. I’d much rather feel lonely than feel the multitude of other things that dating apps made me feel. You can only hope the Universe favors you, but in the end you just leave it to the wind.

[DemetriPanici]

*"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius*

[Capybaragee]

This is super convenient because I recently gave up on online dating and decided to ask my crush out on a date directly. She said yes!

[DeerghKataria]

I am 19 years old and I have never dated anyone. But, for some reason society often makes it seems that not dating means you're a loser (or at the very least not cool). But, I can honestly say that I have never met someone who indulges in online dating and is happy. Everyone regrets that and still makes it seem as if it is cool! So, what's the meaning of dating like that anyway?

[BrotherTree]

I prefer first time meetings face-to-face rather than online meetings, whether dating or friendships. Far more genuine because it forces you to be on the spot with your true character as soon as possible when in person because it's unexpected to meet someone that catches your interest in person. For romantic interests, I find it far more "hotter" too because of the mystery of first knowing the person face-to-face.

[uprise.]

That’s why I don’t do online dating. It’s all about hookups and I’m the type of person who seek for emotional and supportive relationship

[RealJamieBarclay]

What a wonderful exploration of the topic. As someone who used to go on online dating sites all the time, I can tell you I was only there to temporarily rid myself of loneliness and poor self-esteem. In order to find the real shit, you gotta get outside.

[sorchx]

27 and never used any dating app or tinder. All my long relationships were from my travels or old friends. Now I'm at a different stage in my life I do worry about how I'll meet someone. But I've decided that it will be organically for me, somehow. I still have hope. I really don't want to be swiping people and judging from a one page profile.

[nathanjohnson]

Online dating, especially ones like tinder, are extremely toxic. There's nothing quite like getting rejected without even being present.

[Bazonkaz]

It's a mcdonalized take on relationships, giving you consistent mediocre experiences. It's incredibly rare to find quality but then again why are you going to mcdonalds for quality, you know what I mean? I stopped using online dating and I've felt so much more relived.

[AhmetKaan]

*You can't always wait for the perfect time. Sometimes you have to dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been...*

[ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

Interesting topic. I've been married for over 30 years and never had to date online (it didn't exist back then). I can see where it can be tough because of the "ghosting." Also, I used to live near Baltimore, Maryland (Gaithersburg, Maryland to be exact) and I'm vegan so I enjoyed your intro! Thanks again, Lana, for the awesome video as usual! Stay healthy!