A HOUR of TRYING to CLEAN my CLUTTERED home, OVERWHELMING

I'm trying to get my house back from THE WORST I have had it on YouTube. I am interrupted by life constantly so it takes me over three days to try to get it under control. I get so close to the end and am hit by a terrible rug pull...... You'll see me try to overcome adhd decision paralysis, start and stop in zones, and finally find the ability to focus and get it done. #cleaningmotivation #cleanwithme

[lynnturney]

You are doing way too much, you are going to burn yourself out! Your kids are all old enough to help you, and to clean their own rooms. I’m so sorry your husband is having serious health problems. All the more reason for your kids to start immediately helping you out. You can’t be expected to do everything by yourself. Really you husband will most likely need you to in the near future. Therefore the kids need to start helping you around the house. Assign chores to each one of them, and have them clean their own rooms.

[paulabrown]

I’m coming from a caring place here. I recommend a family meeting. Your kids are old enough to take some of the responsibility in keeping an uncluttered house. Maybe new rules about clothes shoes and putting dishes away. You could give them each aage appropriate list of chores and create a reward system for accomplishments.
Otherwise Beth it’s like you’re digging a hole in the sand that just keeps falling back in the hole. You deserve help and the kids will learn at the same time. You deserve joy! 🌷💛

[helloworld]

I have some tips for keeping the house somewhat tidy;
1. Everything should have a home and everyone should know where things belong
2. Never cook in a messy kitchen and clean as you cook
3. To help motivate the kids, make cleaning a group activity- music playing, set a timer to race against.
4. really build up the sense of ownership of the house and accomplishment when cleaning ie. This is OUR home, we are so lucky to have it. Encourage them to style the cushins/decor etc..
Hope this is helpful

[CindyArnold-et]

First time viewer. I’m noticing that with each task you successfully complete, you say “I’m lazy, that was disgusting, I should have…, etc.”. You accomplished so much…give yourself the credit you so deserve.

[Chrissyhappy]

I watch a man called Midwest magic. He is fantastic explaining things. He has autism and explains how his brain works. He explains the best way to clean. He cleans professionally too. I watch him for motivation and help. Good luck to everyone on their journey.😊

[singerjo]

One time I enlisted my daughter and husband for a 15 minute cleaning session. They could pick kitchen, bathroom or living room. We all worked for 15 minutes and it made a Hugh difference. I also used to have everyone clean during commercials of whatever show we were watching. You would be surprised at how much can be accomplished in just a few minutes at a time. And, the kids didn’t complain so much.

[michellebooker]

Please don't hate your life, you are doing a great job....

[belb]

Omg you remind me so much me. I feel exactly how you feel. I feel so burnt out. But i try not to give up. My house looks just like yours and i get no help. I am here for you. Thank you for sharing and making me feel like I'm not the only one going through.❤

[MrsJilly]

Hi 😊 Could you go around the house and just collect the trash everyday? And then go back to doing a 10min tidy in each room everyday? I genuinely come from a place of wanting to help 🫶 I’m a perfectionist and I had to overcome the high standards I would set to myself and change my mindset to, it’s good enough. My perfectionism would stop me from even beginning the task. You are doing amazing!
Try not to be so hard on yourself ♥️

[leem]

It is not as bad as it looks. It is putting garbage in can, and dishes put in sink, and clothes taken care of as you go. The problem I see is not cleaning as you go. Which is nothing but a bad habit. Do dishes as you use them. Had a family of 8 in 900 square feet. Never had that because we cleaned and picked up after ourselves from a small age on. No dish washier, no dryer. You do it as you go. When you cook wash dishes as you go. Put all dishes you eat from or drink from in empty dish washier. NO large bowls or pans, wash them in sink. Dry put a way. Children need to help, have a clean and pick up twice a day, morning, and evening. Kids can rinse dishes place in dish washier, like glasses. no drink unless you put can in trash. Assign everyone a cup and they can rinse it and reuse it during the day. Have kids put away things as they go. You'd be surprised how it doesn't get bad with good habits. Stop letting it get that way to begin with no reason for it. Grandmother had 13 kids in a small three bedroom. Everyone cleans and helps. Beds made daily; clothes taken care of. Everyone is responsible for dishes they use.

[susiesjourneytofreedom]

Thank you for this realistic video. You have got this. We are in this same transition of getting our home decluttered and children completing chores.

