How to handle friends who forget your birthday!

Is it really that bad that they forgot your birthday this year but made a big deal about it last year? Maybe…

[jallen]

Too many years I tolerated rude behavior like this. I turned 29 and decided to only celebrate my family member birthdays who I care about and who care about me in return. And I’ve gotten used to not having friends. I just have many acquaintances and that’s fine with me! Less stress less time shopping for someone else and more resources for me and those who are genuine in my life.

[tobehonestreal]

It's good to reciprocate selfishness sometimes. They don't remember you on your birthday you do the same on theirs.

[yuyugo]

I used to stress a lot in birthdays, making sure in sending texts and gifts to my friends, and I was disappointed when it wasn’t reciprocated.
Now I don’t tell my birthday to people I met and don’t ask theirs either (unless they ask, of course), it’s less pressure, less stress.
I think it’s important to comunicate your needs and at the same time stop forcing things and see what happens 😌

[CJ-jqlv]

If they cared they would remember period

[inmyownheadspace]

I feel like saying you "forgot" a friend's birthday is a poor excuse. You don't "forget" to clock into work or "forget" the days off you have from work or "forget" vacation days or any other thing thats important to you. I would do the same as they do. Only wish happy birthday to the people who do the same to you. I'm sure you all have been friends for a long time so how is it possible that they forget? Especially when you have social media that'll remind folks that its your birthday. At that point they are deliberately ignoring it and thats not cool.

[PenguinAquamarine]

What’s making me really sad is that we probably all searched for this video…

[backthes]

It’s lack of effort that makes me upset but yet they get treated like kings on their birthday

[MonarC]

I removed my birthday off of public view on social media years ago because it felt like i was getting empty birthday greetings. But yeah, i’m one of those who remember everyones’ birthdays, wait til the strike of midnight to greet them, and sadly the ones i consider closest to me never greet me. It sucks. I dont want to think that i brought this on myself to feel like an afterthought but it is for expecting life is perfect.

[atlantidaunderground]

it's sad when they forget or don't want to send a happy birthday message on facebook where it's obvious as hell that you have a birthday. I don't really feel like they care... it says a lot about them and how they treat you (they are being disrespectful). If you organize a party there are still some people that don't want to come...

[theeditor]

I dont mind if people forget my birthday but once they know its polite to apologise for not acknowledging it. I would do the same for others. But a friend of mine said he doesnt care that he missed my birthday and that it mattered to me. When i told him fine i'll forget his birthday next year too he said its fine. I was still upset about how he didnt care for my feelings. No one's asking for gifts or a big party. We just want acknowledgment on one day of the year.

[happywanderer]

Memory is no longer an excuse. We all gave smartphones and can get reminders.

[Pilarmaxwell]

No excuses! If you mean something to your friends or anyone they’d remember your name and birthday. Add a reminder in your phone to remind you… No excuses!!!

[MsInvincible]

Watching this on my birthday to feel better

[nr]

I baked brownies for a friend on her bd last yr and when I dropped them off she didn't even invite me in for a coffee. 15 min later I saw from my window up the street her other friend came and went inside and later they both told me how yummy my brownies were. Uh this is the last bd gift! The whole thing was creepy.

[dianabay]

I don't understand why not put a reminder in your phone calendar with an annual repetition if the memory isn't so good. No one congratulates me on my bday, even 1.5 friends I have also didn't say anything. I only received an automatic e-mail from my internet provider and sms from a dental clinic 'happy bday, dear client'. Wow, thank you very much, folks. I guess I will cherish that e-mail and sms...

[ThatoneTherian-]

I honestly can’t find one video on how to apologize to your friend for forgetting their birthday and as someone on the other side of the situation, my friend told me that we forgot about his birthday about a week ago and I honestly cannot stop thinking about it and I feel so bad and so guilty and I don’t know what to do. For some context, I have a group of 7 people and he does not talk a lot and when I asked in a group back at new years what everyone’s birthday was, he did not respond. I just feel like it’s my fault. I know I should’ve remembered, I know I should have been a good friend, I KNOW that I’m a bad person for this but… what do I do?

[clan_fraser]

Thank you for addressing this Marie. I am a very sensitive person and find it important to remember my friends’ birthdays. It has taken me a while to realise that maybe these things are not as important to others. This year one of my oldest friends forgot my birthday and didn’t say anything to me about it. To be honest I did feel hurt. A few weeks’ later she posted on Instagram wishing one of her other friends a happy birthday, so I was wondering why she didn’t remember mine but remembered this friend’s birthday. Perhaps it was just a slip of the memory, as she still contacts me in other ways and we still have a good connection.

[TheBohemianStyle]

I can relate. As I get older, I tend to forget such things. I think it is more about celebrating life daily. 🥰

[bugyorke]

i personally don’t blame people for not knowing or remembering my birthday; lately i’ve been caring less and less about my own birthday, i don’t talk about it much either and although i constantly remember very small details and dates and events, i understand that not everyone has a good memory for those kinds of things and that’s okay!

[abeerfarooqi]

I don't understand when my friend is caring and loving. I always wish her on her birthday however strange thing is she never asked when is my birthday. Never.