Tackling Acephobia Within the LGBTQ+ Community

I tried to shorten it as much as I could, while also being informative as possible. Please be respectful in the comments if you disagree, or find something conflicting to what I found. There's not a lot of information regarding asexuals so I did the best I could. Hope this helps, and thank you for supporting this video!

Also I did find another article after uploading this video about asexuality no longer being a mental disorder, so I'll link that here. That's my bad, sorry guys!

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All definitions are also found on Wikipedia, not linked here, but google it and it'll be like the first thing to pop up.

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[katyaivanenko]

The one about the "not being straight doesn't make you LGBTQ+" genuinely made me laugh out loud because it's just so absurd. Like, if you're not straight, then you are part of the LGBTQ+ community. It literally doesn't make sense that we wouldn't be.

[diyagore]

Side note: acephobia is usually heavily internalized, because of the way that the media says that
a) sex and romance are the same
b) you need to have a partner to be happy, and that romantic love will save you.
Those myths are harmful to the aros, aces, and aroaces, who defy both of those myths, and that leads to internalized aphobia. I hate it.

[alltimebubble]

People always ignore or erase experiences ace people go through by brushing it off as just misogyny when asexual men experience the same things and these things happen specifically due to their asexuality. Like? I just find it ridiculous and harmful to say its just misogyny or brush it off as anything other than what it is especially when they are talking to survivors of something awful.

[kukalakana]

The reason there weren't a lot of asexuals at Stonewall is probably because until *very* recently, almost nobody in the mainstream knew we existed in the first place. I never learnt anything about asexuality at school.

[FixMeThisTime]

Note to people in LGBTQ+: Stop the gate keeping.

[puppyzpawz]

Imagine being the minority in a minority
aha..

[thetwelfth]

Acephobia is kinda like racism towards asian people, you don’t see it because it’s implicit and happens behind closed doors, it’s more a matter of being invisible and pushed aside than of getting beaten. Still hurts to be labeled as a medical disorder.

[vordjoncus]

To the point of Aces not being as oppressed, I'd like to say: not everyone in the LGBT+ get kicked out. Some people are lucky enough that when they come out, as gay or trans or anything, they are accepted just the same. This does not make them any less a part of the community, and to claim such is absolutely foolish.

[deviouslyicy]

I feel like some people create a loophole. Like you’re saying that aphobia doesn’t exist and we aren’t oppressed whilst being aphobic and oppressing us- bruh

[kbucket]

Saying that Ace don't experience hate or discrimination to the degree of someone who may be gay doesn't make sense because lots of people who are ace are homoromantic or biromantic... why would they be exempt from that?

[alltimebubble]

I feel the same way about being tired of arguing with people who arent willing to learn, it's absolutely draining

[aboycalledfish]

I came out to my mom maybe 10-ish years ago and even though I mention it almost on a weekly basis, it's almost like she forgot what being asexual means? Because she's starting to expect me to get a partner (a male partner) and I'm like, yeah maybe I shouldn't tell her that I'm aromantic as well... Did she honestly think I was gonna grow out of it? She doesn't want me to "label" myself, and despite explaining how I view labels as tools to describe experiences, she's just a black hole. The information goes in but it just immediately leaves the universe as we know it lol

I'm actually extremely grateful for my identity. I feel like it gave me the opportunity to see the world from this unique perspective and it gives me something to build a life around. Otherwise, I would likely have fallen into the same unhealthy relationship dynamics that all the other women in my family have repeated through generations. I want to show them that you can do life differently and be happy. Isn't that what everyone in the LGBT+ community wants?

[Beth-tdvj]

If I ever came out to my parents they’d say “No you’re not, you’re just trying to be special.”

[mushroom_popper]

My cousin who is lgbtq is acephobic and always tells me that "when you grow out of this phase you'll understand that sex is fun and your missing out on alot get over this phase" no matter how much I explain it he always says the same stuff

[sudoku]

Okay I know im super late. BUT THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!! I'm ace and also mixed and white passing, so hearing you talk about that argument made me feel like crying. I've always felt that I'm in-between groups.. if I'm not LGBT to people, and defintnely not straight, am I just nothing? If I'm not mixed, and definitely not full any race, than am I just also nothing? It was very hard trying to find my way through it all, and im so happy to hear people talking and critiquing these arguments that I couldn't stand up to myself.

Much love!! Keep doing what you're doing.

[coocooformycocoapuffs]

sad to see a community who wants to be accepted not being accepting ITS NOT ONE WAY YOU KNOW IF YOU WANT TO BE ACCEPTED YOU HAVE TO BE ACCEPTING 🙄

[lucymartyr]

The problem with living in the LGBTQ+ grey area is that you can’t get protection or support from either side. Asexuals can be straight, gay, or anything in between, so we end up with this twilight where nobody wants to claim us as a part of their group except other aces. However, you can’t be held accountable for either side doing dumb stuff. Grey areas are hard, but at the same time, you can watch the fools being fools with a bowl of popcorn and nobody really cares. Go get some popcorn. You’ve earned it.

[lanatherana]

As a white passing asexual Latina I’m always having to fight off both sides of racist ideas and ace phobia and I’m just so tired I swear

[TheWalkingWrinkle]

I'm an asexual lesbian, and I find it much easier to be out as gay than asexual. (just my experience, in no way is that a generalisation!). Its so disheartening.

[neonroll]

My mum keeps saying I will get a boyfriend one day, ignoring the fact I told her I'm aromantic :(