[terrybryson]

It is great to homeschool, but life skills are a thing to teach too. You are right that you never have them gone, to catch up. You are not lazy. You work hard. You have many animals to care for. Kids can have pet care assignments. When you finally get the kitchen clean..instead of cooking..say hey..this is a burger and fries take out night with paper plates. Give yourself breaks. If your husband burns food, then he can clean it. You need help. I just found you, but I’m worried about you. Tell the kids o food deliveries to the couch unless all bowls, etc. are brought over, rinsed, and all random paper on floor is thrown away.
They can cut apples and peppers up. They can fold a load of clothing once a day. You are a precious mom. Take care.

[erikabritton]

Hello, just watching this for the first time to get some motivation to clean and declutter my own house and I just wanted to offer some kind advice and support. Firstly, you are not just cleaning your house, you are doing three things (cleaning, organizing and decluttering) at once! Girl, no wonder you're tired anyone would be, so give yourself some grace! I agree with the other commenters about getting your family involved as much as you can but until then try setting smaller goals, for example: 1) before bed spend 10 minutes removing just the trash, nothing else, and do this every night, this is will automatically reduce your visual clutter and the emotions that come with it 2) pick a day or time and give yourself 10 minutes to declutter/organize a room or space each day, also a way to reduce visual clutter 3) use a basket system on the first floor (each person get's one) and as your organizing, put items into that persons basket so that they can be put away by that person at a later time, this gives a landing space for things on the first floor without you have to expend energy/time to put things back where they belong and 4) separate deep cleaning from regular cleaning, deep cleaning is much more time consuming when sometimes just a good wipe down is all you need. When we separate cleaning from organizing/decluttering it allows us to focus on smaller tasks and the cleaning becomes easier because we are not trying to do it all at once. I think this will help with the overwhelming feeling. Also, it's important to remember life has seasons and sometimes what we could accomplish in one season is not what we can do in the current season and that's ok. Blessing to you, you are more than enough and you will get through this.

[theothermothermoney]

I had a tidy home for a long time, and when I started getting overwhelmed with life, personal, jobs, marriage, financial, my house started to look like this all the time, I would clean it if I had the energy or was just so over it looking destroyed that I had to do something and I would turn around and it was like this again. I was in a deep depression for around 17 months; and I finally got the help I needed and taking care of my home, my job, my kids, and my marriage doesn't feel so overwhelming. My house is not always perfect now, it still gets crazy, but I don't feel like I'm drowning. A home is a blessing, but it should feel that way too. I feel your overwhelm and your stress in this video. hugs mama, you're doing what you can, but nobody can do it all alone.

[jenniferhuerta]

I don't want you to be stressed like this. I'm new to your channel and I'm going to be rooting you on for change to make your life simpler so you can enjoy the day! ❤

[shinetta]

Thank you so much for posting this content! This video came into my feed the same day I looked around at my own house and immediately felt overwhelmed and ready to give up. You’ve given me hope ❤

[lauriekapalka]

I decided to watch your video because I can no longer clean and I really miss doing it.
I guess it’s not always fun when it’s too much.
Now I remember being overwhelmed after watching you work so hard.
You did an amazing job.
Thank you for sharing

[BBG]

Let me preface by saying, you are putting in the effort to clean your home. You're doing great! My only thought is you don't finish cleaning an area completely. You get side tracked, and move to another area. You were making progress in the living room, and moved to the patio. I'm not an expert, but if you can see an area completely clean, maybe it will give you motivation to move to another room. Idk, thats my two cents.

[maryrizzo]

OMG! I’m not even half way through your video. And your thoughts are so comforting. Just plain normal. I can’t explain how you make me feel. We can’t be perfect. Keep striving.❤

[AliceLynnBeautyandMore]

Hello, I am new here. But wow, you are way too hard on yourself! You can't be expected to keep your home spotless at all times. Your children are definitely old enough to help you around the house. You should make a chore list and have them all do things around the house as well. Such as folding laundry and putting it away. Sweeping and vacuuming, loading and unloading the dishwasher. So many other things! My children did chores growing up and I rewarded them every week with an allowance. They really enjoyed the reward, they would save it up and I would take them to shop at their favorite store.
I am truly sorry to hear about your husband, it sounds like he will be needing you even more down the road, so your children should definitely be helping more around the house.
Speaking of, I heard you say the front of your house was many shoes, I would have your children go through all of the shoes, get rid of the ones they no longer wear or no longer fit into etc.... My heart really hurt listening to you! Please stop being so hard on yourself, you are only one person with way to much on your plate. It is time for your children to help out as it is their home too! God Bless You All! Much love and Prayers 🙏❤