Three Things I Learned Raising Daughters

00:00 Intro
00:51 When I Found Out I Was Going To Be A Father
01:12 Two People I Asked For Advice
02:42 Lesson #1: Tell Your Daughter You Love Her
04:29 Lesson #2: You Have To Be Honest With Your Daughters
05:24 Lesson #3: They Have To Be Able To Be Honest With You
08:04 Bonus: Teach Your Daughters How To Shoot
08:47 The Toughest Thing You'll Realize As A Father

[ToeTag]

Nice, Nick. May I also add: Treat their mother the way you hope their husbands will one day treat them. Kids notice more than you think they do. Girls will see what a loving relationship looks like so they know what to look for in their own partners and the boys will learn how to treat their future wives.

[billspeir]

Outstanding. I made my daughter get her black belt before I let her date so no boy could take advantage of her when I wasn't there for her. I also taught her to shoot and get her license to carry. No one ever took advantage of her, and when she finally met someone who could deal with her confidence and power, they married, and next week is their 11th anniversary. I couldn't be prouder of my daughter.

[stephenmartland-buck]

That "tell your daughter..." story hits had. Respect to the guy that gave you a real answer instead of just deflecting.

[brandonacker]

"I want her to be aware of the danger, I don't want her to be afraid of it."

[TheMagpieReal]

"Tell your daughter that you love her!... because if you don't, someone that doesn't will and she'll believe him"
Maybe (one of) the most profound advice to a new father I've ever heard. And as someone who was never told by my father I was loved, I can testify to the validity of that advice.

[Munke-Rench]

I'm still currently at the hospital as my wife just delivered our second daughter. If this video isnt a God send, I'm not sure what is. Thank you very much for this, from one father of girls, to another.

[larrypresnall]

“You can be tender to her, and a danger to others.” This is worth a thousand, “self-help” books.

[elinoralp]

I met this girl once who had a life very similar to mine. She slept with a lot of guys and said that it was because she didn't grow up close to her dad. For years I wondered what differentiated me from her as I never had the urge to sleep around despite having a similar relationship with my own dad. One day, I understood that the difference was that despite all the issues I had with my dad, I always knew that he loved me and was proud of me no matter what.

[sherlynxixian]

I love the stance "I want her to be aware of the danger, not to be afraid of it.' This is where training of awareness comes in! Awesome!

[Candi_Clown]

My dad had this friend who was a predator towards me, I was 17. To this day I hold a grudge, he always told me he loved me, but when I told him I don’t feel safe around this guy who keeps insisting to take me home with him alone. My dad rubbed it off saying I don’t see things right and then my mom got involved and it took a lot of convincing and evidence of text messages to get him to tell that guy off. It shouldn’t take convincing or evidence if your daughter feels she’s in danger.

[magme]

Not only good advice to fathers towards their daughters, but good advice to husbands towards their wives. Thank you for sharing.

[saosaoldian]

As a father of two daughters 26 and 18, you nailed it. I was gone a lot in the military for 25 years but every day I told them I loved them via voice, email of cassette tape. I made time with them when I was home and I always apologized when they confronted me. They are both smart, feminine, beautiful, capable and they know how to identify the monsters, in all their forms. And I also taught them how to shoot and apply self defense. 😂Great vid man.

[courtneyawalsh]

You are the genuine embodiment of “fathers be good to your daughters”…

[ericb]

Thank you so much for sharing this. My daughter is 16 and I am scared for her every day. She came home from work and told me there was a guy asking her inappropriate things and one of her coworkers ran him off the job site and told her he has a daughter her age so he will make sure she’s safe when I can’t. I am taking that man out for dinner on Wednesday. There are so many good people in this world we need to look out for each other.

[carolynm]

My pastor had a sermon about the same thing about a father's responsibility in telling their daughter they are loved. My pastor said because if fathers don't tell their daughter they are loved by them some other man will and it will be a lie. I was 31 the first time I heard that and it resonated with me because I never had a dad. As a child and teenager and even as an adult I longed for a father. So I'm married now and my husband tells my daughter and shows my daughter how she is loved by him. I'm so grateful for a loving husband.

[MHGL]

"I asked, and he answered - honestly."
No matter what, ALWAYS be grateful when someone tells you the truth. 👍

[nw]

My wife had a garbage relationship with her father. She says I helped her learn how she should be treated. Which is great because she helped me learn how to be a man when my own dad utterly failed to. This is massive. I’ve been able to teach my wife how to love herself when she didn't know how, and how to shoot to protect herself from those monsters your mention. The fact that her dad didn't teach her, his own daughter, lights me up every time I think about it. We are living examples that marriage can be everything God intended when two people are willing to sharpen eachother and be sharpened. And though I'm not expecting kids any time soon, hand to God I feel everything you're saying. Thanks for holding up the standard. It's not without fruit.

[riaa-c]

My dad was in the navy and intelligence. As I was approaching my teenage years, dad started to teach us the essentials of having a gun, overall security and awareness. Those teachings were put to the test one night and it saved my life. My dad wasn't perfect, but he got me prepared for moments that mattered. He passed away 2019 but I remember him.

[elizabethdickson]

Well said, Nick! My father was a abusive weak man!! You are everything I would have loved to have experienced in a father. Thank You for sharing it brought tears to my eyes. Thankfully I was very fortunate to have married a wonderful man that taught me how to love and be loved

[BTL]

I'm a father of two newborn girls and have no idea what I'm doing. Thank you so much for this!