Autism & Society Explained: The Hate Debate

When you face obstacles from almost everyone you meet it hurts. You might even start to wonder if everyone hates you. Some autistic people worry that the neurotypical world hates autism and autistic people. Is there any truth in that fear? Are there people who hate autism? How common are they? How much influence do they have?
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[dubbyu]

I'm autistic and according to my family, they can abuse me, , gaslight me, and take advantage of me and I have to take it. If I try to defend myself or even show signs of anger, they act like I'm having a mental down.

[mikerider]

Whether on the spectrum or not, the hardest part of being abused is not to let all the anger and frustration it causes turn to hate.

[Islandswamp]

I saw on TikTok that once upon a time a study was done that looked at how much neurotypical and neurodivergent people liked each other. The study found that neurotypical people were more likely to dislike autistic people than those who were also neurotypical.

[NotAyFox]

I know this started as a joke and a parody of ASD, but I believe defining and researching "Neurotypical Spectrum Disorder", or "Condition" if we're going to be fair, would help putting this majority neuro-type on an equal footing with other neuro-types and simply a part of human neuro-diversity. And teaching about neuro-diversity in schools is 100% the thing we should aim for.

[andrewmihalyov]

Just thought of this quote while watching.
“The evil that is in the world always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence, if they lack understanding. On the whole, men are more good than bad; that, however, isn’t the real point. But they are more or less ignorant, and it is this that we call vice or virtue; the most incorrigible vice being that of an ignorance that fancies it knows everything and therefore claims for itself the right to kill. The soul of the murderer is blind; and there can be no true goodness nor true love without the utmost clear-sightedness.” -Albert Camus

[robertjohnburton]

I hurt most of the time. The times I don't is when I am absorbed by my interests. I liked your backgrounds of swirling colours.

[howardlanus]

"If only they weren't autistic they'd be better, happier people".

My sentiments through my life, even before I received my diagnosis. I was frequently bullied as a kid, and I had a hard time fitting in because everyone seemed so arbitrary and confusing. When I did receive my diagnosis, it took a long time for the truth to finally sink in. That no matter what I would always be different. I would always have to work harder to navigate this world full of confusing, arbitrary rules and that I would have to be resilient enough to withstand criticism and harsh words when I make mistakes. So sometimes I hate myself for being different, for having this diagnosis, and for being impotent to truly make a difference. I feel trapped by my diagnosis because if I do make mistakes because my autism makes me blind to certain clues, I get yelled at for making those mistakes, but if I point out my difficulties I get yelled at for making excuses.

Now is my diagnosis an excuse for poor communication and socialization? No. But must people presume that my mistakes are due to malice rather than ignorance? Should I presume that people are out to get me when they say something that is hurtful or confusing to me? I would like to think not.

On a side note, have you ever wondered what if autists had their own country? A society full of autistic people with NTs being the minority? I have and I think it would be simultaneously different from and similar to our own society. Communication and socialization would be different, but we'd still be human. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

Keep up the good work.

[adolfohernandez]

Non-autistic people: "oh, you like to focus on your work and prefer some peace and quiet, oh hell no, we cant allow that here!!!"

[andrewcollins]

Thanks for the video turning 36 this year and I learned that high functioning autism is a thing. Explains a lot of stuff. I never gave into the hate fully though it was very hard I will not lie. Life has been mostly torment and abuse from most people including my own family. One thing I finally realized that causes so many issues is that people tend to let their emotions pull them around like a bunch of balloons.

[TimelineTheSchizoid]

Biggest thing is when people think their being 'accomidating' but it just comes off as condescending because they struggle to understand that a spectrum means no 2 of us are alike.

[alanguest]

I'm reminded of a quote by the Afro-American writer James Baldwin "I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbonly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with the pain."

[MaryKDayPetrano]

This was very good. And, very true. If you ever want to see a real group of haters, taken an actually autistic journey through the United States and States court systems where all people involved in those systems are virtually 100 % neurotypical. It's a real eye-opener.

[Merdle]

A little rage helped me break out of the corporate box. No matter what they say, they are not open to innovation or workflow optimization.

[PixelaGames]

The way you describe it makes it sound like society treats us as if we’re mutant freaks or something witch is scary

[wickjezek]

I just had someone tell me I don't know any better for suggesting that an non-speaking, college educated, and passionate person couldnt be a politician.

[lindaward]

I worked with folks who were on the more severe end of the autistic spectrum and the reaction from "good people" dismayed me. Mothers would drag their children away if we, for instance, were in an aisle shopping. If we sat down to eat, the tables around us would remain empty w/o reason. Even asking me how I could bring "them" out in public. Really??? Imo, *those* people were "less than" my companions. Not knowing anything about them except what they incorrectly perceive. Some of the best & kind hearted people I've ever met were on the spectrum. It turned out that i, myself, turned out to also be neurodivergent! I didn't learn this until much later in life but it sure as back explained a lot of things.

[AutisticAwakeActivist]

The problem is that they wont listen to our needs.

[joleedavis]

Idk dude people like you have been advocating for decades and hardly anything has changed. They still do whatever they can to exclude us and hurt us. And it shouldn’t have to be up to us to prove we’re people, they should already understand that. I think you’re giving them way too much slack

[AutisticAwakeActivist]

Yes I am an adult diagnosed autistic who has worked and served but a none intellectually disabled autistic. Who has spinal disability and other health problems. The services I’m turning to persecuted me. Yet no one tries to help us . Totally agree with you😊

[BabyJuju_HijaDeNabgwana]

I am an autistic mom with 3 autistic children and my husband has ADHD and these are my only support. Had to go no contact with almost all my family because they don't believe my diagnosis. And told me that my leaving the christian church is a hy we are "cursed" with being neurodivergent. I have had to learn to love myself all over again. Thank you for this video and ur amazing channel.