Cognitive Dissonance: The Conflict Within

Cognitive dissonance is a psychological phenomenon that occurs when individuals hold conflicting beliefs, attitudes, or behaviours, leading to feelings of discomfort and internal conflict.
First proposed by Leon Festinger in 1957, cognitive dissonance theory has since become a significant aspect of social psychology, shedding light on how people cope with inconsistencies in their thoughts and actions.

Victims of abusive relationships often experience cognitive dissonance due to the conflicting beliefs and emotions they encounter within the context of the abusive dynamic.

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[demigaines]

Thank You So Very Much For Sharing
This I Have Been In A Long Term Relationship With An Overt Malignant Narcissist
He Horrifically Abused Me Emotionally And Verbally.
I’m Experiencing Cognitive Dissonance As A Result Of Being Constantly Abused.
I’m Also Trauma Bonded I’m Struggling To Simply Disconnect.Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal

[joshsmith]

I think hearing about these things and knowing they have been recognized by others and no your not just imagining all of this is very helpful.

[slavetruthfreedom]

A very important topic for people trying to better themselves especially in the information age where your beliefs are challenged constantly and yet you must be able to keep yourself together(sane).

[imnoel]

Thank you Darren. This is the first video I've seen focused on cognitive dissonance, and it has given me a better understanding of the trauma bond.

[mores]

This is what I've been trying to name-thank you for this. Over the years, I reduced myself and my life, isolated, abandoned hobbies, friends. Why I wondered? I think to reduce CD. Eliminated all sources of enjoyment so that being with him wouldn't be so strikingly different.

[dr.chaithanyasrinivasan]

Thank you so much for doing this video. Much awaited one.

[kathleenbristol]

Thankyou for this video, Darren! It was very helpful!

[poison_plays]

Thank you so much for this video, Darren. This information is so valuable. I really appreciate your making this.

[izawaniek]

Thank you for a bery informative and supportive video Darren.

[LilacSnowBun]

Wow. I would Love more information and videos about this. Thank you! ❤

[tictactoedias]

Cognitive dissonance = me 😢 getting better slowly ❤

[ginaiosef]

It was very helpful this video and very interesting to learn about, thank you again. In my view, society, the way is functioning, enables and sometimes encourages these ways of coping with one another. Looks sad for now, I really need to process it and look for the bright side. Thanks again!

[KeepQuestioning]

Hi Darren - I finally listened to this whole video, and I see how pervasive the cognitive dissonance is in a situation I am in. Not with the person I think is a narcissist, but with me and another person involved. In this case, a religious "institution" is perhaps the real narcissist. I don't feel comfortable being more specific at this time. How do I know if it's my cognitive dissonance or the other person's that is getting in the way? And is there a good way to talk with another person to "break through" their cognitive dissonance? Or for (me or) any person to break through their own?

Another idea that just occurred to me - how to become a better listener?

By the way, I love your style of presenting and hope you never get too "polished". In your live streams especially, it feels like we are all in a room having a chat which is so lovely. And yet the live streams (and other videos) are very informative at the same time. Thanks for another very helpful video!

[mzliberty]

LoL the bias .... rationalising, internalizing ...
and the self blame. .... Lo.
its all such hard work and it feels like i move at a snail's pace,
but the alternative is to stay in this .... rut, forever.

[victoriavitoroulis]

It’s from no resolution from anything w toxic person

[anne-louisegoldie]

Yes, would really appreciate advice on how to address it. When two things don't match up in a person, not knowing how to handle it can cause big quandaries for your mind.
Which behaviour is the true state of affairs, and is it even safe to ask about what's going on?
Cognitive dissonance has been my default setting a few different times in life, and I want to stop 'going along' with these charades. It's difficult when you don't have enough evidence of a pattern to know, just something isn't adding up, and by the time it's clear, actual harm may have occurred (including to other people, or to animals).
I'm afraid to say anything early on in case I'm mistaken, or there's a scene where I'm accused of being an accuser, if that makes sense. Where do you start with stopping passive cognitive dissonance? Would be so beneficial to have some tools for that. Thank you 😊xx

[agreetodisagree]

Is this like not knowing that your ideal self is not your real self?