A Sexual Marketplace | Blog and Mablog

We have adopted an egalitarian paradigm, and even those conservative Christians who believe themselves to be complementarian, or even patriarchal, can still buy into some of those egalitarian assumptions. If you doubt what I say, let me apply a little epistemic pressure to the part of your brain where your internal library lady lives, the one telling me to shush and telling you not to listen.

[marybrewer]

There is no thing quite as alluring as a husband who is truly the biblical head of his household.

[suziesolar]

The humorous essay is such a lost art! This man is a master of it.

[rodmiller]

I'm so thankfull I met my wife at age 15, and was married at 17.That was 52 years ago!

[flowerpower]

Grandaughter 20 just got engaged to her boyfriend 20. They are young and have no money. His unsaved parents are pushing them to live together first. They don’t understand his strong Christian beliefs. He met Jesus in 6 th grade. Please pray for provision for their wedding. My son in law is a pastor on a pastors salary and they live paycheck to paycheck.

[shanpastaflocka]

"Because it is still October" 🔥🔥🔥☠️🏴

[jeffreycranford-dvvo]

Shockingly brilliant. Thoroughly Biblical. Life giving when applied. Unfortunately, rarely applied - even by me. What a loss. A truly inestimable loss.

[chrism.]

When Jesus washed the feet of his disciples and Peter thought to deny him, Jesus told him - unless I do so, you have no part of me. This is what stood out most to me in that story. When Jesus took the position of a servant, he was still Lord - never is Peter in a position to declare what will be done. Jesus is. And so it is to be in marriage.

[gregb]

One reason many younger men (<25) don't marry is because there are too few younger women willing to marry them. Many younger women are either focused on their careers, or are unwilling to settle down with one man, but would rather 'play the field and have fun'.

[samuelgantt]

Don’t forget the trans patriarchy! Men dominating as better “women”

[FrankleFarkle]

The biggest lie I was ever told was that there was such a thing as “having fun”. It’s not fun. It’s fruitless and it’s degrading. It took me 29 years to figure most of this out. “Having fun” has consequences. Not just physical but psychological and spiritual. It brings you nothing but pain and suffering. My 20s were filled with “fun” and coincidentally ended horribly with me consumed by alcoholism and desperation. God, however, was always there, and when I called out to Him in earnest and humility He answered me and has never left me. It took a little longer to forgive my parents, but I am called to honor my parents, and I am called to carry my cross. The grace of God has no end. I will never turn away, especially now that I know Him. He’s blessed me so deeply with his very presence, and I just implore people who have found themselves in a similar situation to turn to Him. He will save you if you are willing to be saved. End your needless suffering, turn from sin, and repent.

[shanetaylor]

This is firing me up for our church's men's night tonight! Thanks Doug for your wisdom!

[BubonicJitters]

At least someone in church leadership is willing to talk about these issues honestly. You wouldn't believe some of the responses I've gotten from pastors about why I don't want to marry.

[PittmanCustomGuitars]

I'm 30 and unmarried. A lack of mature Christian women is one reason. Quitting my job, going to trade school and starting a business would be another. Do I want to have a wife and kids? Yes, but I'm not too upset that God hasn't given them to me yet because it would have been much more difficult to do what I'm doing now if I had that added responsibility.

[RichardPortis]

Thank You for telling the truth in Satan's world of lies

[RansomedSoulPsalm-]

Thank God I’m getting married in two weeks (God willing) 🙏🏻. Prayers would be appreciated brothers

[zacharytodd]

Too many churches have adopted worldly/feminist ideology. Even the very conservative churches I grew up in discouraged young men in such a way that it hamstrung their ability to get married.

[michaelsowerby]

The end summary of marriage missed out something very important, the comprehensive surrender of the wife to the husband, leaving nothing lawful back. That's when a husband knows, he has the full commitment of his wife. A precious gift, given to none other....

[cosmictreason]

As a 34 year old man who would be very qualified on paper if i were 19, but feels like the expectations for me keep going up while the available options keep diminishing in their quality, I appreciate the support, even if only verbal encouragement, from Doug et al. Men are indeed useless without authority. I can't give it to myself. Wanting is free. The church community must come alongside and empower the single men, respecting them so that they can marry the young women

[FrankleFarkle]

It was only after I gave myself to God that I was saved and that I met my wife. From the moment I met her I knew that I was going to marry her. We both had sinful pasts, and we met inexplicably. It was a divine gift for both of us. God truly blessed us. We turned together to the Lord, and He has continuously blessed us. We’ve overcome things that I never thought possible in the darkest depths of my sin. I implore all of the young men out there to give yourself completely to God and to be unwavering in your faith. Speak to God, read the scripture, surround yourself with His word, turn from sin and be reborn in His image. His plan is divine. Stop trying to control it. Your part in this is in the decisions you make every moment of every day. God bless all of you who seek Him.

[christophersneed]

"Truly you have a dizzying intellect." Doug (7 minutes in...) "I'm just getting started!"